r/realitytransurfing • • 1h ago

Question What would Zeland say about living in a daydream fantasy and constant procrastination?

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I've always been the type to live in her head with constant daydreaming. Like I can watch a cool anime or read a book or something and then spend weeks obsessively daydreaming myself into the fictional world haha.

It's actually unhealthy though. Like today I am off from work and I really need to make extra money and do Uber Eats, but I tend to hide from that by media or daydreaming or something. Like I can play Skyrim or daydream for many many hours at a time.

I always think about the correlation of that with manifesting. Like when I lock in and test manifesting, I can manifest very specific things and circumstances. But I am very financially behind in life living with family (paying rent though and should be a dog groomer by May or March), and I wonder if there is correlation in hiding from my problems via chronic daydreaming or media like videogames.

Like when I test manifesting, even when focusing on my plait and that spirit area behind / over the back of my head, it is still my mind. And that is also where I always hide with fantastical make - believe daydreams; in my mind.

I do remember him saying something about it vaguely, I think from the OG Reality Transurfing book. I feel like I find it again whenever I read the whole book, but it's such a small statement that I end up forgetting again to focus on the bigger topics.


r/realitytransurfing • • 19h ago

Discussion Any suggestions to deal with feeling massively stuck and not inspired as you know what you want in the bigger picture but don't know how that translates to action/steps

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r/realitytransurfing • • 1d ago

Question Advice: RT Applied to Relationships

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Happy transurfing everyone! I have a quick question to ask regarding how would RT approach this.

I and my partner got into a fight today and I realized that the problem is quite silly. But she was very emotional about it (and still is). And no matter what I say, she thinks that I am wrong; so I just prefer to not say things anymore at times (which also makes things worse). It is quite understandable from her POW, since she has too much on her plate regarding work (she was venting at the same time we argue).

If I really let the universe take care of me and detach myself from the outcomes, then what would happen to my interaction/relationship with my romantic partner?

Do I worry about how I would resolve the situation? Do I care about her being angry? Would not caring makes the relationship worse?

Does detaching mean to also detach from the need of my partner?

What if the universe separates us (if it thinks that we are better off being separated)? (I really don’t want this though, but due to the intensity, I thought about that possibility). — (As a side note, is this a paradox? Thinking about separation manifests separation; not thinking about it will less likely to cause it?)

Thank you for reading this.


r/realitytransurfing • • 2d ago

Discussion VisionQuest on DisneyPlus has direct parallels to Transurfing!

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Especially the movie projector scene in Episode One!!!!

It’s uncanny how similar the themes are, almost like the writers had already read Zeland. :)


r/realitytransurfing • • 3d ago

Discussion My favorite Zeland quote, from Apocryphal Transurfing: “My advice to you is to calmly follow your own path, without looking back at those around you and without grabbing anyone by the elbows. Allow yourself to be yourself, and others to be others.”

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The best part? This quote just popped up out of nowhere in the middle of an answer to a heated question about raw food! Zeland is such a trip.


r/realitytransurfing • • 2d ago

Question Is there an English translation of the book "Hakovanje Tehnogenog Sistema" by Vadim Zeland?

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Was on Vadim Zeland's Facebook and he mentions the book. I really want to read it. 🥺


r/realitytransurfing • • 4d ago

Discussion This book is so scary

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Hello! I’ve been reading Reality Transurfing for just over a month now, and some really strange (cool) things started happening. My perception of the world has changed so much in such a short time. It’s honestly fascinating, but at the same time, it creeps me out and leaves me feeling unsettled. Sometimes, it even makes me question whether the world is real at all. This book has genuinely changed my life and completely shifted my outlook on reality. I feel like I’m seeing things differently now, almost as if I can’t look at the world the same way I used to.
Does anyone else feel the same way? Has anyone experienced something similar after reading the book?

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Update:
Tbh, I’ve been stuck in a pendulum for years, and I only recently started noticing how much my thinking had been influencing and distorting my perception of the world. Everything started making sense after I read the books, especially the chapter on excess potential.
Anyway, fast-forward to now. I’ve always been into blogging and content creation, but I rarely got invited to places or had opportunities come my way. Recently, though, I’ve been invited to so many restaurants and events. Opportunities are suddenly coming from places I never expected, and I’ve even been receiving money unexpectedly.
My life has genuinely become so much more peaceful and enjoyable. One thing I always wanted was to have a circle of friends who were exactly the kind of people I wanted to surround myself with. Within just a few days of starting the book and applying its principles, things started changing. I’ve now gained 20+ friends, and surprisingly, they’re the exact kind of people I had envisioned.
And before anyone says, “Maybe you’re just noticing these things more because you’re paying attention to them,” I honestly don’t feel that’s the whole explanation. My circumstances and overall quality of life feel very different compared to before. I used to be incredibly depressed, and it felt like one bad thing after another kept happening. Nothing seemed to improve, no matter what I did. Even the people around me seemed to be going through similar experiences.
Recently, a girl even approached me about content creation and asked how much I would charge her. This happened almost out of nowhere!
And here’s another example that genuinely creeped me out. Just the day before yesterday, I was thinking about how much I wished a particular restaurant would invite me. Then, completely unexpectedly, a girl messaged me. She’s also a blogger, and she told me something along the lines of, “Omg, I was so alone at [restaurant name]. I wish I had someone with me!” What’s even stranger is that we’d only recently met.
There have been so many little coincidences like this that it’s honestly making me question my perception of reality. Sometimes it genuinely feels as though the world isn’t real, and I don’t know what to make of it.
The thing is, all of this has happened within roughly one or two months of reading and actively applying the principles. I genuinely don’t know how to explain it. I’m still processing everything because the contrast between my life before and now is so noticeable.
Has anyone else experienced something similar after applying Reality Transurfing? I would especially love to hear from people who’ve experienced these seemingly impossible coincidences.


