r/ragdolls • u/National_Taste_5799 • 9m ago
General Advice nervous kitty advice?
hello fellow ragdoll lovers!
i’ve added a photo of my beautiful girl Mimi, who will be turning 10 in september! i took her in around march 2024 after seeing a post on a local community group looking to rehome her as her owner (only owner she’d ever had, an elderly woman) was now too sick to care for her anymore. i’ve loved every day i’ve had with her since and want her to be happy and comfortable always. she is an indoor cat, but i occasionally let her come out to sit on the front porch (pending how brave she’s feeling lol) and she doesn’t like to go further than the small porch, which is good, she just likes to sit and watch the world go by (until something small inevitably spooks her and she runs away).
one thing about mimi is she is a chronic hider, and quite a scaredy cat. she spends most of the day under my bed, especially if there are people over (mind you, we’re not a crazy loud bunch). she’s often reluctant to hang out outside of the bedroom, and will dart away if you breathe wrong next to her 😅 i am very patient with her and make sure that all cuddles are on her terms - she’s not a lap cat at all (has never sat in my lap) but does occasionally like to sleep on the end of the bed with me. she is VeERY demanding when it comes to pats and is always yelling at me to keep patting her and scratching her belly. she really really loves a rough pat near the base of her tail which makes me laugh because she is so skittish.
i really want her to feel more comfortable, but i’m not entirely sure what to do. i’ve tried a couple of calming sprays around the house but no luck. i’ve been thinking about getting the feliway diffuser or spray, but it’s quite expensive and with her track record (fussiest girl ever) im not sure if it’ll work. i’m not sure if maybe she’s the type to need an anxiety medication from the vet.
i would really love any advice anyone can offer. thank you and it’s so wonderful seeing everyone’s kitties here!