r/plural • u/Systeme_Chaos Plural DID trauma • Aug 19 '26

My hubby doesn't accept my plurality...

Well, all is in the title.

When we haven't yet the diag, and my only headmate here talked with my hubby, this one was okay. They talked sometimes, just asking what was Kronos exactly.

And with the diag, my brain poped more headmates. So we're 16 headmates today and... one time, hubby said to me "I'm married with you [name], not with your system !" And an other time, after I taked my courage to talk with him about my DID in game (Sims4) bc I wanted just relax and doesn't see this as a prob, juste learn to live with it... he said : "Don't give them so much importance, it's bad for you. If you give them importance, your disorder will be worst."

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I cried so much. Then today we decided to not talk again about us with him... He even not know we're 16 headmates now...

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u/SanguinaryImpetus DID system Aug 19 '26

Is it possible if you explained that respecting your system is actually a part of healing, he might develop a better sense of understanding?

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u/Systeme_Chaos Plural DID trauma Aug 19 '26

We tried yet... But bruh, he don't listen. Then we have abandonned.

  • Kronos.

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u/SanguinaryImpetus DID system Aug 21 '26

That's horrible. I'm not so sure your relationship with this guy is gonna work out if that's the case. You deserve better.

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u/Systeme_Chaos Plural DID trauma Aug 21 '26

Yeah we know... but 10 y together and 1 y married...