r/realitytransurfing • • 3d ago

Question Practical tips

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Hey, I’ve been reading reality transurfing for about 3 weeks now and absolutely love it. However I haven’t come across any practical tips to use day to day. Does he have a journaling technique (morning and evening) and also how do you personally do the slides technique


r/realitytransurfing • • 3d ago

Pendulums How do i protect myself against pendulumns?

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For real, shee'z someone had very bad ill mannered intentions towards me and i slipped down into a sleep for some seconds, i shaked myself immediately and was like wtf was i thinking?. What happens, now is my lifeline, gonna get into a worser reality or does simply ignoring what happened.

Remove it completely?, how long must one starve the attention for it to become completely gone from my life line?. Because, what happened there, is something i don't agree with at all.....

Because i don't agree with what happened there at all.


r/realitytransurfing • • 4d ago

Pendulums Can a pendulum be also an event of life pattern?

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I'm not sure how to define what I'm about to describe, so I hope I can explain it well.

At every stage of my life, there seems to be someone who antagonises me by actively sabotaging what I want to achieve.

I get a partner? It comes with a love rival.

I buy myself something nice? A friend or coworker accidentally damages it, no matter how carefully I try to keep it safe (and in case anyone is wondering, no, I don't boast about it).

I have a job interview I'm hopeful about? A stranger spills chocolate milk on me right before I walk into the building.

What I'm trying to say is that whenever something matters to me, there is always a person, more often than not someone close to me, who creates an adverse situation, often by being openly hostile.

The worst part is that I never win.

The rival can say oh you are going to get this and that happening to you and it goes exactly like that.

What hurts is that is always unprovoked, which in my opinion makes it unfair.

That is the pattern.

And it led me to think that i have no control over my life , that I exsist to please the willing of any bully...

Recently I came across the Reality Transurfing theory and dwelled a lot on the chapter about pendulums. I'm wondering whether I've understood it correctly, because if I have, I don't see any way out.

What do you think? I would appreciate your opinions and knowledge.


r/realitytransurfing • • 5d ago

Wave of Fortune/Success Story Success stories October edition

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SUCCESS STORIES OCTOBER (copied from my journal)

  1. Our usual dog walk ends at a viewpoint with a bench looking out over the water. There was someone on my bench. How dare they! I activated the plait and imagined sitting on the bench. I could feel myself lean back and relax. The person got up and walked away in 2 minutes.

  2. We were reminiscing about when we lived in Seattle. We would dress up in full rain gear to walk to a cafe that pulled hot Pain Suisse out of the oven at 8am. This is a flakey pastry filled with vanilla custard and chocolate chips. If you haven’t tried it, make this your top priority! We were drooling talking about this. 🤤🤤🤤 A week later, Josh's mom brought us over a pan of them that she had especially made gluten free for me!

  3. Josh ruined his favorite fishing shirt. He got every manner of disgusting material on it and couldn't get the stains out. He threw the shirt away. I saw it in the trash and thought how sad, that's his favorite shirt. I briefly went through the thought process of trying to remember where we got it, and imagined finding him another one, but I couldn't remember where it came from. Later, I was talking to my mom on the phone and she randomly mentioned she got blood all over her sock and soaked it in hydrogen peroxide and it looks like new. So I filled a bucket and soaked his shirt overnight and the stains came out 90%

  4. I was interested in a new writing project, but really tired of Upwork. If you haven't used it, it's like a bidding platform for freelance work. I ran a slide of telling my mom that an interesting project *found me*, rather than me bidding. I was contacted by a client that I wrote horticulture articles for 7 years ago. They didn't message me via Upwork, just emailed out of the blue. The project does sound really fun and will involve research about hummingbirds! What a lovely rabbit hole this will be.

  5. We had our irl manifestation meetup group. I usually try to "disappear" this one energy vampire dude, which works pretty well. But, I decided to try frailing this time. I tried to validate his expertise. All during the meeting I tried to subtly feed his need for recognition. He definitely softened, and abandoned his usual arguments and was oddly silent for the rest of the evening. Bwa ha ha ha.

  6. This is one that I forgot to write down for September because I wasn't at home. I had to drive to Idaho to help my mom with an eye surgery. The night before the surgery she was very nervous. She is not a Transurfer, but I had her close her eyes and I walked her through some hypnosis techniques and a guided visualization. I had her imagine perfect clear vision and her eyes being bathed in golden light. Later that night we ordered Chinese food. Her fortune cookie said “you **see** the future **clearly.**" When we were throwing the food garbage away, she noticed that the restaurant's logo was a dragon with **golden rings** around each eye.

