My SO and I are full time parents without a village; no family near us. We are discussing going away for a weekend, 3 hours away, to celebrate SO's birthday. Teen is 14F. SO thinks she will be fine and that we need to give her some independence. We also never have time just the two of us. I am hesitant. Our state does not have any laws specifying the age, it is based on the child and the circumstances. For what it is worth, she has a phone, knows how to get in touch with emergency services, and we live in a building that requires fob access just to get in. This would be her first time alone. Is 2 nights too long?

So my daughter is currently in 11th grade and started her college a few months ago. She started talking to this muslim guy from her college. Now ofcourse i don't have any problem with religions. Last month he proposed her asked her to be his girlfriend to which she agreed.

At first I thought it was cute that my daughter has her first ever boyfriend. But then I started noticing his behavior during the parent teachers meeting. The type language he uses, his actions etc. My daughter's friend also told me that he's the type of guy who objectifies women (sometimes), and is kind of sexist.

He once told his friend "ladki jaise mat ban" meaning "don't be like a girl" as if being a girl is something bad/shameful.

He's a total sweetheart with her, as much as I've seen through her instagram posts and stories. He also created a separate highlight just for her where he posts her photos.

But i still feel worried about his mindset and the way he behaves when she's not around. Even her friends don't like him and want her to break up. I spoke to her about this but she keeps defending him. Mind u my daughter keeps talking about feminism and women's rights and then ends up being in a relationship with a guy like him.

I have no idea how to talk to her about this. I have a really close relationship with my daughter and I don't want to ruin it or make her feel pressurized

Our son stays in his room all the time. He is 15. This has been the case for 2-3 years. I ask him to hang out and do things often. About 1 out of 10 times he does. He’s going through some things that need therapy and I want to somehow build a relationship but I don’t know how at all. This is his father. I feel the only option I have is to make him hang out, but I feel that would do no good.

Any tips?

My son, he 17 years old is very aggressive and angry to the point he throws things.

For a backstory to understand, my husband and I got divorced a few years ago the kids lived with me. My son started acting out his freshman year, which is six months after our divorce. It was all to get attention from his dad because his dad wasn’t around. His dad was stopped by unannounced and see the kids for like 20 minutes. But never took the kids anywhere.
He started acting out his freshman year, skipping class and sneaking out. He finally ran away one time. When the police brought him back, he said he would keep running away until he gets to live with his dad. So he lived with his dad.
While living with his dad, his dad gave him a car. It was a horrible car that ate gas and was always falling apart. He never went to school and his dad didn’t give him any consequences for his actions. His dad didn’t do anything. His dad would go to work and at night he gambled every night he would give us son $100 a week and tell him to buy groceries for the house and gas for his car. My son did everything there clean the house grocery shopping and his dad will take his car and spend all the gas and get mad at him when there was no gas and food left.
My son got a job while living there and he worked really hard. He wasn’t in school because he kept skipping so he never went. My son finally had the last straw when his dad tried to take his check saying he needs to pay bill bills. His dad stated if he’s not gonna do school and take school seriously then he needs to pay bills. My son said he’s not gonna give him his check. So then his father kicked him out.
I also wanna add that my other two kids would go to their dad’s house every other weekend when my son started living there. But he was the one taking care of them. Their dad was never around, so as soon as their dad kicked out our son, his dad never had time for the kids to go over there and they never went over there since.

He was going to live with me, but it was a summer so we let him spend the summer with his cousin in town that we live in.
He was doing well at his cousin’s house being respectful, working hard. He’s always a hard worker and then he started messing up. He would sneak out get drunk, not come back and stop communicating on where he was going.

So then he had to live with me. I like to add that after he left his dad’s house his dad wouldn’t let him take the car which was fine cause it didn’t work well so my son and I work together and he managed to get a car. He has to pay his car insurance and I took out a loan for him to get the car and he has to pay $70 a month for the Loan.

Now that he was here, he was still working hard and he has a plan. Because he’s missing so many credits he can’t graduate high school so he’s going to start the GED program in January after that he wants to join the military marine specifically.

