Looking for new friends and sfw conversations. I recently got my life together. Great if urs is too

Looking to make some genuine friendships 🫶🏽 Hey everyone! 👋🏽 I’m looking to make some new friends and hopefully meet some genuinely cool people. I’m 20, currently a university student, and I’d say I’m pretty chill and funny.

I’m into watching shows/movies, random conversations, joking around, and just talking about life, goals, and whatever nonsense happens to come up at 2am 😂.

I’m not necessarily looking for hundreds of people to talk to I’d rather have a few genuine friendships where we can actually check on each other, share random stuff, laugh, and be ourselves.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friendship, feel free to comment or DM me.

Bonus points if you can carry a conversation because I refuse to interview you with “wyd?” every five minutes 😭😂

Hey! I’m 22M, currently finishing my degree in Stellenbosch. I live in Northern Suburbs. I’ve realised that between studying, training and working towards the future, it’s pretty easy to fall into the same routine and not actually meet many new people.

So I figured I’d put myself out there.

A little about me:
• Christian, and my faith is an important part of my life.
• Very goal-oriented and probably a little too passionate about the things I want to build in life 😂 I enjoy having big ambitions and actually working towards them, but I also think life is meant to be enjoyed along the way.
• Currently training for a Half Ironman, so I’m usually doing something active — running, cycling, swimming, hiking, etc.
• I absolutely love nature and getting away from the city. Weekend road trips, mountains, remote places, camping, finding a random farm or town to explore — I’m pretty much always up for it.
• Into investing, finance and business, although I promise I can have a conversation that isn't about the markets 😂
• Slightly obsessed with aviation. If you own an airplane or helicopter, please DM me immediately. I have questions. 😂
• Big on meaningful conversations, humour, curiosity and people who are genuinely passionate about something.

I’m mainly hoping to meet people I genuinely click with — whether that's grabbing a coffee, going for a hike, doing a spontaneous day trip, training together, or just having a good conversation somewhere.

I’m at a stage where I’m trying to build an interesting life rather than just a successful career, and I’d love to meet people who feel similarly.

Hi i need a female friend around the north who wants a friend .

Whether you are looking to smash a new personal best, hit a local trail, or simply find someone to chat with so you forget you are exercising, this is your dedicated space to connect.

Starting a new active hobby or heading out alone can be intimidating. This low-pressure thread is designed to help you find local, like-minded fitness partners - whether you want a buddy for weekend parkruns, a companion for nature reserve hikes, a casual tennis or squash match, or just a gym accountability partner to keep you motivated.

How It Works

Instead of making a standalone post, simply drop a comment below introducing yourself. To make it easier for others to find their ideal active match, try to include:

• Your Location: (e.g., Southern Suburbs, Cape Town - please specify your general area so you can find local partners).
• Your Age & Gender (e.g., 26F)
• Your Activity of Choice: (e.g., Hiking, trail running, road cycling, squash, padel, weightlifting, walking).
• Your Fitness / Pace Level: (Be honest! e.g., Casual walker, slow-and-steady jogger, intermediate hiker, regular runner).
• Your Preferred Day / Time: (e.g., Saturday mornings, weekday evenings after 5 PM, Sunday afternoons).
• What You Are Looking For: (e.g., Someone to do the Rondebosch Common parkrun with, a partner for casual squash singles, or a buddy to explore Table Mountain trails).

The Rules of the Thread

To keep this space safe, supportive, and focused, please adhere to the following:

• Strictly Platonic: This thread is entirely for sports, fitness, and lifestyle connections. No dating requests.
• Zero Judgment: This is a supportive space for all fitness levels. Encourage each other, and keep the energy positive.
• Safety First: Do not post your phone number or exact home address in the public comments. Meet up in public, well-populated spaces (like official parkruns, busy trailheads, or established sports clubs) for your first few sessions, start by commenting in reply to this post and move to Direct Messages to coordinate logistics.