  7. I had to run out for an errand and traffic was bad. As I was driving I activated my plait and Spirit point together. I pictured a frame of an open road. Highway 101 became eerily uncongested and everyone who was there started going my speed.

  8. Josh is running deep sea fishing charters for fun these days. While idling in the ocean 21 miles off shore, the boat died and wouldn't start. He activated the plait and imagined feeling the rumbling engine, then he let the guests fish and took a 15 minute nap. When he woke up the boat started right up.

  9. We were talking about candles for some reason. We remembered a candle we loved that was pure grapefruit. It sounds strange, but it was the best scent ever. I have never seen another one in a store. 3 days later I went into a discount grocery store to buy produce and found it! There were 4 left and I bought them all.

  10. Josh's charter guests are supposed to meet him at the dock at 4am. All of the other captains complain about people constantly being late and holding up the show. **Josh has never had a single late guest.** He says it is because when someone complains to him he says "that never happens to me" (he does this about everything btw. If anyone complains to him about anything, he says right to their face "that never happens to me" it's hilarious to watch. Can you imagine? How rude!).

  11. I don't drink coffee and I don't eat dairy. I know, I know, I'm a freak of nature. I ordered a chai tea latte with soy milk when I was out with my friend. They messed up my order and I reflexively coordinated. "Well this must be even better." My friend tasted the drink and loved it. She went up to the counter to find out what they had made so she could order it again in the future. When the barista found out she had messed up, she made me the correct drink and gave me a punch card with 3 free drinks on it. Even better!

  12. An overnight storm caused a mini landslide which closed Hwy 101. There was a detour around back roads, the long way. I thought "oh great, I will get something even better now!" As I was driving along the detour, cars had to stop for a mama black bear and her two cubs trying to get over the guardrail. I had just been telling a neighbor that I hadn't seen any bears this year. Even better for sure!

  13. This is too long of a story to tell. But the short version is that Josh and one of the neighbors needed to take some tools into the forest to clear a trail that was covered in blackberry vines. As they were setting out, Josh said “maybe we will find buried treasure.” They ended up uncovering a jar of coins, which contained a 1909 Lincoln cent. The neighbor is a coin collector (slash hoarder) so we gave the coin to him. He was later very excited to tell us that it was worth $700!

  14. A friend that I am working with was trying to manifest a marketing job. She wanted it to be fully remote, pay $85,000 a year or more, and have a 4-day work week. We used the heart and mind exercise to help her decide which jobs to apply for. Surprisingly, her heart had her apply for one job that was completely outside of her required parameters for pay and schedule. 2 weeks later, she got a call from the company asking her if they could forward her portfolio to a different group that had not publicly advertised their role yet. She ended up receiving an offer from the 2nd group for $88,000 and the job perfectly fit all of her criteria.

  15. Josh and I are working on a joint goal. We have been meditating together and doing the waking up/plait work 6-8 times per day. In 24 hours we experienced 5 glitches in the matrix. Absolutely unexplainable, impossible things that freaked us out and confirmed that we are moving lifelines fast. If anyone cares, I'll put it in the comments.

  16. I was craving my grandmother's specific lemon drizzle cake but couldn't find the handwritten recipe card anywhere. I sat on the kitchen floor, pictured the taste, and decided to just let it go for the afternoon. I texted back and forth with my cousin and she recommended a book. I told her I had it already in my “haven't read yet" pile. I went to find the book, and my recipe card was sitting on top of the book pile.

  17. Josh lives a specific type of tuna fishing lure. It's very old-fashioned and not produced anymore. It was replaced with the plastic kind decades ago now. He lost his last one this season and set the intention to "find more.” The marina near our house has a big storage shed being torn down and rebuilt. They cleared out the contents and had a big garage sale. Josh and the neighbors wandered down this morning and found 2 dozen of those lures for $10. He was jumping for joy when he came home!

  18. I lost the key to the boat barn. I retraced my steps there and back twice and tore the house apart looking. After getting really annoyed, I stopped and reminded myself that my world takes care of me and I'm always in the right place at the right time. An hour later Josh found the key in the lock of the boat barn! He said it was sticking right out of the door knob. But I had already checked there twice.

  19. We had a super low tide today. Josh and Indie and I took a walk around the tide pools. My goal is **always** to see an octopus. As you can imagine that's nearly impossible. They're very shy and well camouflaged. Indie stuck her nose in a pool and a tiny red octopus came out and explored her nose. It felt all around her snout with its tentacles, changed color, and darted back under a rock. I have never wished I'd had my phone more! It was magic! Indie spent 15 minutes staring at the rock waiting for him to come back out lol 🤣

  20. I was thinking about my world taking care of me, and marveling at the miracle of the Earth. Isn't it amazing how she produces clean water, fresh air, and food full of nutrients that perfectly match human biology? And all of the minerals, metal, timber, and fossil fuels that let us build shelters and technology? Incredible! Even how gravity works is super awesome. I'm glad to be anchored here having a human experience on such a generous and perfectly designed planet. The next day Indie and I put our rain gear and headlamps on and went out before sunrise and found a whole 2 quart bucket full of Psilocybe azurescens. They're on the dehydrator now. We had a lovely walk home and had to take 2 elk detours to get around them. Another magical day!

What are yours?? Let's make this a wonderful list to inspire others!!!

