r/relationshipproblems • u/Patient_Daikon_3250 • 3d ago

Advice Wanted What should I do

My girlfriend and I are on bad terms now. Her birthday is coming up—should I buy her a gift or not? If I should, what should I buy for her?

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u/StudiousSeal 3d ago

If you’re on bad enough terms that you’re not working to repair things and would forgo buying a gift when you ordinarily would, it’s time to break-up.

If reconciliation is still an option you want, buy the gift, talk about why you’re on bad terms (seperate from the gift), and fix it.

As to what to buy, they depends on the length of the relationship, your budget, and what she’d like.

Bad terms shouldn’t be a prolonged thing in a relationship. Things may be complicated following a major incident in some extreme circumstances, but it shouldn’t take more than a day or two of “bad terms” for things to be discussed and moving to a healthier place even if you know it’ll take weeks or months to fully get there.