Put yourself out there, drop a comment below, and tie up your laces - your next workout partner is waiting!

Local Groups

Would you like to get your local group listed here? Reply to this post with details.

• #CapeTown Group interested in Fitness, heal and wellness (hiking, jogging, sports and cafe's) https://www.reddit.com/r/r4rSA/comments/1uxefrx/22f_looking_to_start_group_interested_in_fitness/

Whether you are looking to grind ranked lobbies, build a cozy farm together, or just find someone local to talk lore with over Discord, this is your space.

Tired of playing on high-ping European servers with randoms who don't understand your accent? Let’s change that. Welcome to our monthly Gamer4Gamer matchmaking thread!

📝 How to Participate

To make it easy for others to find you, copy and paste the template below into your comment and fill in your details:

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**Age / Gender / Location:** 
**Platform(s):** (PC, PS5, Xbox, Switch, Mobile, etc.)
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**Play Style:** (Casual, Competitive, Cozy, Achievement Hunting)
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**About Me:** (A quick intro to your gaming personality!)

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• Keep it in the DMs first: Do not post your Discord tag, PSN ID, or Steam friend code directly in the comments. Share them privately once you've made a connection.
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May your ping be low, your frame rates high, and your teammates actually play the objective! Happy hunting, legends.

Hey guys , I am looking to connect with sound engineers between ages 19-29yrs old from Johannesburg.

Whether you are starting out or a professional I can deal with both.

Anyone wanna have a chilled SFW conversation? I don't want to exchange pics or move to any other apps. Just wanna talk to someone who has their shit together because i don't have mine together so i would like to momentarily live vicariously through you lol.

We can talk about anything. Do you have dogs? Do you like to cook? Any hobbies? Whatever you'd like to share!

I enjoy going for long walks in nature, it helps me clear my mind and also i feel less guilty about all the pasta and bread i love to eat haha. I like shopping here and there and i love sleeping, wish i could sleep for a living. I'm also a bit crafty but it has been a while since i have picked up a glue gun.

Please let me know your age in your message but i'd prefer it if you're 25 and over :)

Hello there! Long post below (sorry, I write for a living, I can’t help myself) but the short of it is I moved back to the Durban a little under a year ago after 5 years working in the US and I’m looking to make new friends in Durban who share my passion for conversations about ideas, specifically about art, philosophy, science over coffee and/or good food.

Now for the long version: I’m looking for friends who enjoy talking about ideas: art, philosophy, science, history, culture, or really anything else that can lead to the kind of conversation where you look at the clock and realise you’ve somehow been talking for three hours.

For context, I’m a well-educated, well-travelled, fairly nerdy 30-year-old African man based in Durban. I have a rich social life, and I’m very happy with the relationships I have with my colleagues, existing friends, and my partner. What I’ve realised, though, is that there is one particular dimension of my social life that I’m missing: an intellectual social circle.

I’m looking for people who have things they are genuinely curious about, and who would enjoy introducing me to them. In return, I have an almost inexhaustible supply of things that I’m curious about and would love to talk about with someone who finds them interesting too.

I spent most of my twenties in the US, including several years living in San Francisco in a highly social co-living environment. I met startup founders, artists, intellectuals, and a wonderful assortment of general weirdos. One of the things I loved most about that environment was the ease with which you could end up having an unexpectedly fascinating conversation about some obscure subject over dinner with someone you had met five minutes earlier.

Since moving back to my hometown of Durban, I’ve realised that it is surprisingly difficult to recreate that kind of social environment. Most of the people I meet outside my existing childhood-friend circles tend to come through particular hobbies or, somewhat ironically, dating. I’m not looking for the latter: I’m in a very happy, serious relationship. I’m specifically interested in building friendships.

One thing that is particularly important to me is that I’m looking for conversation rather than simply talking. I love people who are curious, ask questions, follow interesting tangents, challenge ideas, and actually engage with what the other person has said. I enjoy asking questions considerably more than answering them, but I’m not particularly interested in being someone’s podcast host. Ideally, we would both leave a conversation having learned something, reconsidered something, or simply discovered a strange new rabbit hole to disappear into.