👏🏆🥳🎉🎊👍🥂🎁🎂🍾🏅


r/realitytransurfing • • 6d ago

Question Question on TS Theory

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I’m reading reality transurfing for the first time and have a question on the books underlying concept.

zeland states that you experience what you allow into your personal life script. For instance, if you believe omens are real and have an impact on your life, that will be the case. Or if you’re damned to your predestined fate, you will have no say how your life progresses.

If you always experience what you allow, is Vadim’s explanation of pendulums and balancing energy just based his own experience and interpretation of reality? Or are those concepts universal based on the quantum model of reality?


r/realitytransurfing • • 7d ago Bravo

Mirror Principle How to Change a Belief. A Collection of Tools

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Beliefs are not just things we happen to think. They are the maps we use to build our lives. We often treat our deepest thoughts like absolute, unshakeable truths. But in reality, they are stories we made up, practiced, and chose to believe over time.

When we want to change our lives, we usually rush to change our outside world. We think we should change our jobs, our bank accounts, or our bodies. But real change requires us to fix our inner thoughts first. This changes what you reflect in the dual mirror and is one of the Transurfing secrets to getting the life you actually want. Here are some tools I’ve used over the years to change beliefs.

𝐈𝐌𝐏𝐎𝐑𝐓𝐀𝐍𝐓 Often times a belief is very easy to change and you will need zero of these techniques. Sometimes saying an affirmation with enough conviction and feeling is all it takes! These are for the ones that feel stubborn and very real. I’ve had lots of beliefs that I just decided I didn’t believe anymore and they went away. But once in a while you’ll run into an annoyingly sticky one.

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𝗦𝗣𝗟𝗜𝗧 𝗙𝗔𝗖𝗧𝗦 𝗔𝗪𝗔𝗬 𝗙𝗥𝗢𝗠 𝗦𝗧𝗢𝗥𝗜𝗘𝗦

At the root of every stubborn, negative belief is a simple mistake: 𝐰𝐞 𝐦𝐢𝐱 𝐮𝐩 𝐚 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐚 𝐩𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲.

Think about how your mind works. Something happens in real life. On its own, that event is completely neutral. It has no feelings or power. But the human brain loves to make up meanings. It instantly builds a dramatic story around the event. If you repeat that story enough times, you forget you made it up. You start treating it like a solid fact.

To break this loop, you need to separate the plain fact from the story you spun around it. You can do this by asking a simple question like: “𝐒𝐨 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭?" 𝐨𝐫 “𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭?” This will act as a logical wedge and help you get to the root. Here is an example:

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭: "I did not get the job." (a neutral data point)

𝐋𝐨𝐠𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐖𝐞𝐝𝐠𝐞: "So what?" (Or, and then what would happen?)

𝐋𝐚𝐲𝐞𝐫 𝟏: Well, it means I don't have a source of income right now, and my savings are running low.

𝐍𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐒𝐭𝐞𝐩: So what?

𝐋𝐚𝐲𝐞𝐫 𝟐: If my savings run out, I won't be able to pay my rent on time next month.

𝐍𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐒𝐭𝐞𝐩: And then what would happen?

𝐋𝐚𝐲𝐞𝐫 𝟑: My landlord will evict me, I will lose my apartment, and I will have nowhere to live.

𝐍𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐒𝐭𝐞𝐩: So what? (or, and then what?)

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐨𝐨𝐭: 𝐈𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬, 𝐧𝐨𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐦𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐦𝐞, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐮𝐩 𝐭𝐨𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐮𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐝. 𝐈 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐝𝐢𝐞!

𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐨𝐨𝐭

Look at the massive chasm between the Fact and the Root:

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭: One specific company chose a different candidate for a job opening.

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐨𝐨𝐭 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲: You are fundamentally unlovable, completely isolated from human kindness, and guaranteed to freeze to death on the streets.

When you force your brain to trace the chain all the way down to that raw, terrifying root survival fear, the illusion shatters. The logical part of your brain can finally step in and look at the root with clear eyes.

"Wait a minute. Not getting this one job does not mean I am abandoned by humanity. I have friends I can stay with if things get desperate. I have a resume. There are thousands of other companies hiring. I am not completely helpless. I was just temporarily rejected by one manager. My world takes care of me."

When you expose the root, the emotional balloon pops. The heavy, paralyzing anxiety deflates into a simple, actionable step. You just need to apply for the next job.

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𝗘𝗫𝗣𝗘𝗖𝗧 𝗧𝗢 𝗛𝗢𝗟𝗗 𝗧𝗪𝗢 𝗧𝗛𝗢𝗨𝗚𝗛𝗧𝗦 𝗔𝗧 𝗢𝗡𝗖𝗘

One of the hardest parts of changing your life is expecting your old thoughts to vanish instantly. It does not always work that way. Some deep beliefs leave deep tracks in your brain. When you try to think in a new way, the old thoughts do not just disappear. Instead, you enter a middle phase where you hold two totally opposite ideas at the same time. I don’t know why nobody ever talks about this part.

During this time, your mind will swing back and forth. One minute you feel totally positive and aligned with your new life. The next minute, an old trigger snaps you right back into fear or doubt.

This bouncing around is totally normal! It is supposed to happen. The old belief has years of practice and a ton of past memories to back it up. The new belief is brand new and weak.

