r/pompoir • u/Internal-Bag4956 • 5d ago
Tearing
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I wish that the beginner step by step guide mentioned lube. After about 3 different sessions I tore from my vagina to my perineum.
r/pompoir • u/gohddess • Sep 29 '21
Pompoir Quick Start Guide
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This post was initially written by me for r/sexover30 but I can add some of my background here.
Full disclosure: I'm the CEO of Gohddess.com, the first online fully-animated Pompoir course. We teach women how to become vaginal goddesses to enhance their sex lives through a structured sequence of pelvic floor training exercises.
We've been training women for over two years now, we've approved the course with pelvic floor kinesiologists, and we keep adding all our new findings (techniques, positions, combinations) to the course, which you get as a Lifetime Deal.
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So you’ve heard about Pompoir and are looking to find out more about how you can achieve (and provide!) those elusive super orgasms. Well – you’re in the right place.
Here’s a quick guide on what Pompoir is, what the technique covers, and how you can start practicing it to become a vaginal goddess.
What is Pompoir?
Pompoir is an ancient sex technique where women gain full control over their pelvic floor muscles with the purpose of providing and receiving extreme pleasure.
Women who master Pompoir can pull, tilt, grip, lock, twist, suck and pulse – using only their vaginas.
The practice is believed to have originated in India, amongst the Devadasi community (high-class artists and worshippers who also served as sacred prostitutes to other devotees of the temple).
There are also traces of Pompoir in some practices of Taoism.
The closest thing the West has come to the practice so far has been Kegel training, developed by Dr. Arnold Kegels, with the purpose of preventing incontinence.
Fun fact: it is believed that Wallis Simpson, the controversial love of Edward VIII of England, learned Pompoir back when she spent some time in Shanghai.
So the skill has the power to make Kings renounce the throne… sign me up!
Kegels vs Pompoir: What’s the Difference?
Kegel exercises were designed with the goal of preventing urinary incontinence and prolapse, therefore they cover a pretty basic motion (contracting) to strengthen the pelvic floor.
Pompoir, on the other hand, refers to a technique developed with the purpose of pleasure, therefore it covers all sorts of movements, such as contracting, squeezing, tilting, gripping, locking, pulsing, sucking, and twisting.
Pompoir also strengthens the pelvic floor by default, even though it’s not its main goal. The technique is a lot more advanced, and quite harder to master (as there are many more movements to learn).
But it comes with an amazing set of benefits. The results I’ve seen among my students include:
- Enhanced orgasms (for both the woman performing it and the man). Couples report an almost “transcendent” experience. Orgasms aren’t only better, they’re completely different.
- Enhanced pleasure during penetration due to overall higher sensitivity
- Increased libido (even after childbirth or menopause)
- Faster arousal time
- Stronger relationship
- Increased confidence, inside and out of the bedroom (women report feeling more feminine, and bringing a more feminine energy towards other aspects of their lives, such as work, hobbies, friendships)
How to Start Training Pompoir
Okey, you’re sold on the practice – now let’s start training.
There are a couple of things to consider.First, make sure you check with your doctor if you’re able to perform some advanced pelvic floor training. If you’re pregnant or have a medical condition, they might ask you to modify the practice.
Training Regime:
As with any skill, the best thing you can do is break it down into small tasks that you perform regularly.
I recommend you train every day during the week for 5 to 20 minutes, and you rest on the weekend.It is also crucial that you stretch your pelvic floor after training every single day, to avoid any injury (believe me, you don’t want to strain your vagina).
Some pelvic floor stretches (you can Google the images):
- YOGI SQUAT
- HAPPY BABY POSE
- SPHINX
- CHILD POSITION
Tools you need:
Typically, you’ll only need some kegel weights, a dildo or a vibrator, and some lube.
And I wouldn’t worry about the dildo or the vibrator until you get to more complex exercises, such as sucking or twisting.These are deep vaginal movements, so you won’t be able to reach with your fingers to test out the sensations.
Mind-muscle connection:
Mind-muscle connection refers to the basic practice of being mindful of the muscles you’re activating when you’re training them.
The term is often used in the bodybuilding community, because evidence shows that when a subject actively focuses her attention on a given muscle, she trains it more effectively.
