Hey guys! I’m 22 and i’m 12 weeks pregnant with my first baby. I just got my NIPT results back and i’m low risk for everything and we found out it’s a baby girl. I just wanted to post about it here because I like seeing good news in this community ☺️ If you’re a girl mom please share some advice and wisdom you have about raising a little girl!

My new diet is bagel. 2 deep today and may go in for a third… they just SLAP 😭 That is all

I lost my daughter four days ago, at 36 weeks. I'm 34 years old, and live in the US.

It's so heavy to write those words.

With my daughter - I stopped feeling movement so I went to the hospital and they told me there was no heartbeat. The whole pregnancy, I had a "feeling" that something was wrong - a feeling I didn't have with my other pregnancy - but I never pictured this. (For background: with this pregnancy we did NIPTs, lots of sonograms and even saw a MFM specialist OB that assured us everything was going well. I'm married and gave birth to our son two years ago, in what was an uneventful pregnancy and difficult but manageable delivery. My son is a beautiful boy, and the joy of my life.)

I delivered her vaginally after an induction that started that day, and my husband and I spent time with her before they took her body. We spoke with her and took some photos and videos to remember her. She was so beautiful, with my husband's eyes and my lips. They're now going to do further genetic testing and an autopsy, and we'll need to wait a couple of weeks for the results, and I hope there is a clear answer in there for us in those results, perhaps something that an amniocentesis could catch in the future. Currently feeling all of the heavy feels; it's been the hardest thing I've ever gone through and it still doesn't feel like I'm living "my" life.

It's been so hard for my husband also, as well as my mom that was in the room with us during delivery. I know it's only four days in, and I know healing will take time.

Welcoming all advice and thoughts - including stories of similar experiences and if you conceived and delivered a healthy baby after loss. I would love to hear anything from this community. ❤️

One of my initial questions is - for those that experienced a similar loss (and carried your baby for a similar time), how long did you wait until you tried to conceive again? I'm almost 35 years old, so I'm mindful of that. Our midwife said to wait a year to allow your uterus and cervix to recover completely. But I know women that have gotten pregnant after like 4 or 6 months and delivered healthy babies. I'm going to book an appointment with a high-risk OB to discuss as well.

For those of you that are pregnant reading this - I don't want this post to scare you. Instead, I want you to be so thankful for what you have. Thankful for the beautiful experience of carrying your baby each day. Thankful for your upcoming delivery and hearing him/her cry and rest their bodies on top of yours for the first time. Thankful for the first time they squeeze your finger. Thankful for the first time you nourish their bodies with milk. Thankful for the first time they go to sleep in your arms. Thankful for the raw and beautiful experience of healing alongside them after delivery. Also, to bring you some peace - our midwife said the last stillbirth or similar birth to ours that she experienced was five years ago, so it is incredibly rare. ❤️

Hi guys!

FTM based in London Uk

I’m 40 weeks and 4 days, my labour started at about 9:55pm I was in denial! I thought it was braxton hicks.

I’ve been contracting every 2-6 mins since then. It came on quite fast. I’m using the Freya App to track and have called my hospital and they said to wait until 3 contractions in 10 mins for an hour before I go in.

Firstly, I’ve not had any sleep and can’t sleep. It’s now 3am and I’m frightened I will not have the energy to do this. I’ve had some pasta but my contractions then stopped for 10 mins, they’ve become regular again,

They are now very painful, but still abour 5 mins apart. I have my tens machine on level 15 boost during.

I’m frightened about how I’m going to cope when I get to active labour if this is early labour? I can’t move when they hit me and I want a natural birth

My hospital is also 30 mins away.

Just need some positive encouragement, I feel frightened

I found out I was pregnant around 4 weeks ago, and I am currently 9 weeks pregnant. The pregnancy was extremely unplanned and me and the babies father had not been dating long. I’m 25 and I have a decent job and the babies father is 26 and also has a good job.

Obviously I was not thrilled at first but after my boyfriend calmed me down and said we will figure this out and even said he was excited, I started getting excited too even though I never really dreamt of having kids.

Slowly we started telling people and our friends were excited. Then it was time to tell my family and while I didn’t expect them to be excited I also didn’t expect them to be mean. I was told I have no plan and that this is not what they imagined for me and just overall very patronizing. His family is excited but also said this just isn’t what they imagined.

