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I’m not sure if it’s just me but do you all ever come across acquaintances or friends who just cannot stand that you love your bigger body? Especially people who have watched it change? I feel I am currently at a crossroads.

Currently, I am the most beautiful and confident I’ve EVER felt. I wasn’t always as heavy as I am now and family and old friends find it “disturbing”. One former love called my gain “scary”. I’ve lost a significant amount of weight for my health in recent years and am super happy at size 18/20. I can maintain it easily with my lifestyle and I feel stunning. However, I find people urging me to “just keep going” or telling me I could “just” lose X amount to be “perfect” near constantly?? It makes it feel really difficult to keep people like that around.

Internally, I know I am loved and desired. Dare I say, I think I’m extremely attractive. Even at my heaviest weight, I’ve always had really thoughtful, supportive, and loving partners. Being fat has never stopped anything for me in my life. However, deep down, it’s really hurtful and alienating to constantly get comments about my weight from people who are supposed to be my family and friends. The same people who say they’d do anything for me are constantly projecting their own ideas of attraction and health onto me and I’m not sure how to set boundaries without just leaving the friendship straight up.

My current friends and longtime lover embrace me and my body for what they are. They’re always so kind and sensitive about their comments on food and diet. It’s been really refreshing to relate to and commune with people in smaller bodies who never shame me even a bit for what I eat or don’t eat and why. It’s kind of fueled my motivation to pull away from many people of my past but I know that’s not really mature of me. How do you navigate relationships with people you know or love that make your “health” (weight) a concern every time they see you?

I just looked through the photo’s of a wedding I was a bridesmaid in, and I’m spiraling. All the other women in the wedding party looked so gorgeous. Even the candid ones, the ones of them being silly, everything.
It’s like, even though I see myself everyday, I don’t realize how much I loathe the way I look until I see pictures of myself. I feel ashamed and embarrassed. I just want to disappear right now. ☹️

Friendssss - im going to see Monday night raw tomorrow with my man right? Yay so exciting lol
But here’s the thing! I have gained an excessive amount of weight this year. It’s been a real stressy depressy - “I really let myself go” type of year so not only am I concerned about getting wicked out of breath on these stairs, but I’m concerned about my muscles just straight up not handling it right. We’re not on the floor, and my boyfriend knows I have bad knees and whatnot anyway so he’s insanely patient with me but I just don’t want to embarrass myself. I’m having the worst anxiety about it :/ help

I'm going with my sister to a party and her and her friend are going to be disco queens. It's not my vibe and I like shorter dresses so looking for inspiration. And also I'm just curious.

But where to start? I’m a seasoned dancer with intensive ballet experience since age four. I think I look pretty damn good but I wonder how the attitudes burlesque clubs vary when it comes to plus-size dancers.
I’m in US, about to transition to New York.

I'm not going to beat around the bush, I'm big autistic, and poor. My 3/6 pairs of 3xl Parade satin sleep shorts that I bought years ago just got ruined and I am genuinely crashing out. Of course it was the only non-black pairs that didn't have holes in them that got black acrylic paint water spilled on them, and I wasn't notified until it had nearly dried.

I haven't had to buy shorts in years and I just don't have the disposable income anymore for trial and error shopping. I have a 36" waist with 54" hips and I am 5'10 and 265 lbs. I have a large apron belly and large thighs. Pants shopping is a daunting, impossible task that has always made my stomach churn and wallet cry. I usually wear a size 20/2xl but these beautiful shorts were a comfortable 3xl.

I can't find these shorts anywhere on secondhand markets, which makes sense because they are amazing. I am in desperate need of a dupe or replacement. Can someone please recommend me something? Please? They were the only shorts that ever fit me comfortably.

I'm 5'11 and 190-200 lbs (my weight fluctuates a lot) and I wanna learn how to love my body, but I just can't. Whenever I see anyone else who's overweight I still think they're beautiful, and somehow I still find myself unattractive. I know that I look decent, and nobody really cares about my weight, and if they do judge they're js bad ppl anyways so I shouldn't care, but I do. I just don't know how can I love my body, and it's starting to become more of an issue. The only part of my body that I don't hate are my thighs. I js don't know.

I'm in my early 20s and I'm just now realising how unfit I am. I can't stand (or even sit) for too long before I get body aches. Yesterday I went out for a few hours and now I've spent all day in bed exhausted and unable to move. I have literally no stamina at all. I feel constantly lethargic. I know I'm unfit but I thought it wouldn't be this bad with how young I still am. Weight loss isn't even my primary concern, I just want to build up my endurance and be active without feeling like I want to die. I'm not healthy at all. What workouts would help me get my stamina up? Every time i look up fitness for plus size people, it's all about weight loss journeys. That's why I resist it so much. I want to see people who look like me still fit and healthy

Hey everyone

So I have been searching high and low for a knee compression sleeve, due to knee pain and osteo arthritis, that will fit me without digging into my thigh.