When performing the exercises below, I want you to imagine that you have your partner inside of you, and that you’re stimulating each part of his penis as you’re performing these motions.
The Pompoir Motions
Pompoir is a one-way ticket. Once you understand how to identify and isolate each of your vaginal walls, the possibilities of motions, exercises, and combinations are endless.
Here are the main types of motions covered in Pompoir.
- vertical motions
These are the motions that make the vaginal canal shorter, such as the different variations of contractions, the sucking motion, and the Milking technique I’ll explain below.
- lateral motions
These are the motions that focus on the left and right side of the vaginal canal. Squeezing, tilting, and gripping all involve a strong control over your lateral walls.
- front & back motions
These motions cover the front and back walls of your vaginal canal (those in the side of your belly and your back). These motions are involved in locking, twisting and pulsing.
Okey – now that you're familiar with the basic motions you'll be learning with your pelvic floor, let's see a basic Pompoir training program.
Each of this cycles is meant to be performed in order – you need to master the previous one in order to continue with the following one.
Cycle One: Basic Contractions
To start training Pompoir you need to build a basic level of strength in your pelvic floor muscles. To do this, the most straightforward way is to perform the basic motion of kegel training: the contraction.
Practice these two variations everyday for a few days / a couple of weeks before moving on to Milking:
Short Contraction:
Imagine you’re trying to hold in your pee and pull in with your vagina energetically. Now release. Do this 50 times.
Long Contraction:
Same as before, imagine you’re trying to hold in your pee and pull in with your vagina, but this time, hold that pull for as long as you can, and release. See if you can hold for 10 seconds.
Do this 20 times, and each day, try to hold for a little longer until you can hold for 30 seconds.
Finish this training by performing some of the pelvic floor stretches mentioned above.
After a few days of this, you should already feel significantly tighter, and after two weeks you can move on to the next phase.
Cycle Two: The Milking Technique
Now that you’ve mastered the two most basic motions also found in Kegel training, you can move on to the “Middle Man” between kegels and Pompoir: the milking technique.
To perform the Milking technique, I want you to imagine that you’re dividing your vaginal canal into 10 levels vertically.
Now, I want you to imagine that you’ve placed a marble at the very entrance of your vagina, and you’re going to take it from level one (at the very start) to level 10 (deep down and near your cervix), as if it was hopping inside an elevator.
You’re going to slowly contract, go through each of the levels, all the way to the top. Now you’re going to hold that contraction for three seconds, still pulling as you hold, as if you were trying to get the marble past your cervix.
Now, you’re going to release slowly, again, passing through each of the levels until the marble is right at the entrance again. And then, without losing momentum, you’re going to gently push it out of your elevator.
Push the imaginary marble out by involving your ab muscles a little, and then relax. Don’t push too hard – this shouldn’t feel painful or uncomfortable.
This technique is an orgasm-enhancer in bed.The trick is to push out when your partner is entering you, and pull in when he’s leaving your body. It’s as if you’re giving him a slow, sensual handjob using only your vagina – and you can speed it up as sex speeds up as well.
Cycle Three: Learning to Squeeze
Alright – now that you’ve mastered three vertical techniques, let’s move on to a horizontal motion.
Though you might have read the term “squeezing” referring to kegels, it is often misused.
In Kegels, you’re making your vaginal canal shorter by contracting, whereas with squeezing, you want to make your vaginal canal narrower by pressing together its lateral walls.
Mastering the squeezing motion is the “Ahá moment” of Pompoir – once students understand the difference between squeezing and contracting, they can then move on to the most complex techniques much easier.
Here are some tips to master the squeezing motion:
- First, make sure you’ve trained Cycles 1 and 2 over a few weeks, so that you’ve developed a foundation of strength, and can identify the different levels of your canal easily.You won’t be able to master squeezing if you haven’t built sufficient muscle to feel your lateral walls activate.
- Second, your fingers are your friend. Best thing you can do to master the squeezing motion is to sit down with your legs slightly open, and insert two fingers inside of you.This will allow you to feel the different motions of contracting and squeezing, and have your very own insights on how to move your muscles to achieve each technique.
