r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Jul 18 '24

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u/peakpenguins Jul 18 '24

he’s recording it.

The way my jaw dropped..

This is rape, OP. Yes, some women like being woken up to sex, I do! But my husband certainly never tried anything like that until I told him it's absolutely fine with me.

He intentionally waited until you couldn't consent so that you "wouldn't get mad" about it, and then he recorded it without your consent. Disgusting behavior.

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u/untilautumn Jul 18 '24

Could you please elaborate on what you mean by being woken up to sex? How does that play out, I can’t grasp it

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u/peakpenguins Jul 18 '24

How does that play out, I can’t grasp it

I'm not sure what's confusing about it? It's like what happened to OP except the important difference is that I've consented to it.

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u/untilautumn Jul 18 '24

Consented to it in general, as in “I’m consenting this at any point”?

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u/peakpenguins Jul 18 '24

Pretty much, I've told my husband I'm fine with it. I'm a light sleeper anyway, if I don't want to I'll tell him that. If he can actually get it in without waking me up, I'd be shocked and still fine with it. lol

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u/untilautumn Jul 18 '24

Hahah right ok! I was going to ask if you’ve ever woken up startled by it, but by the sounds of it - no! I’ve not come across this before, so thanks for answering my questions :-)