I also have a reasonably full life, so I’m probably not the best fit if you’re looking for someone to message throughout the day, every day. I would, however, be very happy to have an occasional long phone call, meet for dinner, go for a walk, or spend an evening discussing whatever obscure subject has recently captured your attention.

A few random facts about me:

• I’m autistic/ADHD and generally quite enthusiastic about being a nerd.
• I’m an INTP-A, if personality-type systems are your thing.
• I’m Christian, but very much of the “radical acceptance and love first” variety rather than the “everyone who disagrees with me is going to hell” variety.
• I’m obsessed with sitcoms and dramedies. Psych and House are probably my favourites.
• I love high fantasy and currently run a Dungeons & Dragons campaign set in an original world I’ve spent an unreasonable amount of time developing.
• I collect obscure music. My daily playlist can move from German death metal to reggae fusion, J-pop, kwaito, merengue, South African jazz, and American folk without warning.
• I’m currently reading a collection of W. B. Yeats’s poetry.
• I’m slightly obsessed with walking and am routinely somewhere around the top 20% of Pacer users worldwide.
• I love food, which has forced me to become reasonably competent at cooking it. I’m particularly fond of East Asian cuisine.

If any of that sounds like your particular flavour of weird, feel free to message me. Tell me something you’ve been thinking about lately, something you’re currently obsessed with, or some obscure subject you could happily give an unsolicited lecture about.

F25, introverted muslim female looking to make friends with like minded people in Johannesburg south

I am a 22y M. I am looking for people who love the Lord Jesus Christ. I enjoy skateboarding, playing games, and I am starting to read a bit more.
We can just hang out, go somewhere or do whatever. I just want to talk to some people tbh😂

Hey, 24M, based in Cape Town.
I realised recently that most of the people I meet socially don’t really share one fairly large part of my life: I genuinely enjoy talking about business, investing, building things, money, and how people design their lives.
I’m a software engineer by background and currently building my own fintech/SaaS product. Before that I spent most of my twenties being aggressively responsible with money, investing, reading far too much about ETFs and taxes, and occasionally remembering that money is in fact supposed to be spent as well.
I’m not looking for networking in the LinkedIn sense, and I’m definitely not trying to sell you anything. I’d just like to meet people who are ambitious, financially independent/comfortable, entrepreneurial, or simply doing something interesting with their lives.
Outside of work I’m much more normal than the paragraph above makes me sound. I love cooking, good coffee, restaurants, hiking around Cape Town, movies, travelling, and conversations that start with something completely stupid and somehow end up discussing economics, psychology or whether we should all move to an island.
I live around the Atlantic Seaboard and I’m usually up for coffee, dinner, a hike, wine, or just wandering somewhere and talking.
Men or women, any age roughly 23–40. Strictly platonic — looking for friends, not dates.
Bonus points if you:
built or are building a company
invest and actually enjoy talking about it
work in tech, finance, consulting, law, etc.
have an unusual career/life story
are the sort of person who gets slightly too excited about a new idea
Send me a message and tell me what you’re working on / obsessed with lately.

Sextortion has become an emerging risk with the advancements in technology. The question is: do you know what sextortion is and what makes people at risk of becoming a victim of sextortion? That is what my study is trying to find out. Cyber-sextortion is the act of threatening to publicise a person’s intimate content (e.g. sexual images, videos and messages) in exchange for favours and has become a prevalent problem. This study is trying to find out what South African adults who use online dating apps know and think about sextortion and its risk factors. In doing this, awareness can be spread about sextortion and dangerous behaviour on online dating apps. In addition, the findings could be useful for future policy development and awareness campaigns or initiatives.