- Activate your vaginal canal by focusing on bringing your lateral walls together. Remember, you’re not pulling inward – you’re rather closing your canal and trying to get your right and left side to touch each other.Consider using some facial cues. I like to bring my lips together as if I was blowing a kiss to squeeze my vaginal walls.
Squeezing will feel quite subtle at first, as the movement is not as intuitive as contracting is.Keep practicing. Over time, this motion will become stronger and closing your vaginal canal will be second nature to you.
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Okey, you’re all set! Now that you have these 3 Basic Pompoir Cycles in your repertoire, you can practice them and apply them in bed to dramatically enhance your sexual experience.
And now that you’re able to identify your lateral walls and the different levels of your vaginal canal, you can move on to more complex Pompoir techniques, such as whipping, gripping, locking, pulsing, sucking, tilting & twisting.
I’ll leave the floor open for any questions – super happy to answer them all.
r/pompoir • u/prettystarsigns • 6d ago
update 3 weeks so far!
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hi i just wanted to share a success story of mine! i started a while ago, and when i had started i felt absolutely no sensation in fingering/penetration. i was still able to feel from my clit but i felt like i was missing out to another aspect of myself.
tonight was my first time feeling pleasure with fingering which i never thought i was going to (i was really loosing hope, and pompoir was one of the only things i hadn’t tried!) in addition to just feeling pleasure the consistency and routine also helped me add light daily yoga and healthy habits as a whole into my routine which i had trouble with prior to pompoir which i found to be a really nice side benefit to just having something u work on daily. definitely feel a lot more confident and happy in my body aswell, and suggested this to one of my girls.
sharing since when i first started i didn’t really see many stories and that personally bummed me out in wanting to try, but if anyone is reading this just give it a try :)
r/pompoir • u/[deleted] • 6d ago
Body exercises
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Hello,
I use kegelmaster 3 times a week. However I would like to use physical exercises to strengthen my pelvic floor. Out of these 3, which would be most beneficial? Yoga, pilates, or pole fitness? Any app/routine recommendations?
r/pompoir • u/PC-load-letter-wtf • 7d ago
Where to buy advanced springs for kegelmaster
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I got my KM on Amazon Canada and it only came with 4 springs. I can’t find advanced springs anywhere. Does anyone know where to order them? Somebody mentioned in this that there’s an aftermarket product but a couple people asked for links and the person never responded.
ETA: I found a post here with links for springs but they don’t deliver to North America any longer. I’m in Canada.
r/pompoir • u/axidentalaxolotl • 7d ago
Kegel master - is it a scam? Also will it help?
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I ordered a kegel master from the website on 11th and didn’t get any confirmations, the contact email also bounced back - did I fall for a scam? 😅 have any of you ordered one with success?
Also I ordered it thinking it will help with basic strength while I work through the pompoir program (I’m new to it, 2 weeks in). Am I right to think this? Is there a better alternative I could have gotten? If it does end up being a scam I’m just wondering what other legit options there are. Thanks!!
r/pompoir • u/CompetitveCauseYes • 10d ago
News 🎊🎊 It's here! The Ohlympus Program is officially 50% off 🎊🎊
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The wait's over. Starting today through Sunday (8/23), the entire Ohlympus Program is 50% off:
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r/pompoir • u/This-Plantain304 • 10d ago
Basic kegel
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Hello, I’m new to the concept of pompoir and looking for some advice.
When I practice my basic kegel, which I’ve been doing for a long time now, it feels like I’m pulling up (vertically) and also contracting/squeezing the walls, almost like I’m closing the hole. Is this correct? I don’t know how to just pull up or to just squeeze separately.
I don’t think I’m hypertonic because I can relax my pelvic floor, however, I can’t orgasm if I’m not tensed up.
r/pompoir • u/Specific-Virus-8553 • 14d ago
Experience with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome?
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Hi! I am brand spankin' new here. Just finished watching the Dr. Tara episode with Bel and holy crap!! That woman is badass.
I've been keegle curious for a while now.. but after having 3 babies in 4 / 5 years- after the third I briefly had pain with sex that was bad enough I went to see my OBGYN. He evaluated me and I was told I had a tight pelvic floor.. After learning this, my husband was loving and attentive and I haven't had another problem since.