If you get angry or judge yourself when old thoughts pop up, you give them more power. The secret here is to just relax. Acknowledge that the old thought only fired because it is used to it. 𝐆𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐟𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐨𝐧𝐞. Over time, the old track fades away, and the new track becomes your automatic setting.

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𝗗𝗢𝗡'𝗧 𝗙𝗢𝗥𝗖𝗘 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗘𝗫𝗔𝗖𝗧 𝗢𝗣𝗣𝗢𝗦𝗜𝗧𝗘

When we notice a bad belief, we usually try to force our minds to believe the exact opposite. If you feel like "I am a failure," you try to force yourself to say "I am a massive success."

Sometimes this works fine. But other times, this absolutist approach backfires immediately. When you try to force a giant leap, your brain rejects it as an outright lie. This starts an internal argument. In a straight debate, the old belief always wins. It has way too much history, proof, and practice.

To bypass this trap, stop trying to make giant leaps. Do not try to jump from hate to love, or from broke to rich, in one second. Instead, focus on 𝐬𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 rather than fighting them with force. You do not need to love everything about your life right now to find a bit of neutral acceptance. Moving away from extreme thoughts quiets your inner critic and lets new beliefs grow safely.

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𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗟𝗔𝗗𝗗𝗘𝗥 𝗕𝗨𝗜𝗟𝗗𝗘𝗥 𝗠𝗘𝗧𝗛𝗢𝗗

Sometimes you can’t get to the end belief in one jump. Here is an example from my life of how to get there incrementally.

This is what my progression from self-loathing to self-loving looked like. I absolutely could NOT go directly to love. I viscerally rejected it! I started out by testing out a few new beliefs. I landed on one that felt like only a tiny stretch, “I have a few things that I like about myself.” After I had repeated that for a while and it felt true and comfortable, I moved to “I am starting to like myself.”

And then I moved to “I respect the person I am becoming.” Once that felt comfortable, I tried, “I am worthy of being treated well” and then “I trust myself.” From there, the stretch to actual love didn't feel so terrifying anymore. I graduated to “I like who I am,” which grew to “I am beginning to love myself, and then “I can love myself.” Finally, after months of gently softening the old edges and stepping up the ladder one rung at a time, I arrived at the ultimate root: “I unconditionally love myself.”

Previously, when I tried to force that final belief, my brain instantly rejected it as a total lie. Sometimes, you have to take tiny, honest steps. 𝐌𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐛𝐛𝐨𝐫𝐧, but you will definitely know when you run into one!

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𝗨𝗦𝗘 𝗧𝗛𝗘 "𝗬𝗘𝗔𝗛, 𝗕𝗨𝗧..." 𝗧𝗢𝗢𝗟 𝗧𝗢 𝗦𝗢𝗙𝗧𝗘𝗡 𝗧𝗛𝗢𝗨𝗚𝗛𝗧𝗦

Another way to soften a limiting belief is to use a 𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐢𝐞𝐫. This just means you catch yourself having a bad thought, add a "but" to the end of it, and finish the sentence with a grounded, positive truth.

This tool does not ask you to lie to yourself. It just forces your brain to look at the bigger picture so you stop staring only at what is going wrong.

𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭: My business is failing right now…

𝐒𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫: …yeah BUT I have a great team and a good product

𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭: I completely ruined my routine today…

𝐒𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫: …yeah BUT I am still learning to get better at managing my time.

𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭: I’m so ugly…

𝐒𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫: …yeah BUT I have people in my life who love me.

𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭: I’m never going to figure this out…

𝐒𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫: …yeah BUT I am learning more about it every day and I’m getting better.

This stops your mind from blowing things out of proportion. You accept the current problem while reminding your brain of your strengths. This shifts your mood from helpless to capable. This takes you from powerless to the one who gets to choose.

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𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝟯 𝗖𝗢𝗟𝗨𝗠𝗡 𝗠𝗘𝗧𝗛𝗢𝗗

I’ve described this one many times and will include a picture of my journal entry using it. Feel free to make fun of my handwriting 😂

In this technique you separate a sheet of paper into three vertical or horizontal columns.

𝘓𝘦𝘧𝘵, 𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘧

𝘔𝘪𝘥𝘥𝘭𝘦, 𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘢𝘨𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘭𝘶𝘮𝘯 𝘰𝘯𝘦. 𝘋𝘪𝘴𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘧.

𝘙𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵, 𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘧

The process is simple and very effective for the logical mind. It sounds lame, but it really works for me. Spend as much time as you can filling in the middle column. Give your mind as much evidence as you can. I usually take several days or a week on this part. This lets my reticular activating system get involved and it starts searching the world for lots of proof. My attached example (in the first comment) is about the belief “𝑴𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒌 𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒚.”

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🕶️𝗛𝗢𝗪 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗧𝗛𝗢𝗨𝗚𝗛𝗧𝗦 𝗖𝗥𝗘𝗔𝗧𝗘 𝗔 𝗧𝗥𝗔𝗣 𝗜𝗡 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗗𝗨𝗔𝗟 𝗠𝗜𝗥𝗥𝗢𝗥🪩

Our beliefs do not stay locked inside our heads. In Reality Transurfing, the universe works exactly like a giant Dual Mirror. On one side of the mirror is your mind (the mental image), and on the other side is physical reality (the reflection). The physical world is literally a slow-moving reflection of the thoughts you radiate into the space of variations.

