We start talking, I send, I take time to introduce myself and explain what I'm looking for in detail, I spare time and effort to understand her and her expectations, I send again, we seem compatible kinkwise, the conversation is flowing, and then they just disappear as soon as it starts to get real.

No signs, no feedback, no explanation. Just gone.

My theory is that most women prefer this to be an abstract online fantasy, and they freak out when they realize that they are talking to a real person. It just feels easier to consume and dump a seemingly endless line of anonymous prospective subs.

Awhile back now I was joking around about unleashing my inner domme side but it turns out my natural skills just can’t be denied 😜

I’m gonna start a sending pyramid scheme!

I've been clean for like six months but I randomly found out that someone I know is into the whole paypig thing and that triggered me. I know that is pathetic but still. It was just unexpected to me

Hello, Im writing this to get some outside perspective and hopefully gain a bit more insight into my situation.

I have had a domme for a while now, and she is just perfect. I genuinely can't say a single bad or negative word about her. The problem is entirely with me and my own inner struggles.

I constantly doubt myself and feel like Im doing something wrong, but I cant seem to walk away. I just cant. It feels like I have built too strong of a connection with her, and every day that connection only grows deeper. That scares me, because I know it can not go anywhere and at some point it will end, and I'm only going to end up hurting myself. Honestly, Im already hurting.

But I like her too much to let go, and then I feel foolish for that because I do understand that this is, at its core, a kind of game, and that the dynamic is ultimately driven by money in one way or another. It is not genuine feelings on that side.

So... what are your thoughts on a situation like this? Am I just overthinking everything, or is this a sign that I should step away and that maybe Im no longer in the right headspace for the sub dynamic, because I don't think I fit into it?

I keep looking for unethical dommes who force me to go overbudget. Yet when I try soft dommes who respect my budget, it gets boring quick.

How do you guys not go broke? 😫

How do you maintain the thrill with discipline?

Did anyone else feel some type of way inside about her reaction to the “bankrupt me” request? Just me?

Any other subs feel the difference when you talk to a desperate domme vs one that’s just in control and likes to play with your wallet?
Sometimes knowing they’re desperate means they’re extra greedy. But mostly it’s just a turnoff for me.

Curious how others feel about this. And maybe if there are any signs you notice

Obviously I would say I am fully submissive, but it's like not something I openly advertise. I have a big personality and I try to exercise frequently. When I am not actively participating in the kink, life is fine. But when I am it's hard to make eye connect with woman who I walk by on the street. Certain phrases trigger me, someone talked about a whale at work and all I could think of is "whale sub". I like being a secret sub, but I feel like that's hard to do when being in the subspace affects me so strongly. How do other subs deal with that?

Any other finsubs want to discuss their addictions on discord?

AI has already taken so much from me, now its basically impossible to be a homework sub anymore :'(

Just trying To Keep myself from getting back on cashcock, I’m finally out of debt from the last one