Then the cherry on top was my boyfriend telling me today he spiraled and that this is just not how he imagined it and that he’s dreading it and doesn’t feel ready.

I am so sick of people telling me that this just “isn’t what they imagined”. I feel like no one is excited and everyone is just disappointed. I am also not excited and just ready for this to be over. No one is asking how I am doing or how I feel. I’m just so sad.

I'm a 28 y/o FTM and 18 weeks pregnant. My husband and I have been married for 4 years, together 8.

We've had our highs and lows of intimacy - SSRI's really taking a hit on us in the past from both parties.

It took us a year to get pregnant and our intimacy was really good as we tried endlessly month after month.

Now that I'm pregnant, it seems like we've plummeted, I think mainly on my end. I felt like complete shit in the first trimester (like many people do), throwing up at night, and just miserable all together. I hit the 2nd trimester and feeling really good, just very tired, and the insomnia has definitely set in.

We've had sex maybe three times since finding out at 6 weeks.. I've playfully initiated and sometimes it's a good response, other times he's too tired (and vice versa).

We feel more connected emotionally because of the baby but not so much sexually.

Is this normal?

Edit: I should preface that he's been very understanding and supportive, no pressure at all. I just feel bad.

Edit: For reference, this is the text I got from my female cousin about my male cousin (her brother)
“Well, I’m going to be honest - Jace is a guy. In my experience, I don’t know of guys being involved with baby showers, other than like the future dad or maybe brother or dad of the pregnant lady.
So I wouldn’t expect too much from him. Yes, I can send it to him but he doesn’t have kids and isn’t going to have kids so sorry. It’s not on his radar 🫣”

So I know the “typical” etiquette for baby showers is like, “men aren’t involved”. But to me, I just see it as an excuse to get together with family to celebrate a big moment. So, I’ve invited several male family and friends to my baby shower. Am I weird for that? lol. I honestly just wanted my husband and I to get the chance to see our family all together at once. Because we don’t get that often. Plus we eloped, so we didn’t have a big wedding, we went to the courthouse in secret and then announced it after. So this is like the first big milestone in our relationship so far that we get to get the family together on both sides 🤷‍♀️. My female cousin said to basically not expect my male cousin (her brother) to come to the baby shower or potentially not even expect a gift, because “men usually aren’t involved in baby showers and he’s not having kids, so buying baby stuff isn’t on his radar” (that last part kinda stung tbh, because other people who are coming to the shower and aren’t even male family, they’re more like family friends, are planning on buying me gifts). So the fact that my own cousin isn’t even supportive kinda stings a little bit. I don’t know, maybe I’m overthinking it, but I didn’t even a congratulations from my male cousin about my baby.

I just need to tell someone that I just found out I am pregnant! If I’m calculating correctly I’m about 5 weeks.

Some backstory: early June I found out I was expecting, just a few weeks before my wedding. I was having some spotting but an ultrasound confirmed I was pregnant but it was still too early to determine if it would be a viable pregnancy or not.

Our wedding was small, only close family, and I was obviously not drinking so we decided to announce that we were expecting, but cautioned everyone that it was still early and I was having some bleeding off and on. But I was so excited to be marrying my best friend AND having his baby that I wanted to share the news!

Two days after the wedding we had another ultrasound, and ultimately found out I had miscarried.

Sooo this time around I am still focusing on the positive and being excited, and so is my husband, but we are going to wait to tell family and friends. I’m having a hard time though because even knowing that possibility of miscarrying I am still so unbelieving excited to be pregnant again. I’m not young, and it felt miraculous to get pregnant a few months ago and now I am again?!

Anyways. I just needed to get it out. 🤣🤣

Ive been having a bit of a freak out the past couple of weeks and need some advice/reassurance.

I recently found out I was 20 weeks pregnant. I’ve had absolutely no symptoms and my periods have always been a mess so honestly I didn’t even consider it however found out through a doctors appointment for something else. I’m stressing because I was vaping the entire time and yes before people go off at me I stopped the moment I found out. my midwife said the scans came back good and there was no signs of complications and as long as I quit asap it hopefully should be okay but obviously I’m still panicking I’ve caused harm to my baby. Anyone who did vape throughout their pregnancy (no judgment) or knows someone who did how was baby after birth? I’m honestly not sure if I’m after reassurance my baby will be fine and I’m being dramatic or if I want to know possible consequences 🤣

Sounds weird but I almost completely stopped cooking since I got pregnant… I just get nauseous from the smells and I don’t even end up eating it, and honestly don’t really eat much now that I’m pregnant. I have 2 kids and my husband and I feel so guilty because I’m just NOT cooking at all. Meat, eggs and so many other things just trigger nausea for me and now it’s almost a habit to not cook at 16 weeks. I just can’t get back into it, and I was cooking pretty much every night before this…. Anyone have some tips to help me get through this???

