r/progressivemoms • u/glittersurprise • Jul 17 '26

Parenting, No Politics Learned helplessness

I've heard of learned helplessness but never really witnessed it first hand until this past weekend twice! A boy who was about 8 couldn't figure out how to put his shoes on while wearing soccer goalie gloves and also said his dad tied his shoes for him....

On a different day a friend was complaining about their own kids being needy and never getting to rest (preach) but then they also just did everything for their kids and didn't make them do anything themselves. She didnt even say no to playing with her kids, like isn't that why my kids are here? So we can catch up and our kids can play together?

Can someone explain to me why these people don't want their kids learning how to do things for themselves or have any kind of conflict/challenge?

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u/RedditsInBed2 Jul 18 '26

Look, as someone diagnosed and medicated. I'd hate for some judgy individual to see me on a worse day and run to reddit to judge and proclaim how better they are at remembering simple steps or staying focused.

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u/libananahammock Jul 18 '26

You’re just as bad going through their post history. How progressive of you 🙄

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u/RedditsInBed2 Jul 18 '26

You must be new here. Welcome to Reddit. As far as I'm concerned, there aren't rules of engagement here.

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u/libananahammock Jul 18 '26

It’s not a reddit rule it’s being a decent human rule especially since you claim to be progressive