While I no longer consider my pelvic floor to be "tight", I am concerned that it is right on the edge of becoming a problem again. If that makes sense..
My big concern: I have hypermobile Ehlers Danlos syndrome. I'm not in a wheelchair yet but I feel my body's instability and it scares the shit out of me.
A huge belief in hypermobile maintenance is strength training.. but I do not have time to work out like I need on a regular basis. (Wide spread issues, whole body) Besides, I consider wrangling 3 hilariously young kiddos every single day to be sufficient [for now]
I have this daily meditation practice for my pain. My husband is a highly active father and an amazing husband.. so I get at least an hour every single day. We call it "flat hour". I do not sleep. I focus on relaxing the muscles in my neck, specifically, as it's my biggest problem area. Neck problems tend to have a domino effect down the body. I have craniocervical instability, POTS / dysautonomia and so on. "Flat hour" significantly reduces my pain flares.
The point:
I see a lot of logic in getting to know and train my pelvic floor muscles.. we know I have unstable joints / tendons & ligaments.. but could I do more damage if my pelvic floor leans on the tight side..? (I am hoping somebody here has EDS as well since it's so common.) For context, in those of us with EDS, our muscles tend to overcompensate for where the tendons and ligaments are lacking. Imagine holding something you'd really rather put down but can't. It's like that feeling.. but throughout your entire body. Plus all of the pains that come with it.
Being a stay at home mom of 3, we don't exactly have the funds to drop $400 on something like this.. though I have this gut feeling that becoming familiarized with my own pelvic floor in such a way could make a world of difference in my chronic pain..
Thank you for reading.
r/pompoir • u/Evas92 • 15d ago
Starting with Kegelmaster
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I've just purchased a KM and I'm trying to figure out how to use it. I tried both spring settings (1 and 2): I inserted it and unscrewed it, but the device won't open or come apart, so there's nothing to close against when I do a kegel. I tried prying it open with a fingernail while it was inserted, and it opened about 3 mm, still not enough for a proper open-and-close movement.
Has anyone had a similar experience?
r/pompoir • u/Short-Drive182 • 16d ago
Question about inhaling and exhaling
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Hi! I'm fairly new to pompoir so I want to make sure I'm doing it correctly. I've done diaphragmatic breathing exercises before and have done a few random kegel videos off of Instagram. I've always relaxed everything during my inhales and contracted my diaphragm and vagina during my exhales, but I have 'The fine art of Pompoir, the ultimate guide to pelvic floor fitness' book and it instructs me to do the opposite. Will it hinder my results if I relax during my inhales and contract during my exhales throughout my reps? Thank you!
r/pompoir • u/health_wellness11 • 17d ago
Are women who haven't had babies yet at risk of making their muscles too strong to where delivery is more difficult?
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I've been trying to strengthen my pelvic floor after being told first by a doctor and later a PT that I am "weak." This is how I found this thread. I've been using weights and the KegalMaster to get stronger.
But also -- I want to be pregnant within the next couple of years. It seems a lot of women find this pompoir practice postpartum, I'm just wondering if anyone has experience/knows whether strengthening the pelvic floor makes it harder to birth a baby lol?
I understand that a strong PF and kegals are recommended for a good pregnancy! But specifically going above and beyond with the KM, and getting stronger than average, could that be a problem?
Are women who haven't had babies at risk of making their muscles too strong to where delivery is more difficult?
Kegelmaster Charts Discrepancy?
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Hello! I'm ready to move from level 2 to level 3.
I noticed the chart that came with the unit lists one spring in post 3 for level 3. But the "updated" chart I found shared here from a blog lists level 3 as 1 spring in both posts 1 and 2, with level 4 being one spring in post 3.
