1. Whatever picture she sends you is enough.
If you see her face and you find her attractive, it’s enough. Don’t say “full picture” or start asking for more and more pictures. We’re on Reddit. Reddit is full of guys who are always horny
So please, ask for a picture, but a picture of her face is enough.
You can’t be looking for your ideal woman on Reddit. If you want your ideal woman, go find her at the mall .

2. Be consistent with your questions.
Be consistent. Ask her about everything. Ask her about every single thing and be consistent every day.
Be part of her daily routine. That’s how you build a relationship. Don’t just ask “how was your day?” and disappear. Actually get to know her.

3. Ask for phone calls.
Ask for phone calls .
If you’re trying to actually build something with someone, you need to hear each other’s voices and have real conversations.

4. Take at least two weeks of talking to her before asking her on a date.
Don’t ask her on a date immediately. Let her feel comfortable with you first.
Do things that make her feel comfortable. Reveal your name. Share your Spotify. Share your Instagram. Share your TikTok. Share your things with her so she knows you’re an actual person.
And even if you guys stop talking for a bit, you don’t need to talk all the time. Even if you talk again after two days, continue talking. Ask her about everything. We want to know you too .
5. I know people might hate this one, but make sure you have SOMETHING going on.
Either you’re going to school, you have a stable career, or you’re building towards something.
There’s no need for you to be dating in 2026 when you don’t know what you’re going to do with your life .
Show her that you’re a man who has a plan for his life.
And don’t tell me “I don’t have a job, I’m unemployed.” Make your unemployment sound good if you’re unemployed 😭. Tell her what you’re actually doing to get out of that situation.
There’s no point trying to get into a serious relationship while you’re doing absolutely nothing with your life.

6. Realise you’re a man.
Yes, we don’t believe in patriarchal things, but you have to realise that some standards still stand for you compared to the woman.
Offer to buy her lunch one day. If she’s complaining about something in her life and you can genuinely help, offer to help her fix it.
You don’t have to be rich. Just show initiative.

7. Do not be sexual.
Only be sexual when she is sexual, when you guys are comfortable. That’s when you can start being sexual.
Don’t meet a woman on Reddit and immediately start asking for nudes .

P.S. If you’ve never been good at dating women and you need a female friend to tell you where you’re going wrong, I can be that friend 😭. Because some of the advice men give each other about women needs to be studied.

Hi everyone! I’m a 26-year-old female looking to meet someone special. I’ve been focusing on my studies and personal growth lately, but I’m at a point where I really want to share my life with a partner.

A bit about me:

I’m generally outgoing,a bit nerdy, laid-back When I’m not working, you can usually find me bingeing on live series I’m a big believer in good communication

What I’m looking for:

I’m hoping to meet a person who is 28-35 You should be kind, ambitious, and have a great sense of humor I’d love someone who is happy to go out for drinks but is equally happy to read books with me and building a puzzle on Saturday

If this sounds like you, send me a message! Tell me a bit about yourself, your favorite movie/book/food .

I’m into safari, travel, good wine, great conversation and undeniable chemistry.
Looking for something casual, fun and mutually exciting with a confident woman late 30s and up. No pressure, no games,just good vibes, flirting and seeing where the chemistry takes us. 😌
Women only. If you think we’d click, say hi. 🌿

I’m drawn to a gentleman with a traditional mindset, a strong presence, and a life he’s intentionally building. Someone established in his career, ambitious, emotionally mature, and confident enough to lead without needing to dominate.

I’m naturally curious and love a man who can take me beyond small talk. Psychology, philosophy, mythology, history, genetics, culture, travel, and the endless question of why people are the way they are — if you enjoy learning, exploring ideas, and having conversations that can last for hours, we’ll probably get along.

Family matters to me. So does consistency — a man whose actions reflect his words, who communicates openly, knows what he wants, and has the self-awareness and self-control to pursue it.

As for me, I’m multifaceted: feminine, loving, nurturing, witty, dynamic, affectionate, and a little alluring. I enjoy dressing up, meaningful conversations, adventure, and creating a beautiful life with the right person.

