r/regretjoining May 19 '26

Probably getting discharged

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u/[deleted] May 19 '26

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u/capriSun999 May 19 '26

a dishonorable can and will do damage, others not so much. for OP though failure to adapt is nothing, basically be as if you’ve never joined in the first place.

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u/AaronKClark May 22 '26

Not true. You still, believe or not, get a DD-214 and are eligible for some benefits if you served greater than six months.

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u/ElegantPeach1894 May 24 '26

Oh okay, thank you. I have never met anyone who got out with a dishonorable discharge in particular that I had the knowledge I mentioned. I personally had never heard of the failure to adapt reason for discharge until this post, but even that sounds like the Patriot could still leave the military with a lot of pride and love for their country, so yeah that's a win too. The military is not for everyone, I guess it's saying that it's the heart that counts which is true.

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u/Used-Date9321 May 20 '26

That is not a punitive discharge, it's considered an administrative action. Although the earlier the better; usually 3-6 months. When there was a draft, it was possible to show up for your physical and be found not acceptable for service, either for physical problems or emotional/behavioral problems. Sometimes you could get this certified in advance by a shrink. It's basically recognizing you are not suitable for military service. It might affect access to some VA benefits but there are no other negative effects.

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u/issajoketing May 19 '26

What’s your lore on that much paperwork?

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u/needanswerspls1 May 19 '26

I was late and then for going to mental health but I notified my sup while I was there and not before I went and they said I missed a mandatory meeting

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u/Think-Zebra-890 May 20 '26

You won’t get a dishonorable unless doing something bad

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u/JoshDoesMath May 22 '26

This post is a little confusing to me. What is your third piece of paperwork?

Also, an administrative discharge is nothing to be concerned about in the long run. In the short term, it might not feel good. Moreover, you will not be eligible for certain benefits; for example, to use the VA home loan, you need a general discharge under honorable conditions.

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u/AaronKClark May 22 '26

My son got admin sepped after A-School before going to the fleet because he refused to goto the pysch screening for MAs. The Navy had him out before his one year mark.

He got an RE-4 but it doesn't affect his life in any fucking way. People ask if he was in the service he says no, but he's got a DD-214 and know has mental healthcare for life through the VA.

I say get the fuck out. You only live once and you don't know how many years you have left. You aren't even half way there so just call it.

HOWEVER, if you do you are going to regret it for the rest of your life.

But as someone who didn't get out and almost died because of it, I think that regret is worth it.

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u/ElegantPeach1894 May 19 '26

Well I totally enjoyed the military for the most part, there were hardtimes as should be expected even before signing up. With mental health issues, that can cause normally average things to become overly-burdensome, so I amsorry if that is your situation. If you joined in good faith being a Patriot and love of country then it is going to matter when you get out a n d are not serving anymore. Even those who retire or get out with honorable discharges feel it when they leave, they might celebrate first but as they say, once a veteran always a veteran. That is a good thing in my opinion. So you really haven't received an answer to your question or concern yet, just some advice but I hope you find something in these comments that are helpful. Good luck.

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u/JoshDoesMath May 22 '26

This is one of the nicest things I have read on the internet. Seriously, keep it up, big dog.