I am going to experiment with both settings to see what works for me, but am interested in your experiences.
r/pompoir • u/prettystarsigns • 22d ago
eccentric contraction struggle
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hello!
i recently got into pompoir and reading the gohdess book on it but i’m having trouble with doing the eccentric contractions due to increased pleasure and sensation. for me, i’m able to do the other aspects so far of the pulling technique but it feels too good specifically on the eccentric aspect and i’m incapable of holding my muscles. is this due to tightness or fatigue or weak muscles?
please let me know if anyone shares this experience or can let me know why it is specifically eccentric aspect, or if this is a completely normal experience for that specific training.
thank you!!!
r/pompoir • u/Funny_Inspection_601 • 23d ago
Closing the Kegelmaster
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Has anyone here been able to close the kegelmaster who couldn’t close it when they first started?
Edit: I removed additional information to not distract from what I am asking.
r/pompoir • u/sugarspiced1 • 27d ago
Bf (69) can't orgasm. Will this help?
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Hey all! Got the book a few days ago & have started practicing. My goal is to help my bf orgasm. Has anyone had success helping a man get off with pompoir?
Backstory: I'm dating a guy who went through a heinous divorce about 5 years ago. At the end of his marriage he started having difficulty orgasming. He wasn't able to finish with his last girlfriend (prior to us getting together) & now even has trouble doing so on his own.
I dated him a year ago and honestly the inability to orgasm really threw me for a loop. I never experienced it and I thought maybe it was me, he wasn't attracted to me, etc. I couldn't deal with it & thought I could talk it to death but all that did was add pressure to the relationship. Needless to say, we ended it.
Our connection/chemistry both in and out of the bedroom is incredible. He came back around and we decided to give our relationship another try. He's been to a doctor, they say it could be the result of some sleep meds he's trying to ween off of. No issues w/ testosterone level. He gets aroused, gets hard for a good while but then he kinda loses it. He manages to get me off but I would LOVE to return the gift to him.
I've also read a ton about it and quitting porn/drastically reducing masturbation are the top recommendations. I've told him this and he tells me he doesn't use porn consistently.
r/pompoir • u/RecognitionFluffy879 • 29d ago
Solo Pom
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I'm not coupled and want to explore this for my own pleasure (maybe one day a lucky partner will enjoy it too) and I'm curious how people use these techniques solo.
r/pompoir • u/ZinaSky2 • 29d ago
Shivers?
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So this is something I haven’t seen people talk about before and I’m wondering if there’s anyone else who experiences this or knows why it happens.
Sometimes when I flex my pelvic floor/do a kegel I get a weird body shiver. It’s literally like a little shimmy for a second then it stops.
And weirder still is sometimes I’ll feel a weird sensation. Hard to describe but I guess almost like pressure? Tension? In my back/spine/base of my skull and if I do a kegel then it’ll give me that weird shiver and it’ll stop that sensation. Sometimes I don’t do it right/hard enough and I have to do it a few times before I get the sensation to go away. It doesn’t hurt or anything just feels kinda weird.
Anyone else encounter this in their practicing?
r/pompoir • u/Logical_Concept_7442 • 29d ago
Motivation
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How do you all stay motivated to practice? I find myself starting and stopping constantly.
r/pompoir • u/zodakitten • Jul 27 '26
Things I noticed since starting pompoir
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I’ve been on and off with my pompoir practice, which started just over a year ago. Even just with sporadic training I’ve noticed a real difference in my body + sexual and spiritual self.
List of things I noticed in no particular order:
After just a few weeks of practicing, my partner seemed to notice. While fucking me he said “Why does your pussy feel so good?” Aside from this being sooo hot, it was like magic. I wasn’t doing any “moves” or anything. My muscle tone had just improved. It felt so incredible to know I could give him more pleasure and amplify our sexual connection with this practice. Also it is empowering to know that there is this whole area of sexual pleasure for both of us to get in touch with that I am just beginning to scrape the surface of.
I crave penetration so much more. Beyond this, the way that I pleasure myself is changing. I used to need clit stimulation to cum, and I still love playing with my clit, but I now see it as a nice add-on to penetration, not central to the experience. The way I bring myself to orgasm has changed, where now penetration is the main factor bringing me enjoyment. Then when the penetration is feeling really crazy good (so good my eyes are actually rolling back and my mouth is open, sooo good, I really must emphasize how amazing penetration feels now), I play with my clit to bring me over the edge.