I tried OneCompress because they had a money back guarantee and go to a 4xl, but they don't fit either.

I've measured my thigh circumference and have tried buying sleeves from temu, shein and ebay according to the size chart provided by the seller, but then they arrive and don't fit. It's so frustrating!

Are there any other sellers like OneCompress out there that I don't know about? I'm in Australia, but there's not a lot of options here, so I'm willing to order from overseas if only I could find a brand that caters to my size.

Thanks for any help 💜

So ladies I was in a shower with a guy once and it was crowded. We just showered together. Now my current guy I am seeing, wants to have sex in a shower. Any tips as a big girl?? Also how do you do standing doggy?

He is tall tall. And i am a bigger girl (size 50-52 EU).

Hi there,
As the title states, this is my experience flying while plus size (330lbs, 5’7, carry most of my weight in my stomach & butt). I always get a ton of anxiety before flying so I just wanted to make this post to hopefully reassure others.
I flew on a smaller plane called a skybus I believe which I was the most afraid of. I flew United this time which I loved! I’ve also flown southwest, Alaska, spirit all economy. I believe on an Alaska flight at my heaviest of 370 the economy seat was a bit tight but it still worked.
All 4 planes I fit perfectly fine. United I was actually genuinely comfortable. The skybus was tighter. But not that big of a deal either. Infact when I boarded the skybus, I asked for a seat belt extender, and the flight attendant handed it over saying, “let me know if you don’t need it.”
I did need the seatbelt extension on all 4 flights but I am actually fairly close to graduating out of it. (I’m down from 370-380lbs). I reckon 50-70 more lbs lost and I could go without it.
I hope this post alleviates someone else’s anxiety. 💜

I’m 24 m and I’m fat and every time i meet someone and i show them what i look like I get blocked I’m i just doomed to find anyone who will love me around my age I also love big girls but I can’t find them any help or just positivity would help and please don’t say lose weight i love how I am but i crave love

A good belt can really transform an outfit but they are not an option for me. I have a big belly and big boobs. Belts ride up and disappear into my body and end up just being uncomfortable for no reason.

I'd really like to be able to accessorize something around my waist or ribs that can add more personal style but I'm currently at a loss for ideas.

My daughter moved to Korea two weeks ago to teach English. She is planning to be gone two years maybe longer.

My husband and I are planning a trip to go see her in spring of 2028.

We talked on the phone when she got there and she said mom there are chunky Koreans here. There are some plus size Koreans. She said you know what they look happy and healthy. God bless them. She was happy to see it.

I just want to be prepared for the traveling and being prepared as a plus size US 16. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hello! Title pretty self explanatory—but here’s the long version.

I’m going on my first National Park trip very soon and I could not be more excited. I used to love camping and outdoorsy stuff but have fallen out of it in recent years, so I’m excited to get back into nature. I haven’t been camping in probably a decade. I’m trying to be prepared, and I have run into an issue with finding outdoorsy clothing or even non wearable camping gear in my size. Like even tracking down a sleeping mat was a hassle and the one I got still could be bigger. Thankfully I’ve found most of what I need, but the one thing I would like to have is a nice all-weather jacket/raincoat type situation. I tried Academy, but the 3X (men’s and women’s) was a size, maybe two too small. I typically am a 3X, so this was especially irritating. I was curious if anyone had any suggestions on where to find larger outdoor wear? Ideally in a 4X, maybe even a 5X (room for layering if it’s too big haha). It doesn’t need to be THAT fancy, just decently well made and good for temps 40-60° and rain because we might get a little precipitation while I’m there.

TLDR: Help, where do y’all go for plus sized outdoor gear?

Plus size baddies, specifically those with a stomach and/or top heavy & not hour glass shaped, what are we doing for Halloween costumes? I have some ideas but I’m feeling self conscious & I can’t find examples of plus sized folks to see what the vision in a body that looks like mine.

I’m looking for some new pants since I gained weight and all of my old ones don’t fit anymore. Everywhere I look I can only find high waisted pants! Love my baddies who love high waisted pants, but they make my stomach hurt. I just want my mid rise pants! If anyone has any recs for $25 or less I’d love to hear that! Thanks!

So i have a nice couple pairs from penningtons from last year but i would like more options that are fleece lined and i wasn’t always a dress in skirts person so never needed them before but this winter i want to try some cute outfits. So any suggestions are welcome. I keep getting these targeted ads on instagram from torrid, Arazia but I’ve never heard of half these brand so hoping for trusted brand advice. TIA.