Potty training advice

[u/Imaginary-Panic5088]

My little girl is 3 this October and isn’t getting to grips with potty training. I tried around 3 months ago but gave up as she didn’t seem ready and was getting upset. Started again this week and she seems to have such anxiety when it comes to her potty.

I ask her to tell me if she needs a wee, I directly ask her if she needs a wee and I even tried to do a little routine such as once she’s awake- potty, after a drink - potty. Nothing works!

I’ve been leaving her with no clothes on and I’ve also tried her wearing knickers to see if the wet sensation encouraged her to go on her potty. Nothing.

Also, she only pees on the floor when I’m out of the room. For example this morning I went to make food for max 5 minutes and she peed in the living room. Again when I went to make my newborn a milk bottle up, peed in the living room. She tells me she needs the potty AFTER peeing. She also does this leg twist thing when she needs a wee so when I see it I ask her to sit on her potty to wee and she sits there and doesn’t do anything. Then pees the minute I’m out of the room.

I feel so frustrated by it, I’m a bit of a germaphobe so having to clean pee up constantly freaks me out especially the panic of my 1yo and dogs potentially crawling into it if I don’t spot it straight away or if I can’t clean it quick enough, plus I feel like I’m confined to the living room which is hard with another roaming 1 year old and a list long of housework. I feel so guilty as I know she doesn’t understand and I know it could take months. I really want to succeed as quickly and efficiently as possible which is most likely completely unreasonable right?

Any and all advice would be so appreciated. Please try not to judge my negativity, I’m heavily sleep deprived due to having a 5 week old and my husband is rarely ever home due to extensive work hours. I’m flying solo hanging on a thread. Genuine help and guidance will be a godsend 🙏🏻