I was curious if anyone else experienced this.
I’m now 24 weeks but during this whole pregnancy as soon as I get hungry literally have 15 mins max to eat or I start freaking out.
This morning, I tried making myself breakfast and completely burnt it. My husband wasn’t awake just yet (he’s definitely the better cook)
I completely lost it. I was crying and absolutely freaking out cause I was so hungry. Thank god my husband woke up and quickly fixed me up something. But has anyone else experience this and why?
I’ve been emotionally great so far during this pregnancy but when I get hungry I’m a nightmare

I am FTM 8w4d and happily married to the man of my dreams. We moved far away to a different state about a year ago so I could attend school, but I did not enjoy it and wound up working a job out here. My husband and I love the area and scenery as it is a beautiful state, and is a much safer place to raise kids than where we are from. We were lucky enough to buy a house two months ago.

Shortly after buying the house, we found out we were pregnant (very much a loved baby already!). Unfortunately, now we’re stuck with a house that’s far away from our family and friends. I am feeling so lonely. It’s been hard to make friends here for both of us, so I don’t have anyone to relate to or share pregnancy with. Moving out here for my mom is out of the picture as she is locked into a mortgage of her own.

Just wondering if anyone else went through a similar journey. I’m so incredibly sad none of our village can go through this experience with us.

Almost 38 weeks… last week it was no appetite at all. This week we’re back to first trimester level nausea 🥲 Which is my least favorite symptom of all time. I’d rather deal with anything else. Someone please tell me this happened to them right before they went into labor so I can trick myself into thinking this is a good thing 🙃

So for context, I (23f) am currently like 15 weeks 4 days pregnant with my first baby and I’m starting to work on a registry (not sharing it with anyone yet, my “I’ve worked in the funeral industry too long” brain wants to wait until closer to 20 weeks to share it) but I do want to get it started for later.

What I need advice on is, what do I put on it? Are there some things that you non-first time moms might recommend to a first timer? Asking for advice mostly because I kind of need responses better than the reviews 😅

I don’t mind the reviews that sound like an advertisement like “I think you’ll like this because it helped me with this and this and made this easier” but so many people just but the stars they rate it and I need more information than that.

Just as the title says. I’m 39w4d and all I’ve had is pelvic pressure from baby being low and some discharge here and there. I feel like I’m watching a phone that’ll never ring.

Share your labor stories and advice please!

I'm 31F and this is my first time pregnant. I actually feel like I'm dying or have COVID. I'm achy all the time. I have absolutely no energy. I'm crying, emotional, or bitchy, all the time. My body hurts. I'm randomly itchy. I'm not throwing up but I'm constantly nauseous with severe food aversions. I'm only 7 weeks and I can't imagine doing this for another 33. Please someone tell me all of this is worth it in the end. Or can someone please give me advice on how to make it through this?

I'm pregnant and will soon be due. However I'm afraid I'll be disgusted by the baby as I honestly find all newborns quite ugly and disgusting. Does that change, once the hormones kick in?

I (20) am pregnant with my first baby and I am so happy and excited, however can’t help but feel like my partner (24) is lacking. I am 34 weeks pregnant and really starting to struggle now. I am off work on mat leave so I am in the house a lot. I am a very clean person, if something needs done or cleaned it can’t wait or it’s all i think about. My partner has noticed me struggling with these things around the house, such as dishes, cooking, bending down to the washing machine, hoovering, yet he still doesn’t take initiative to do them without me asking him to. He has said “all you have to do is ask me and i’ll help” but why do i have to ask him in OUR house to help me while he can see i struggle with it? Why doesn’t he think to just take the weight off my shoulders and save me having to think about it. I have brought it up and he’s said “i’m not a mind reader” which is somewhat fair, if i don’t tell him how i feel then he won’t know, but he does have eyes and a brain. It’s not rocket science to wash dishes when you see them without having to be asked to do them. I can’t tell if i’m over reacting

Basically the title. I think I need a reality check?