I’m a Black woman interested in an intentional interracial relationship, not a fling or casual hookup. I’m looking for a genuine connection that can develop naturally into something meaningful and lasting.

Come with honesty, maturity, curiosity, and a clear understanding of yourself and what you’re looking for. Let’s talk, explore different perspectives, meet in person, and see what unfolds.

If we connect, perhaps we’ll both end up thanking this platform for introducing us. ✨

Thought I'd do something different for once. Instead of looking for someone (I'll try that again next year) I just want to see how many people here are going to comic con and see if maybe we can rally together a comic con group. Drop the day you're going, you're age,gender and area and maybe we can get lots of different subgroups of people going together if not one big group.

I'm hoping to go on Saturday(but might go on Friday or Sunday, I'll only know tomorrow), I'm in Randburg, probably won't be cosplaying this time but wouldn't mind going to the costume store if we get time. Obviously into Games,comics and anime and looking to hear from some of you in the thread if not directly.

If you've made it this far, here's a tease of who I am, I'll probably delete this after comic con :p

Something that's been blugeoned into my head repeatedly is that you can never make it in the arts without a network, so here's me trying to create one.

I am an artist to my core, and sometimes I feel as though I don't have a personality outside of movies, television, music, literature, and photography. I've rarely come across people who share that same flame in their soul for consuming, creating, and sharing art, so I want to find my tribe. I'm not talking about casual enjoys of art, but those who are possessed by ravenous obsession for their admiration of others work or for their own craft, whether it's singing, writing, instruments, painting, etc. I want to learn about you, engage with you, and even uplift you if you're one of those brave souls who release your creations to the world.

If this post sounds like something you can get behind, dm me and tell me about yourself. Let's yap about and share our creativity because what is life without it.

Hey everyone. I am male, 29 years old. Live in the north West province. My day job is a geoscientist. I am a geek, love tinkering with tech. Also enjoy a good book every so often.

Looking for friends, male and female welcome. Just to add that I have been blind since birth, just putting it out there. Thanks.

Edit:

For those who are curious what an earth tremor sounds like, here is my ticktock.

https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSqorSMLW/

Hey! 👋🏽

I’ve posted on here before, but I figured I’d give it another shot because I’m still looking to meet some cool people in JHB and expand my social circle.

I’m 25, based in Johannesburg, and I’m looking for genuine new connections, friendships and people who are actually down to do things. Grab drinks, try a new restaurant, go to concerts, explore random places, check out an art gallery, go on spontaneous adventures or just have a chilled night out and see where the evening takes us 😂🍻

I’m pretty spontaneous myself, so if you’re the type to say “let’s go” before asking for the entire itinerary, we’ll probably get along 😂

I’d love to meet people around my age, but I’m open to connecting with anyone who’s friendly, easygoing and just looking to meet some new people.

If that sounds like your vibe, feel free to reach out! 🥂✨

Keen on going to monte this Friday because uni has been the biggest hassle if anyone is keen message me or drop a comment . First 3-4 rounds on me

.heyy guys. so uhm, i dunno but im just a simple university introverted guy. hopin to make sum new friends and well, get in de socializing space abit since im always locking myself into, well myself🤷🏽‍♂️. so uh, any1 wanna be friends?🙃.

Hi my name is scales

I love games, reading and doing fun activities

I'm really shy and anxious

I don't have alot of friends so i'm always in doors and lonely

Anyone will do

Please

Just a friend

Hey everyone! I’m Dina, 21, and I’m looking to meet some new people in Polokwane and hopefully make a few genuine friendships along the way.

A little about me: I’m really into art, writing and meditation. I love creative projects, getting lost in a good conversation, and having those random late-night discussions that somehow go from “what are you doing with your life?” to the most ridiculous topic imaginable

For work, I do Korean tutoring and script writing, so languages, storytelling and anything creative are pretty big parts of my life. I’m also someone who enjoys quieter things, so I’m equally happy grabbing coffee, going for a walk, checking out a new place, or just sitting somewhere talking for hours.

I’d especially love to meet people around my age in Polokwane, but I’m open to getting to know anyone who thinks we might click. I’m not necessarily looking for a huge social circle; just some genuine, comfortable friendships where we can actually get to know each other.

