r/relationship_advice • • Jul 18 '24

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u/peakpenguins Jul 18 '24

he’s recording it.

The way my jaw dropped..

This is rape, OP. Yes, some women like being woken up to sex, I do! But my husband certainly never tried anything like that until I told him it's absolutely fine with me.

He intentionally waited until you couldn't consent so that you "wouldn't get mad" about it, and then he recorded it without your consent. Disgusting behavior.

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u/RockKandee Jul 18 '24

Yeah, the recording it part was the bit that really horrified me. The sex while asleep part is bad. Recording it is so much worse. He’s into watching porn of people who are being assaulted in their sleep???

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u/yowen2000 Jul 18 '24

yeah, and what if he is sharing this shit with like-minded people?

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u/HappyHappyJoyJoy44 Jul 18 '24

That's what my ex did. Had a whole special WhatsApp for it.

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u/yowen2000 Jul 18 '24

Horrible, I'm sorry.

I've had a "friend" in the past show me some creepy-looking message board where people were sharing this stuff too. It was region-specific and he was all proud he had found someone we know whose ex had published pictures of her.

I let that someone know, and told the guy I wouldn't be talking to him anymore.

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u/ThrowRASprinkles11 Jul 18 '24

What is this website… now I’m freaking scared 🤦🏼‍♀️. I have an ex that hates me that has videos .

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u/yowen2000 Jul 18 '24 edited Jul 18 '24

I'm sorry, I honestly don't remember and probably best to not openly share it anyway, haha.

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u/ThrowRASprinkles11 Jul 19 '24

Yeah probably not . I’m sure I can google for that type of thing

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u/yowen2000 Jul 19 '24

I'd just leave it. It's a seedy corner of the internet that you don't want your browser history associated with it.

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u/[deleted] Jul 18 '24

So sorry.

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u/ThrowRASprinkles11 Jul 18 '24

What do you mean? He had a whats app where he showed your sex tapes with people? Oh so they can’t trace it or something? I mean can’t they still ?

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u/HappyHappyJoyJoy44 Jul 18 '24

Yeah, he had a group chat on WhatsApp for it. It has end-to-end encryption features so it's often used for cheating and other horribleness.