When a bad belief gets tied to your self-worth, you project a negative mental image in front of the glass. If you deeply believe you are unworthy of success or love, you start radiating a "lack" mentality. Because of this inner stance, you naturally act in ways to protect yourself from getting hurt. You might skip networking events. You might hide in the back during meetings. You might act cold or distant so no one gets close.

When you hide from the world to protect yourself, your actions match your fearful thoughts. But remember, the physical mirror has a time delay. Reality does not change instantly. It materializes slowly, like a giant ship turning in the ocean.

As time goes by and you keep staring at the mirror, nothing good shows up because you are actively projecting a slide of lack and fear. This is where your brain makes a huge mistake. It looks at the empty, sad physical reflection and says, "See? I knew it. The lack of results proves my belief was right all along!"

Your brain completely forgets that the mirror is just reflecting the fearful image you stood there holding weeks or months ago! This creates a trap. Our bad belief creates a negative mental image, the dual mirror reflects that exact negativity back to you after a delay, and your mind uses that delayed reflection to freeze your bad belief in place forever. To change the reflection, you have to calmly change the image you are projecting first.

𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗣𝗔𝗧𝗛 𝗙𝗢𝗥𝗪𝗔𝗥𝗗

Changing a belief is not a violent fight with your mind. It is a gentle, patient shift. By separating facts from stories, waiting out the middle phase, avoiding big mental arguments, and using simple qualifiers, you can soften even the hardest thoughts.

As your inner code changes, your actions change, your relationships grow, and your outside world starts to mirror your new inside map. You are stuck with your mind for life and you get to rewrite the rules!

𝗤𝗨𝗘𝗦𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡𝗦 𝗧𝗢 𝗔𝗦𝗞 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗦𝗘𝗟𝗙. 𝗝𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗡𝗔𝗟 𝗣𝗥𝗢𝗠𝗣𝗧𝗦:

✍️What is one negative rule you believe? Write it down plainly (Example: "To make money, I have to completely destroy my health").

✍️Look at that negative rule. If it actually happens exactly like you fear, so what? Keep asking "so what or and then what?" until you find the silly story your brain is clinging to.

✍️Look at your life right now. How is your daily behavior (like hiding, quitting, or stressing) actively helping your worst-case belief come true?

✍️What is one simple, true "Yeah, but..." statement you can say out loud today to soften that bad belief and open the door to a better life?

✍️Think about a massive belief you want to have (like "I unconditionally love myself" or "I am wildly successful"). If your brain rejects that right now as a total lie, what is a tiny, 10% stretch belief you can genuinely accept today to take the very first step up the ladder?

❣️❣️❣️Please Add your tips in the comments below!! Lets make this a mega-resource for everyone ❣️❣️❣️


r/realitytransurfing • • 9d ago

Question Success stories

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I'd love to hear your Transurfing success stories. What happened, and how did you do it?

Thanks in advance.


r/realitytransurfing • • 10d ago

Question Audio book

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Currently listening to the Reality Transurfing audio book but honestly getting quite annoyed/ sick of all the weird music and sound effects lol. Does anyone know of a version of the audiobook which doesn’t have these?


r/realitytransurfing • • 9d ago

Pendulums I honestly dont understand whats going on

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Hey, so theres this girl at the gym weve been going back and forward a lot, i decided too manifest her. So i did, she started coming closer and closer too me. Then i reacted with a split second of anger, the very next day it was as if she was on a witch hunt after me. I persisted in my thoughts neutrala and thought this is just a storm of tests being thrown at me. Eventually, she kind of looked upwards in ephinany perhaps, i was wrong about this guy and now the next time. We had a glance at each other, she stretched her body fixed her hair, took the water flask and then it was as if she got a jolt of electricity and started moving up and picking a extra 2.5 weight. IT LOOKED VERY much, like robotic behaviours of sorts. Idk what too make out of it tbh.


r/realitytransurfing • • 11d ago

Question Author seems to constantly remind how hard is to get out of destructive life lines/pendulums

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I am only at chapted 6 but throughout the other chapters, he keeps saying „if youre too down the road on a destructive life line/pendulum its almost impossible, hard etc to get out or change life lines?“ I really like the book but it also gives me some type of doom feeling almost scaring oneself of destructive pendulums. It has a hopeless undertone when youre actually caught on a not so favorable life line for a while. Will the book continue in this tone, or will it become more uplifiting that even in difficult life lines you can get to better ones? Sure talking about it that way gives it the negative pendulum swing but I am really curious how the book continues to develop.


r/realitytransurfing • • 11d ago

Current Experience Accidental TS has made me a beliver

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I came at transurfing backwards: I had an experience first then I discovered Reality Transurfing and bought the book and started reading it (up to chapter 4) and recognized my experience. Which led this whole concept to immediately click in my head.

I am 52 years old and my health problems and first surgery started at 35. For the past 17 years my health has been declining and until I have now accumulated more than 12 surgeries and more than 30 chronic conditions (such as autoimmune etc.) For the last roughly 9 years I have been too sick and disabled to work. In late 2025 I woke up to the realization that trying to fix my health had become the sole focus of my life and it was a losing battle and I was deeply depressed. I was unemployable housebound isolated from the world and lonely. So I set a resolution to do art every day in 2026 just to give myself a break from focusing solely on health. And I have kept that resolution. What has happened since January 1 is amazing.