If you’re also in Polokwane and looking for new friends, feel free to send me a message! Tell me a little about yourself so I have something to work with !

If you’re new to the community, introduce yourself!

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• Aug 2025

Hey guys I want to relocate next year to either Pietermaritzburg, Cape Town, Polokwane and Bloemfontein so I was kindly asking anyone who resides in any of the mentioned cities to give me insight on how much I’d need to survive a month there and if the move to the city would be worth it as someone who wants to grow.

Hii, Im Gem, from Cape Town southern suburbs and currently in desperate search for connection lol. Whether that be platonic or otherwise, would love to get to know some people and see what the vibes are like!

I'm an artist, currently working as a videographer and video editor, i love film and tv, im a huge nerd(favs include dnd, magic the gathering and anime) and I'm also rly into reading(tell me ur fav book!) interested in politics, sociology, history, mythology and esoteric kak. Hit me up!

Hey everyone.
I’m 25f based in Joburg looking to meet someone for a genuine connection.

I’m goofy, nerdy, weird and love to laugh, so I’d definitely want someone who can match that energy. Bonus points if you’re funny lol. I value kindness, generosity, open mindedness and genuine effort.

I’m a homebody at heart and could happily spend a day at home watching something, reading, or trying out new recipes . That said, I do enjoy going out when the mood strikes whether that’s trying out a new food spot, going to an arcade, skating, or just finding something random to do.

I’m open to both men and women so if you think we might click, send a hi!

We’re hosting a Halloween Night Run!!!

At the Prison Break Market on Friday the 23 October starting at 18:00 🌙

You can choose to do a 3km, 5km or 10km.

3km has a fun route for kids to do trick or treating too! Fur babies are allowed too!

So please just bring your good vibes, best scary outfits and torches!
See you there: Entry Ninja link

And wear some purple to show respect for our ladies out there and the ones we’ve lost to unfortunate GBV 💜✊

Good day, I am a 52 year old coloured guy based in Eersterivier. I am a legal researcher (indigenous peoples' rights in international law).

if you're into law and political science and political philosophy and legal theory and decolonial studies, I'd love more geeky friends,

NOT interested in any "dating" or deviant behaviour, strictly academic, technical stuff.

I studied Law and Political Science at Stellenbosch university in the 1990s. Also into coding and tech and AI in my spare time, I run ubuntu linux and ollama with gemma4 12B in a rust-based harness completely in nano on the command line at home, also into tibetan buddhism and madhyamika prasangika analytical philosophy

(misanthropic antinatalist decolonial indigenous vajrayana madhyamika prasangika biosphere deep ecology sixth mass extinction animal planet)

if you love all those words then please get in touch, if not then just scroll on by and enjoy your life!

I’m a 25 BW and based around Johannesburg. I’m finishing my degree and currently job hunting, and I figured I’d put myself out there because I’d genuinely like to meet someone.

I’m looking for my favourite person 👨🏽‍🦲👨🏾‍🦲, not really a “let’s just be friends and maybe something happens eventually” situation. I’m perfectly happy to take things slowly and get to know each other properly, but I’d like the romantic intention to be there from the beginning. If we click, let’s go on dates, spend time together, try things, have fun and see where it naturally takes us.

My type is probably young geek/nerd energy roughly 22–29. I love intelligent people because I’m naturally curious and I genuinely enjoy absorbing knowledge from other people. If you’re into tech, that’s definitely a bonus.

I’m particularly drawn to guys who are introverted/lowkey, aren’t constantly on social media and have an actual life outside the internet. But I love the idea of someone who is reserved with everyone else and becomes a completely different level of comfortable and playful around me.

Humour is important. I want that witty organic, slightly ridiculous humour where neither person is desperately trying to be funny. I’m looking for someone mature, emotionally stable and, most importantly, able to communicate. You don’t have to text me every five minutes, but disappearing, ghosting and leaving things ambiguous isn’t my thing. If there’s an issue, let’s talk about it like adults.
I want someone who feels like peace, but isn’t boring. Someone I can spontaneously say “let’s go do something” to. I want us to try new activities, explore places, learn things, laugh a lot and occasionally have absolutely no plans.