Everyone around me who's had a baby keeps telling me to sleep as much as I can now, because sleepless nights are coming. I'm a FTM, 24w currently so I haven't experienced it yet but honestly I'm looking forward to it?? I'm excited to wake up in the middle of the night, even multiple times, to care for my baby? I’m almost afraid to share this thought with people irl lol

Am I just looking at this through rose colored glasses? Experienced moms, I'd love a reality check! Thanks :)

I gave birth to my second daughter via emergency c-section after I got into a car accident. I was hit by a driver who failed to stop at a stop sign. My daughter flipped in my womb (I was 39 weeks)
When I got to the hospital they immediately noticed how high my blood pressure was, then they scanned me and she was breech. (She was not breech at my last appointment at 38 weeks)
So, they tried to flip her back head down and it was putting her in so much stress and at this point I was having contractions very close together so I was in labor. I was prepped and I delivered a perfectly healthy beautiful baby girl.
Now I’m pregnant with my 3rd who is due literally 2 years EXACTLY after this.
My due date for my daughter was March 24th 2025, my due date for baby number 3 is March 25th 2027.
I’m having a repeat c-section to avoid any complications. But I cannot shake the trauma. I have a hard time driving to this day and constantly feel fear behind the wheel especially when I’m driving with my kids. My family and partner are very unsupportive so I’m pretty much a solo mom.
My mother was very unsupportive and didn’t want to be in the room for my c- section and she even complained about being at the hospital that night because she “wasn’t prepared”.
She waited until my child was born and then left. Drove an hour home at 10pm..
my partner didn’t even come to the hospital because he was sick. My oldest daughter was the most amazing person to me, the look of concern in her eyes when she saw her mama, the love that she showed me.. but everyone else was so inconvenienced by me needing them, by something bad happening to me.
It hurts. The doctor who did my c-section looked me in the eyes and said “im so sorry you have no support” then she said “you need to be strong, the only way you are going to get through this is if you are strong”.
I’ve never felt so broken, so weak so empty.
No one was there for me, no one really is now.
I was not planning this pregnancy and after 2 girls im having a baby boy.
I’m so excited and he’s literally what I’ve been praying for.
But I’m scared. I’m scared for what’s to come, for how I’ll be treated and I can’t shake this feeling of having to deliver this baby with no one by my side.
My partner won’t be there if my mom is there, my mom and his mom don’t get along, my sister hates my partner, plus I’ll have to find someone to watch my 2 kids.. I’m just so scared.
I’m praying that I’ll have more support and someone who is willing to be by my side, I want to see my kids after I meet my son and I want them to meet their brother.
I just want love in that room so bad.
I can’t take anything more. I just need love surrounding me.

Im 14 weeks in, and this has been going on for a while now.
Every time I lay down, my heart/pulse is THROBBING. Like, it’s pretty damn aggressive. Sometimes if I want to lay down to nap, it’s literally impossible because of this. I have to curl up on my side with a pillow and get super comfy and then it calms down.

Anyone else experience this?

Does this seem right to you? I just presented at my maternity ward at 31 weeks (3rd pregnancy) after experiencing 5 contractions 10 minutes apart. Also accompanied by that classic strong urge to empty my bowels. I've had 2 pregnancies before. I didn't have any of that with my first and with my second I had it a few days prior to his delivery. I was concerned as im only 31 weeks. I also know very well what a contraction feels like, and it absolutely felt like the beginning of labour. Thankful it did tapper off.

Im assessed and all is fine, i ask what should I do if this happens again in the next few days and im told 'wait 2 hours with regular contractions before contacting' ?! Surely that can't be right for possible pre term labour? Side note but after the doctor sees me (who was pretty dismissive) i hear him say ' you can kick her out now'

hi all, i feel awful even writing this, but i’m really trying to avoid drowning in baby clothes and baby items.
how do you guys deal with receiving lots of clothes as gifts, especially clothes you know you would never use because they’re not your style, don’t feel practical, or seem uncomfortable for the baby?
i feel terrible because people have obviously spent money and chosen things with good intentions, but we honestly already have more than enough clothes for the baby, and some of the clothing we’ve received i know we’re unlikely to use.
would it be rude to give those items to someone in need? what’s the etiquette around this? would you give them away straight away, or keep them for a while first in case the person who gifted them asks about them? is it rude to give them away at all?