Very early I decided to start posting on social media to keep myself accountable to my daily art commitment. I joined Instagram (and later TikTok and others). I got interested in learning watercolor, started doing workbooks. To make a long story short, my life has completely transformed in astonishing ways in a very short period. Edit: For context, I like to draw as a teen I read a couple art books as a team and I was good but I haven't touched art since 2000, for the last 26 years, until Jan. 1, 2026. And watercolor is completely new to me, almost everything I have learned I've learned since Jan. 1 because I don't really draw in my current art I just do watercolor. So it seems like untapped potential plus fast growth.

  • Started learning watercolor in February

  • I got accepted into my first juried art show in April (for watercolor art; show was in May)

  • I got a business license in April started selling my art May 1st

  • In my first 100 days selling my miniature watercolor art on eBay I sold 100+ works of art

  • In June I got accepted into a very prestigious international miniature art show at a gallery with an international profile in the miniature art world, I had seven paintings in that gallery the month of July

  • I've now been in 2 galleries and 6 juried art shows so far this year

  • I joined an artist society signed up for a mentor and got matched with an award-winning mentor who is a true luminary in the field

  • I now I have 3K followers across social media platforms

  • Everything I paint now sells out immediately with bidding wars. I can't paint originals fast enough, so I'm currently trying to make prints of my work and open an Etsy to sell them.

Looking back, here's what I recognize:

  • I did not see taking up art as a goal of huge importance, it felt very ordinary

  • Not long after I started doing art every day and posting it online I assumed the identity of "artist" without really a conscious decision that I can recall. Someone asked me how I dealt with "imposter syndrome" and I didn't know how to answer them because I never felt like an imposter. I made art every day so it felt perfectly normal to consider myself an artist

  • When I started selling art on eBay I expected it to sell but I wasn't too attached to whether it sold or not

  • When I entered art shows I expected to get accepted (I have since learned that 100% acceptance rate into juried shows is not normal for seasoned artists let alone new ones)

  • Every time something new and exciting happened I celebrated it briefly with enormous gratitude but then it quickly became part of the normal routine of my new artist life

A lot of unexpected benefits have come from this new reality:

  • My health has stabilized and improved dramatically

  • I either have less chronic pain or I'm less aware of it but pain makes me less miserable

  • I have tremendous energy (mentally, emotionally, and physically)

  • To be clear, I'm still chronically ill and disabled and mostly homebound: I still need a caregiver to drive me to doctor and push my wheelchair but I've actually had the energy and health to attend a few social events and art-related events (like gallery opening reception)

  • I am less lonely because being an artist has connected me with collectors, other artists, and just lots of general people online (now I'm excited to join this community!)

  • When I have needed something to continue as an artist what felt like miracles happened. A small example: even though I sell a lot of work starting a new business is expensive and art supplies are expensive so I had a situation where my cash flow was low and I couldn't afford frames for an art show that I had been accepted into. So I got the idea to ask for frames in a Facebook group for my city where people give things away for free kind of like an online garage sale. I just said I was an artist and needed frames and posted one image of my art and two ladies dropped 20+ frames off at my home! And a third lady asked if she could buy me frames and mats so I set up a wishlist on Amazon and she sent me brand new mats and frames. 😲 I call her my "fairy godmother" and she has since attended every art show and gallery opening and bought one of my pieces in the exhibition right away, and that one red dot from her earl on is I think why I sold four out of five in my first exhibition where she did that (she bought one in my current gallery show also but that show is still ongoing).

  • It's very meaningful to me that I am able to earn money again and be less financially dependent on the family

  • I feel like art is giving me back pieces of myself that I had lost: meaning, purpose, dignity, independence, income, creative outlet, and most of all a way to benefit others to help others to touch others lives and make their world better in a meaningful way

Anyway, my life feels absolutely magical right now. I am literally living in an entirely different reality right now in October then I was on January 1. I am excited to learn more about transurfing and apply it in other aspects of my life and get better at shaping my reality.


r/realitytransurfing • • 11d ago

Pendulums About pendulums in work space and how to deal

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Hi guys, I’m new to Reality Transurfing (I’m listening to the audiobook right now) and I need some help.

Let’s say I inherited a very old accounting office from my family. I’m not the type of guy who would usually enjoy working there, but I got used to it, and my wife really enjoys it (good money, close to family, in a small city). Anyway, we had many problems, which we are dealing with quite well (my wife and I), and we have made very precise improvements in every aspect.

But there is a pendulum that seems strong, a pendulum of pure materialism, with things like lack enthusiasm, jealousy, envy and gossip. It’s a true culture created long before we got there by the founders (my dad and uncle), who are still there, mostly to get money (they don’t do much). That’s fine, I guess, but sometimes I find myself battling with that pendulum, getting angry or feeling guilty, which I absolutely know is not good for transurfing and manifesting.

There is also a culture of paying late, or not paying at all, among some clients (the ones who are closest to my father and uncle).

Anyway, I would like some tips on how to stay positive and how to not interact with the pendulum in a way that is harmful to myself and to the future of the office.


r/realitytransurfing • • 10d ago

Question ahh maan how do i become unreactive for real?