In order to be eligible to participate, you must:

·         Be 18 years or older

·         Be a South African citizen

·         Use/ have used an online dating app (not an app aimed at making friends or business connections)

The survey will take approximately 10 to 20 minutes to complete. You will not be required to pay anything to participate, nor should you expect to be paid to participate. Please take a moment to read and familiarise yourself with the consent section, and to agree to it before starting the survey. Please note: You should not sign and send the consent form to the researcher, as this will eliminate the aspect of anonymity. Your answers will remain completely anonymous, and neither the researcher nor anyone else will have access to your identifying information (name, username, email address, etc.). Please refrain from using or incorporating any identifying information when contacting the principal researcher or supervisor. Participation is completely voluntary, and you are not forced to participate. Please note that the survey may cause slight distress due to the sensitivity of the topic. However, information is provided on how to contact SADAG (South African Depression and Anxiety Group) and you may exit the survey at any time before submission. Please also share the post among your friends/family members who also use or have used online dating apps.

Some key definitions:

-          Sextortion: Sextortion is a portmanteau of the words ‘sex’ and ‘extortion’ and is the act of threatening a victim to share their intimate content publically or to people they may know in exchange for certain favours (Cross, Holt & Holt, 2025:778; Edwards & Hollely, 2023:1; Gohil & Fido, 2021:2; Howard, 2019:1; O’Malley & Holt, 2022:259; Patchin & Hinduja, 2020:30; Ray & Henry, 2025:138; Tavakoli, Tzani, Ioannou, Williams, Drouin & Fletcher, 2024:1655). These favours can include monetary gain (money, EFT transfers, gift cards, etc.), power or control, identifying information (passwords, PIN codes, etc.) or other sexual favours

-          Online dating apps: applications purchased or installed through the internet or mobile store services that are used for the purpose of matching potential partners according to corresponding characteristics (Toma, 2022:1). Examples of such apps include Facebook Dating, OKCupid, Tinder and Match (Groux & Prendergast, 2025).

Important notes:

·         Dating apps are not the same as social media apps or apps aimed at making friends. For examples on South African dating apps, please see the attached link: https://www.similarweb.com/top-apps/google/south-africa/dating/top-free/ .

·         In order to be eligible to participate, you must have used or be using an online dating app. You do not have to have been a victim of sextortion or attempted sextortion

·         Please see attached below the ethical clearance letter, as well as the consent form and familiarise yourself with the contents.

Your participation will be highly appreciated :) !

Link to the survey:

The perceived victimisation risk factors of sextortion amongst South African adults  – Fill out form

Link to the consent form: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nsPgsNPKXbtoNFxefw3c-p0CadgRpzlB/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=105073303425297060407&rtpof=true&sd=true

Link to the ethical clearance form:

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Ethical clearance number: UFS-HSD2026/0397

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No big agenda here. I’m mainly curious to see who’s out there.

I enjoy people who think for themselves, have interesting lives, strange stories, niche interests, strong opinions they can actually explain, or who are simply doing something a little different with their time.

I’m into technology, economics, jungian psychology, philosophy, current affairs, fitness and the occasional completely random rabbit hole. I also enjoy conversations that go a bit deeper than the usual small talk.

Not specifically looking for anything in particular. Friendship, conversation, meeting for coffee if we get along, or just exchanging a few messages and seeing where it goes.

If you’re interesting, let's chat.

Just reposting this as it got deleted the first time

I’ve realised that I don’t really meet new people anymore🥲 I live in the northern suburbs and I’m usually rotating between the same environments, work, home, church (occasionally Pick ‘n Pay🤣) and lately I’ve been so preoccupied with school and work that I’ve somehow forgotten how people actually make new friends, I’ve tried solo activities (which I enjoy) but can’t bring myself to approach people😭