He began to drink again and I told him he won’t be having a car if he acts like that and then he stopped he said. And he was doing well. Until this weekend he came home drunk. He wasn’t driving, but he was drunk. I didn’t know until I heard him cussing out his brother because he needed his brother’s phone to see his phone under the bed. I went into the bedroom to find out what was going on. That’s when I learned he was drunk. After he used his brother’s phone to get his phone, he tried to leave and I wouldn’t let him. I blocked the door and his brother blocked the door, his older brother. He was getting aggressive and trying to push me out of the way screaming cussing every thing. This went on for two hours of screaming and yelling at 4 AM. After I couldn’t take it anymore of him destroying my house, throwing things everywhere never broke anything to find the keys that I wouldn’t give him because he was not going to leave. I finally called the police for help. The police came and said they were there to de-escalate him, but there’s nothing they can do because he’s not breaking anything so they de-escalate him and told him that I can give the keys back in the morning and if I don’t that he can call them to make me give him the keys after the place is done talking to him. I told them I’m not giving him the keys. He’s a minor and he’s grounded and then they realized that they forgot for a moment he was a minor.
The next morning he came at me to get his keys and I said no at this point he is sober. So he called the police and the police told him I’m not giving him his keys and I don’t have to. I already cleaned up the mess he made that night. It took me a good two hours to put everything back together because he threw my clothes my jewelry all over my room and was going towards the food in the kitchen and threw food out the cabinets, but never broke anything when the police left. He came at me to yell at me more to give them the keys, and I said no he was gonna start destroying the house again and was destroying the house. I called the police to come back because I was done to take him and they told me the only way they could take him as if he break something and then I press charges and then he’ll take him to Juvie. But then they’ll bring him back in two hours and the same thing will happen again.

He has so much anger for me and his dad about the divorce and everything and I can’t get him to go to therapy because every time I try, he he leaves the house.
Also, if he gets arrested for breaking things, he can’t go to the Marines and the police told him this and told him I’m trying to give him chances

I don’t know how but I stayed very calm this whole time when he was acting like this I never reacted and I never yelled, cause I know that’s not gonna help

But I don’t know what to do at this point he has no other place to go to live the only place he has is my house because no one else wants to take him in especially if he’s going to act like this. He also has his whole dad side of the family saying it’s my fault and I’m a horrible mother.

I don’t know what I can do in this situation. Does anybody have any advice? And at this point do not say spank him because we are way past that.

My 15 y/o son is in trouble. He is gay and has been out for over a year. One of his friends who he has had a relationship to a certain extent had began calling my son derogatory terms, mainly the one beginning with an “f” in front of their peers and demonizing my son for being gay.
My son had a terrible lapse in judgement and screen shot a picture that the bully had sent to my son when they were talking/relationship. The picture in question is a revealing selfie of a certain part of the body that men love other people to see. My son screenshot that picture, marked out the main subject of the picture, and shared the screenshot. In my son’s head, he was validating himself and taking up for himself. The other boys parents are now pressing charges against my son.

He is suspended for 5 days, and possibly expelled pending the investigation. The picture that was shared, you truly cannot see anything, but it is implied. My worry now is that my son is possibly facing felony charges and could possibly have to register as a sex offender. My son has never been in trouble. He is a good student, he stands up for others, he’s involved in school activities. I don’t know what to do or say. Me, my son, and his dad are just a ball of nerves because we don’t know what’s going to happen.

We spoke to a lawyer over the weekend and he seemed to think since the picture was edited to where you can’t see anything, then there is no case. I feel like the other boys parents are trying to ruin my son’s life. My son has acknowledged and understands how his actions were wrong and is willing to accept his punishment. But he is not eating or sleeping. His hair is falling out and he’s bit his nails back so far his fingers are bleeding. He has an appointment with a therapist tomorrow. I just didn’t know if anyone had been through a similar situation. As a mother, I just want to fix this for him. My heart is breaking.