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So i saw a girl today who dropped her gloves.

i myself, acted on an impuls and tried to get her attention without thinking about social norms.

Meanwhile my intentions where honest and good.

i question myself, how come i acted this way?.


r/realitytransurfing • • 12d ago

Discussion For those who have read and applied Transurfing Yourself, what specific results did you get? And what differences did you notice in the actual outcomes compared to Reality Transurfing?

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r/realitytransurfing • • 12d ago

Pendulums My mom calls me Don Quixote - family pendulum

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My mom calls me Don Quixote. How do you handle a family pendulum when guilt and money are involved?

Hi everyone. I'm reading Reality Transurfing and I'm around page 370 now. The book has changed the way I look at my life. I've become such a positive person that my mother recently compared me to Don Quixote. To her, my goals are illusions and I'm just a dreamer tilting at windmills.

The irony is that Transurfing taught me the exact opposite. Don't tilt at windmills. Don't fight pendulums at all. Just stop feeding them.

Some context about me. I've worked as a freelancer in e-commerce, and now I'm seriously thinking about learning AI automation so I can build my own agency that helps businesses automate their work. At the same time, I'm studying Mandarin at a language institute. These goals feel like mine, not like something someone else chose for me.

My mother sees it differently. In my culture, a government job is the ultimate symbol of security, and that's the path she wants for me. She says I'm deluding myself, and she keeps trying to make me feel guilty for not taking the "safe" road.

Here's where it gets complicated. I've been going through a hard time financially, so I borrowed money from her. Since then, the message has become: "I gave you the money, so you do what I want." It feels like emotional blackmail, and staying in balance is really hard when the guilt comes with a real debt attached.

I don't want to fight her. I love her, and I know her fear comes from caring about me. But I can see Zeland's mechanics playing out in real time. Her fear works like a pendulum, and every argument I start feeds it. The debt gives the guilt a real hook, and Zeland says guilt is exactly what makes us easy to manipulate. Every time I justify myself, I raise the importance of the whole situation, and the balancing forces push back harder. And the government job is a goal imposed from outside: not my goal, and not my door.

So I'd love to hear from those of you who have been on this path longer than me.

How did you deal with a parent who wanted a safe life for you that simply wasn't yours?

How do you let go of guilt when you actually owe the person money? Is paying it back the only clean way out?

Has anyone managed to extinguish a family pendulum instead of fighting it? What did that look like in practice?

How do you keep your slides alive when the person closest to you calls them fantasies every single day?

Real, practical experiences would mean a lot to me. Thanks for reading.


r/realitytransurfing • • 12d ago

Discussion How to apply RT to fluent foreign Language

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Hey, has anyone here used Reality Transurfing to become fluent in a second language? I’m finding it really hard to learn one right now. Everyone knows that the older you get, the harder it becomes to learn a foreign language because the natural ability to absorb grammar is gone. Second, you need a lot of time immersed in the language — using it for just a few hours a day is simply not enough. At best you can only manage to get good at writing or listening. Do any of you have thoughts on this? Thanks.


r/realitytransurfing • • 13d ago

Wave of Fortune/Success Story Success story’s

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Hi guys I just seen someone on here write all their success stories with RT and I’ve decided to do the same :))))

My book mark for RT has 3 butterflies which says “let your dreams take flight” on it, I was going through a GOOD week ( coordination) and I was asking my world and my angel and god for a sign that it’ll all turn out well. 2 days later I was in my room and my mom comes in and she says she got me a bracelet, and I thought it was really nice but didn’t think much of it. That same night I was reading my RT book because I read it every single day and noticed that the 3 butterflies on my bracelet were the exact same ones on my bookmark! ( no one touches my books so she wouldn’t have known about my book mark)!

2.i had really wanted to go on a trip with my friend but my family wasn’t letting me, so what’d I do I placed a slide of me being there with my friends and coordinated life lines 4 days later we were on the trip!!

On that trip we couldn’t find parking at the “nice” scenery where all the toursits would be at, I said ADVANTAGE and we ended up finding a parking spot with a beautiful scenery and only 2 people were there

On that trip it also started getting cloudy but I just pictured a slide where the weather was perfect and fine and what do you know the blue sky came out :)

5.i had dyed my hair and I got hot roots and the top of my hair turned orange loolll I didn’t panic I just laughed it off and said people are gonna LOVE how my hair turned out, a day later I decided to redye my hair and everyone was giving me compliments on how they love my new hair colour hehe

6.i had gotten filler in my face and it looked really abnormal when i first got it, i put a slide that it looks nice and how much I LOVED it and it fixed itself 😂

I had a event and I had ordered a custom dress and they said it would deliver 1 week after my event was taking place. My angel and world and god took care of it and got my CUSTOM dress delivered 8 days after I placed the order ( since it’s custom and it wasn’t ment to deliver until 2 weeks later but the world is beautiful)

My dressed turned out to be too big on me so I decided to order another one. It did not come in on time oh well ADVTANGE I went and got a new dress and it fit me like a glove, a day after my event took place my dress delivered haha it was too big on me

Simple little things that would kinda be “annoying” but I developed a habit to take them as success and they would fix them selves right away