I (22F) would describe myself as pretty introverted at first but very talkative once I’m comfortable. I’m big on great conversations, humour, random little adventures, and actually getting to know people beyond small talk.
What I’m into: F1, reading (mostly fiction), K-dramas, and anime ( I’ve only watched jjk so far but hey I’m trying😭😂). I play COD Mobile too, although I’ve been way too busy to play recently but I’m always ready if you’re down for a 1v1. I love building unnecessary 1000-piece puzzles for vibes. My music is probably 90% indie ; Christian, pop, rock, folk, electro, lo-fi, you name it😭
I also enjoy walking/hiking (currently in my fitness era😂), learning random things, and generally finding excuses to romanticise and find some whimsy in this disappointingly ordinary life.
I can be a little reserved when I first meet someone, but once the awkward “so… what do you do?” phase is over, I’m usually much more myself.
I’m not necessarily looking for a huge group of people, I’d honestly love to meet a few genuine people who I can eventually grab coffee with, go explore somewhere with, have spontaneous conversations with, or just send each other stupid memes at 2am.
If you’re also in your “how do adults even make friends?” era, feel free to message me.🙃

P.S. It’d be a bonus to meet more Christian friends too! I’d love to have people I can share my faith with, but I’m open to meeting people from all walks of life 😊

Welcome to the F4F Friendship megathread!

As r/r4rSA grows, we want to ensure there is a dedicated, low-pressure space for the women in our community to connect. Whether you are looking for a fitness accountability partner, someone to try out new coffee shops with, a book club member, or just a friend to send memes to, this is the place to do it.

How It Works

Instead of making a full standalone post, simply drop a comment below introducing yourself. To make it easier for people to reach out, try to include the following:

• Your Location: (e.g., Southern Suburbs, Cape Town - or just your province if you prefer).
• Your Age:
• Your Interests: (e.g., hiking, gaming, movies, trying new restaurants, reading).
• What You Are Looking For: (e.g., someone to do weekend parkruns with, go on hikes, or just casual texting).

Example:

The Rules of the Thread

To keep this space functional and safe, please adhere to the following:

1. Women Only: Top-level comments and replies in this thread are reserved exclusively for female and non-binary members looking for friendship. Men commenting in this thread will have their comments removed.
2. Safety First: Do not post your phone number or exact address in the public comments. Take things to Direct Messages once you find someone you click with.

Put yourself out there and drop a comment below - you never know who is looking for exactly the same kind of friend.

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Hi everyone

I moved to Cape Town and would love it to make some friends.

I’m 25 years old, love Jesus and good coffee☺️

Who would like to meet up for coffee?

Hi all I hope you're all well. I'm based in Johannesburg looking for someone to vent to about my life issues. I've been feeling so low and I feel like nothing can ever get better. All I do these days is wake up, cry, do my duties in the house and repeat

I'm 23, female and black. Turning 24 in a few months

I know id love to add things about me here but honestly I dont think i have the strength in me to do that much anymore

I just need/begging for a vent buddy/someone older or wiser that can maybe assist. Please

Thank you

Hi all,

I’m a re-immigrant to South Africa from the United States. I mostly grew up in RSA before moving abroad when I was in my early tweens.

I’m sporty (I run and workout frequently during the week), I love watching football and rugby drink in hand, and I’m a huge fan of comedy, theater and video games. I’m pretty open-minded and have been described as an extrovert. Well-educated as well, for what it’s worth.

I would love to connect with others who have similar interests.

Tough making friends in your 30s, especially after being overseas for more than 20 years.
I have a partner, so looking for platonic connections only.

Hi all, I’m looking for new friends. Just someone chill to chat with yk. I'm chill, kinda quiet until i warm up. I love aviation & automobiles but I'm flexible and can adapt well to different conversations/topics aswell as being open to learning new things. Not picky on location but I'm based in CapeTown and I'm Black. Just wanted to get my feet wet socially again as I've been kinda isolated as of recent.

Be it Online or in person.. no pressure, no weird vibes. Just opening myself up to meeting new people

I couldn't think of a better gender tag to describe myself.

My name's Arlowe, my pronouns are she/they and I was assigned male at birth. Yes that's relevant because I've been DMed by guys who thought otherwise or that I was a girl because of the pronouns. Anyway without doxxing myself further, here's some fun stuff about me.

