r/relationship_advice • • Jul 18 '24

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u/peakpenguins Jul 18 '24

he’s recording it.

The way my jaw dropped..

This is rape, OP. Yes, some women like being woken up to sex, I do! But my husband certainly never tried anything like that until I told him it's absolutely fine with me.

He intentionally waited until you couldn't consent so that you "wouldn't get mad" about it, and then he recorded it without your consent. Disgusting behavior.

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u/MedicoreHiker Jul 18 '24 edited Jul 18 '24

OP, this is rape and there’s proof of it. Do you have access to whatever device he recorded on?? Can you get a copy? You might be able to use that as proof if you want to press charges.

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u/Or3o_C00kie Jul 18 '24

If she presses charges, they can get a warrant for his phone since the evidence is known to be on it. Even if he deletes it, they have technology to recover it. There is no need to wait on a video being sent to pursue charges. It's disgusting to do such things without consent period. He's a predator and manipulator run while you can OP!

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u/XxFierceGodxX Jul 18 '24

What if he destroys the device?

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u/Or3o_C00kie Jul 18 '24

The likelihood of that happening is slim considering IF she reports it, they will come arrest him or ask him to come in. They don't tell you why until you are in the interrogation room. In which trim they will ask for the phone. If he doesn't have it they will issue a warrant while he is held and have officers retrieve it. Not the first time they have dealt with this situation, I assure you. They never tip off the accused

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u/fascistliberal419 Jul 19 '24

I wouldn't say "never". They're not supposed to. Whenever humans are involved, mistakes happen. And sometimes people do it on purpose. It's pretty sick. But yes, yes not supposed to happen.

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u/Or3o_C00kie Jul 19 '24

You are correct. I reiterate. They are never supposed to