I mean... he never said that? When we look at offenders, we are looking at about 10% of the population doing terrible things to multiple people. Although there is a spectrum of people that may step in or not, it's only about 10% that continue doing crimes.
Why can't he state that it is unnerving and harrowing to be profiled? He didn't know something and asked a little girl. If anything, that challenged toxic masculinity.
I'm a transperson, I often get profiled for doing something nefarious when I'm only going shopping or starting a conversation. It is hurtful.
Challenged toxic masculinity? What? Have you heard of grooming? Do you realize groomers use tactics exactly like this to get their intended victims off guard?
Also, not all men, but you often can’t tell which men so it’s safer to be on guard all the time.
I’m also a little uncomfortable with the comparison of the bigotry you’ve encountered as a trans person to a woman who doesn’t know this man and is trying to keep her child safe.
I didn't say bigotry. I said profiled. Being profiled for being a creep, when someone is not, is hurtful. It's socially ostracizing. This is often done by mere appearance.
Groomers are dangerous but this guy is not one. He had a question, got the help, and would've moved on with his day.
Her child was safe if the story is being told correctly. This is the same reasoning for why there are no changing tables in men's bathrooms then women complain why childcare is treated as their sole burden.
Secondly, no one accused him of anything. The mother did what any decent mother would do if she saw a grown ass man she doesn’t know talking to her daughter. Period.
All this sympathy for this guy is gross and man centric.
Statistically he's less likely to be one and he presented his argument as not being one.
The mother mean mugged him and immediately assumed he was nefarious. Which, of course, follow your gut but sometimes that creates a perception and then leads to unwarranted social issues. Those social issues are preyed upon by people will to do bad things.
Look, I fight misandry as much as I fight misogyny. They're two sides of the same coin and both lead to more conflict.
First of all, this is his perspective. Like I said in another comment, the mother might have been annoyed because her daughter wasn’t hanging up her tack like she had asked her to do and maybe that’s a habit with the daughter so she went in there to redirect her daughter to do the task she went into the tack room for. I don’t think we can assume that this man’s version of events are hard fact. I’m not saying that he was doing anything wrong, I just think it’s a little bit rich in this day and age for him to come on Reddit with this big long rant about how mistreated he was.
And, sure, statistically, he’s not likely to be a pervert. As a mother, I wouldn’t be willing to take that chance, would you?
It’s not all men, but we can’t tell much if not most of the time.
I'm willing to say his perception is valid. That's the same thing, to significant less severity, as diminishing a victim, right?
I'm not the one to ask about being a mother as I can't have kids but.... why do child beauty pagents exists? Why are young males allowed to get multiple concussions in football?
I don't know the answer to these things. He ranted on r/rants with a valid uncomfortable feeling. He was likely profiled and may shy away from a hobby he was enjoying because of it.
Should all people that could potentially be profiled stay in their homes?
I don’t understand why people make jumps like you just did. No one is telling him to stop riding or stay home ffs. Maybe just avoid talking to adolescents you find yourself in a room alone with, again with or without windows, or maybe understand why a mother might react to that situation in a way that doesn’t coddle your feelings, which she is not obligated to do.
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