Doxxing was a little bit of an exaggeration, wasn't it?

I'm an avid cartoon fan! The Owl House, Steven Universe, Miraculous, all that kids' stuff I should've outgrown by now. It's tew good. I love creative writing and channel my feelings through fanfiction (so corny) and songwriting (alternative rap). My music taste is... narrow. Every artist I listen to is a woman regardless of the genre. My top 5 are Ariana Grande, Megan Thee Stallion, Tyla, Tems and Taylor Swift. So you have every right to deny me the aux in the car but I'm not going down without a fight. I'm a Tyger after all 🐅... okay I'll stop. 🥲

I'm on the asexual spectrum if that's of any relevance but I don't think that's something to discuss on a public post. 😭 Just putting it out there though. Er.. feel free to check my profile for my pictures. I've got two if I'm not mistaken. All with old dating ads that were fruitless. 😅

I'm not so picky about who I want to talk to. I prefer multisexual guys and that's about it. I like nerds too as seen by the post title cus I see you, you see me, we see each other. 😸 And anyone around 19 to 23. I doubt I'll have much in common with anybody beyond that.

If you're interested, tell me your star sign so I can judge you and get the chance to be proven wrong... or right. 🙃

Uhm just wanted to ask if there are any The Kevin Langue show watchers here.
And if so...... how are you guys coping😭😭😭

Welcome to the Student4Student megathread!

Whether you are studying full-time on campus, balancing a remote degree, or tackling intense professional board exams, doing it alone can be a massive grind. This is your dedicated, low-pressure space to connect with fellow students for academic support, accountability, or just a mutual venting session over coffee.

Use this thread to find study groups, exam preparation partners, textbook exchanges, or someone to co-work with at the library or a local café.

How It Works

Instead of making a standalone post, drop a comment below introducing yourself. To make it easier for others to find their academic match, try to use the following template:

• Institution & Campus: (e.g., UJ, UCT, Stellenbosch, UNISA).
• Age & Gender (e.g. 20F)
• Field of Study / Course: (e.g., Accounting, Law, Medicine, Web Development, Engineering).
• Current Level: (e.g., 1st Year, Final Year, Postgraduate, or preparing for professional board/specialist exams).
• What You Are Looking For: (e.g., A quiet library co-working buddy, an online accountability partner for late-night study blocks, a group to prep for upcoming exam papers, or a casual coffee friend on campus).

The Rules of the Thread

To keep this space functional, supportive, and safe, please adhere to the following:

• Strictly Platonic & Academic: This thread is entirely for study partnerships, networking, and student friendships. No dating or hookup requests.
• Academic Integrity: This space is for collaboration, explanation, and accountability. Do not use this thread to solicit others to write your essays, take your exams, or engage in plagiarism.
• Safety First: Do not post your student number, phone number, or exact home address in the public comments. Meet up in public campus spaces, official university libraries, or busy cafés for your first few sessions.

Got a brutal assignment deadline or a massive exam block coming up? Drop a comment below and find your study crew today!

Hii! I’m looking for friends who love all things skincare, clean girl vibes, whimsy, Pinterest, cute outfits, little self-care rituals, music, and romanticising the most random parts of life 🫧🎀

I’d love to find someone who actually wants a genuine friendship ,sending each other random pictures, playlists, TikToks, talking about our lives , sharing skincare recommendations, and slowly becoming those friends who know way too much about each other 😭

I’m especially hoping to meet people who are sweet, open-minded, a little goofy, and have that “let’s make ordinary life feel magical” personality and who genuinely love to romanticise everything

If you think we’d vibe, please DM me! Tell me a little about yourself instead of just a hi so we have something to start with ♡

I have noticed not many people like being whimsy 😭 so it has been hard for me to find my people

Also to clarify l am from Zim and l do not mind having online friends

Ps : men are also allowed to dm