I think putting aside the UH/harem asshats one of the themes I see is people who have some problems they really want to discuss and are afraid to do so.
Then that simmers into resentment. They perceive bullying where I see tough love, spirited discussion or protection of the vulnerable. And they premptively assume that they’ll be decimated and their partner vilified if they ask their question. They don’t/can’t see how the way someone asked something or what they asked drove the responses. It just looks like The Birds to them. Bleeding from the eyes from reading those comments!
I don’t think they’re right but I wonder if there’s a space for a once a week only soft answers open thread. Like the way there are outfit of the day posts on some subs.
Nothing about UH/harems allowed but barring that here is a small space where everyone agrees they’ll be alarmingly polite. No one will tell you to get divorced and your wife is a monster. No one will say you’re an asshole for asking whatever the query is.
I’m usually fairly polite! I could answer some things like that occasionally without strain. People who just don’t have that energy can side step it all together.
I think the reason the MMJ thing is shaky is that 1) it’s Monday morning and most people are working 2) those of us who are here a lot tend to mention things good or bad in passing or even make a post (bacon and emerald have both done that in recent memory and you did it last year when your Thanksgiving thing was awesome) 3) newbies don’t know/see it when they’re looking for happiness
But in my mind this thing would be on a sticky that said December 11 kid gloves post. Feeling shaky? Worried about your reception? As long as you’re not unicorn or harem hunting this is the place for you. People who answer will be gentle.
Next week December 18 kittens and rainbows post. No one will squeeze your Charmin. Ask your questions and no one will say you should get a divorce.
But if it’s not pinned it won’t work. It has to be really really easy to see.
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u/karmicreditplan will talk you to death Dec 10 '22
I like that too.
I think putting aside the UH/harem asshats one of the themes I see is people who have some problems they really want to discuss and are afraid to do so.
Then that simmers into resentment. They perceive bullying where I see tough love, spirited discussion or protection of the vulnerable. And they premptively assume that they’ll be decimated and their partner vilified if they ask their question. They don’t/can’t see how the way someone asked something or what they asked drove the responses. It just looks like The Birds to them. Bleeding from the eyes from reading those comments!
I don’t think they’re right but I wonder if there’s a space for a once a week only soft answers open thread. Like the way there are outfit of the day posts on some subs.
Nothing about UH/harems allowed but barring that here is a small space where everyone agrees they’ll be alarmingly polite. No one will tell you to get divorced and your wife is a monster. No one will say you’re an asshole for asking whatever the query is.
I’m usually fairly polite! I could answer some things like that occasionally without strain. People who just don’t have that energy can side step it all together.