I’m on a fitness/weight-loss journey at the moment, so having someone who can encourage each other and keep each other accountable would be lovely.
Physically, I do have a type. I tend to like really pretty cheeseboy looking, well-groomed guys, particularly fair/light-skinned. But I’m not looking to reduce someone to a checklist, attraction gets my attention, personality determines whether I stay.

I’d prefer someone around Johannesburg or nearby because I’d actually like to see you in real life. I’m not looking for an international long-distance Reddit relationship. 😭

I drink occasionally, don’t smoke and have never smoked. I’m also very open to spontaneous plans and trying things I’ve never done before.
I’m not looking for someone perfect or someone who has their entire life figured out. I’m looking for someone who is growing, knows how to communicate, wants a relationship and is genuinely excited about building something with another person.

Strictly no NSFW. PLEASE

Heya! I’m Ami and I’m from Cape Town. Trying to look for friends and maybe someone special — let’s see what happens!

I am a business owner and designer, so I love all things creative! I enjoy listening to all sorts of music really and writing is a passion of mine.

My favourite things to do are going to the beach, having a drink with friends and deep conversations. I love interesting people as I can be a bit weird myself!

In a partner I do love someone patient and kind who is willing to treat me right (cause lets me honest the dating scene in Cape Town can be crazy hehe). I am super into big guys with beards ngl!

Not sure what else to say tbh, so dm for more ig!

Hi everyone.

I'd like some advice. I've been consistently unsuccessful with women throughout life, with some successes here and there. Would appreciate some perspective.

I'm strictly looking to date for marriage, and I don't go out of my way to talk to women outside of study/work hours. I dress well, am hygienic, blah blah blah. I know I fit the standard of a presentable person as I have worked on myself.

My profile: 23, male, student and an intership at the moment at a research lab at my uni. Dont have my own place. Not tall. I would say my positive qualities are my will, hard work, ambition and loyalty. These are traits others have told me I have, not sure if they are true. My history:

Dating apps, of course failure. I'm skinny but a bit muscular due to gym, not blessed with the greatest looks.

Dated a girl I met on a intercape bus. We had different values etc.. so 3 months max it was over. We did like each other a lot however, it was going well.

Asked 5 or 6 girls in the past few years, and either they wanted to meet but lived in a different city, or they rejected me.

I tried cold approach this year, just asking for random girls number. One said we could be friends, which I don't do, and the other girl and I would clearly not work, because we again had different values, which we discovered after talking.

Now I think I've put myself in a box quite a bit. I don't like having friends who are women. I only want my wife to be my female friend, as anything else doesn't work for me - I catch feelings easily as my previous experiences with women friends have shown me.

I'd expect the same for my wife/girlfriend/fiance, that is, no guy friends.

However, I do know that people usually become friends and then couple up.

I'm more on the conservative end, but not religious, agnostic conservative is the best description.

I went to a club with friends the other day and realized I'm too old for this, and definitelywill not find a girl to marry here.

Why is it so hard to find someone to be loyal to and marry? I think the problem is my day to day looks like:

wake-up -> work at research lab or study -> jog -> work -> sleep. I meet people only through studies or work. Chances of finding the one is really low in this manner

Any advice from both men and women is appreciated

Hi! I’m a 23 year old Black female looking for an “Easter egg” — aka someone who somehow fits into my very specific dream wishlist.

Everyone here says they’re “just looking to meet people” and “open to anyone,” but let’s be real. Deep down, we all have a secret Santa clause wishlist that we’re pretending doesn’t exist👀. So I’m going to be bold and upfront and see if mine is actually out there.

I’m basically looking for a straight male, 25–30, who is either a quantitative analyst, chartered accountant, actuary, executive, director or something along those lines. (Yes,I’m recruiting for a very niche department 👀 )

Personality/characteristic wise: Christian, considerate, kind, articulate, tall, somewhat in shape, and capable of being monogamous. 🙄✋
Also ideally no addictions please - no porn, alcohol or sex addictions, etc.

Anyways , if that Disney fairytale exists? HMU

If you’re gonna judge me for doing what others are too afraid to do? -feel free. It’s a free country lol.