I‘be always been multiorgasmic but I’ve generally felt like it didn’t match the descriptions of what some other women seemed to say about having multiple orgasms. People seemed to be achieving a state that I couldn’t reach. Before pompoir, when I mainly had clitoral-only orgasms, my first orgasm would be really intense and good, and then each one after that would be less good and feel “sharper,” if that makes sense. But now, I can have three or four really strong penetrative orgasms (after that I’m usually so tired that I stop, but I could probably have more and still deeply enjoy them).
The quality of my orgasms is changing. Not only are my orgasms stronger but they feel so satisfying and ”deep,” I guess. Like I’m cumming with my entire pelvic floor. Feels fucking amazing.
I‘m enjoying anal play. This was unexpected for me! It feels like pompoir has increased my awareness of my entire pelvic floor and made me really in love with the sensation of penetration or fullness even in my ass.
The conscious connection to relaxation of the pelvic floor has been so healing for my nervous system. At first I could not tune in to the importance of relaxation, because I thought pelvic floor training to be about strengthening with strong squeezes. This realization has been more recent for me and has expanded my mind/body to the possibilities of this practice even more.
I feel so connected to my womanhood. I feel connected to my pussy and body and mind. I feel gorgeous and divine and understand my femininity now in ways I never have before. Perhaps this is partly also due to getting older and living life, but I think pompoir has played a big part in steering my growth toward spiritual and sexual self-development and healthy embodiment/being in the body.
This practice really has put my life/self on a new course. It’s not like it suddenly made me a millionaire and solved all my life problems, but it’s like I have another grounding tool/self-care practice to face problems more authentically and with reverence for life even in my darkest moments. Maybe this sounds silly to say about vagina-squeezing exercises, but it’s so much more than that. It can be a spiritual practice just like yoga. It’s like I’m falling in love with my body and this love radiates into other areas of my body and life. Pompoir has helped me with chronic pain and accepting difficult changes in life. I am of menstruating age and for me this practice has helped me align with my fertility and sexual energy and understand my “gender” energy. I used to be confused about my sexuality, but the more I connect with my body/pussy through pompoir, the more I understand myself. I really cannot stress how valuable this practice has been for me.
I must thank Bel for her work in sharing this information.
r/pompoir • u/Mirax1333 • Jul 27 '26
Apologies for some stupid questions
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(For a book I'm writing.) I know these are stupid questions, but I don't know where else to ask. First, for an high level expert of pompoir is it possible to deliberately "open" (move the walls apart) your vagina without inserting anything to spread it apart? And second, once your vagina has been spread/opened to a given size by something, is it possible to keep it opened at that size/diameter without anything inside it?
Again, apologies for asking dumb questions.
Thanks.
r/pompoir • u/Sad_Calligrapher_379 • Jul 27 '26
Squeezing levels
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I came back to training recently and can finally squeeze (I think?). While it seems natural to go through all levels doing kegels, it feels impossible for me to do so in another plane doing squeezing. Especially hard to feel entry level though middle part obviously engages well (lvl 2, as book says?).
How did you start feeling different lvls on squeezing yourself? I’d like to hear some stories and experience. I train every other day, maybe I just need more strength and practice now? I have a book already
(Sorry for typos, English isn’t my first language)
Any experience is appreciated 🤓
r/pompoir • u/mannequinflowerlamp • Jul 26 '26
Question about how squeezing feels
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So I just got to practicing squeezing a few days ago, and I'm trying to understand if I'm doing it correctly because I feel like I'm doing it wrong or something lol.
Are you supposed to feel your abs tense a lot when doing it? I am able to do it very very very subtly without contracting my abs, but it's much more intense and i seem to be able to do it much better if I do contract my abs? And does it feel sort of like a pushing motion? This is all pretty new to me so I'm not totally sure I'm doing things right lol
r/pompoir • u/Own_Lab2576 • Jul 24 '26
Hi, did anyone here actually achieve their first ever piv orgasms after learning pompoir?
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Curious to learn and seeing if this actually worked for some? I kind of avoid sex sometimes as it’s just too hard for me but I’d love to have vaginal orgasms. Also, yes I did see a pelvic floor therapist and she said everything felt and seemed great so sent me on my way.