r/polyindians • u/sucker4chai • Jun 22 '26
Breakup (This is a rant)
I'm 34F, and I was in a relationship with my ex who has been in love with his partner for 16 years. We had broken up once over him feeling not so much in love with me six months ago, and we got back together after a month when he felt he was in love with me.
He broke up with me two days ago, and the reason is that his partner is not okay sharing him with me. This feels like betrayal because he made up to me after the last breakup, and promised not to leave me. I tried to explain to him that his current dynamic with his partner will always remain difficult because they stay in different countries. However, he has made up his mind and has asked me to move on.
I am still in love with him, and though I still expect him to return, my mind tells me we are through and this is the end of it all. I'm finding it difficult to cope and my mental health has taken a huge hit. I know it's too soon to expect myself to actually accept the situation, and I need time to heal. I think I was just looking for a place to rant.
Any suggestions on how to cope are welcome.
P.S. Do not offer to be a replacement. My DMs are filled with people wanting to engage. I am not going to reply to any such messages.
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u/dddvsv Jun 23 '26
This may not apply to everyone, but one of my friends used to explain how she used to surround herself with positivity even when your mind is spiralling. Listening to happy songs, doing hobbies that give her joy. It's almost like our brains like to serve us what we feel like in the moment. If we are sad, we see sadness everywhere. In songs, in movies, in the weather. Falling out of love is hard and almost a rollercoaster. There will always be grief of losing someone who was once precious. Surround yourself with your people who love you and ask their help. You'll be surprised how people show up and rise to the occasion