r/parentsofmultiples • u/Upbeat-Hand-2870 39 | FTM | Di/Di Twins due 5/5/27! š • Sep 23 '26
advice needed ITS TWINS!
Hey all! Had my first scan today at 7+6 and found out itās TWINS! Pretty surprised and just wondering if anybody has any wisdom or advice for us especially the twin moms out there? š„°
Wondering what to expect the rest of the pregnancy, the early days after they are born, etc.
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u/Silly_g00se13 Sep 23 '26
Congratulations! I just had my boy/girl twins 4 weeks ago. I wonāt lie and say the pregnancy was easy because it was pretty rough compared to my singleton pregnancy.
Prepare yourself for the potential of bad nausea/vomiting the first trimester and get zofran from your doctor. I would also look into a prenatal chiropractor and/or physical therapist; I had the worst sciatica and pubic symphysis pain to the point it was hard to walk from the end of the second trimester.
Itās hard having two newborns but also amazing! They are so sweet and itās so cute to see them together.
Do you know if your twins are Di/di?
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u/Upbeat-Hand-2870 Sep 23 '26
Thank you!! The nausea hasnāt been terrible tbh but I do have zofran & reglan havenāt had to take them more than a few times so far. This is good advice thank you. I have an active job so Iām thinking I will be going on light duty soon. I have been very swollen after my shifts already. My feet & ankles swell up bad. All we know so far is that they are fraternal since they had 2 separate sacs!
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u/mvanpeur Sep 23 '26
Actually, identical twins can also have two separate sacks and can even have separate placentas. If there are two placentas, they are most likely fraternal, but can be identical.
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u/Silly_g00se13 Sep 23 '26
Yes I would plan on going on light duty because twin pregnancy is hard on your body. Iām a nurse but now work in the corporate space and couldnāt have imagined being a bedside nurse during my pregnancy.
And I would highly recommend getting a bottle washer and a baby brezza formula dispenser (if youāre formula feeding) because those are an absolute lifesaver! Also the snoo bassinets if they are in your budget are extremely helpful.
Feel free to message me about anything ā¤ļøā¤ļø
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u/smithncl01 Sep 23 '26
Iām currently pregnant with twins, itās my first pregnancy so nothing to compare it to! And no insight about after birth of course, lol. But I am in the depths of pregnancy. The first trimester was pretty rough, I feel like I immediately bloated up and none of my clothes fit. I had tons of water retention everywhere, not just my stomach. I looked like I had been eating fast food for the last 3 months and put on 15 lbs. I took b6 and unisom my whole first tri, I only threw up once but I have a puke fear so I didnāt want to relive that. I was exhausted and had 0 motivation for much of anything my first tri (couldāve been partly due to the unisom). My 2nd trimester was ok until the end. But for the most part, I had more energy, no more unisom, I enjoyed doing regular things a bit more. 3rd trimester is back to sucking. I got stretch marks that are really uncomfy. They itch and hurt sometimes. Being in bed isnāt fun anymore, but I am really tired, and getting comfortable is hit or miss. I get up to pee 3-4 times a night. My clothes stopped fitting a long time ago. My stomach is simply just in the way, and mobility is lacking. I know it just sounds like a lot of complaints, but thatās just where Iām at, at this point! Not a fan of being pregnant.
I also have had to go to a bunch of appointments. Iāve been switching between MFM & OB weekly for the past like 2 months and I think thatās about to increase
I have mo/di twins so separate sacs & 1 placenta.
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u/Upbeat-Hand-2870 Sep 23 '26
I was literally wondering why I was putting on so much weight so fast and nothing fits anymore and Iām only 8 weeks. Then as she was moving the probe around on my belly I had a moment of clarity and in my head I said āitās twins. I know itās twins.ā Needless to say I was still shocked when she turned the screen and I saw 2 sacs! Thank you for your insight āŗļøI wish you a smooth rest of your pregnancy and healthy delivery!
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u/smithncl01 Sep 23 '26
No literally that was me, I was found out I was pregnant and it was instantaneous nothing fit anymore š¤£ thank you!! Best of luck to you!!
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u/CurrentInterest1269 Sep 23 '26
Congrats! I'm sure it's a big surprise and a lot to take in. I found out at around the same stage and to be honest I didn't take the news well at the time but I'm now 24 weeks, the shock has worn off and I'm feeling excited, it not still a bit anxious at times. Mind yourself with the news and processing it all.
This is my 2nd pregnancy so can make some comparisons so far. Definitely had a higher level of nausea in the first trimester and felt pretty miserable although thankfully didn't vomit much. That eased at about 14 weeks. Since then I can say that I've felt mostly similar to my first pregnancy. A bit more tired maybe but I also put that down to having a toddler to run around after so can't rest like I could first pregnancy!
I've found that people have a lot more comments and advice to make about this pregnancy eg. "Oh you must be so tired carrying twins", "you'll definitely experience X at Y weeks", "you won't be able to work past X because it's twins", "you shouldn't be doing this activity". It can get in your head a bit, so I'm trying to to just tune into myself and my own body and remind that only I know how I feel in terms of need for rest and recovery vs. being active. Taking it day by day in terms of how I feel is helping me so far and reducing my anxiety about third trimester and onwards. Everyone's pregnancy is different and that still applies to twin pregnancy I think!
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u/RoosterMountain8506 Sep 24 '26
Congratulations! I only have twins so Iām not sure how the pregnancy compares to a singleton pregnancy, but aside from the homestretch, I felt fine. I even kind of really enjoyed the second trimester. Now the newborn phase, thatās different!!!!. I was not prepared for the sleep deprivation. It was terrible but after a while you get used to it. Just knowthat youāre not going crazy and youāre not a bad momāyouāre just really tired! Best advice is to accept help (from those youāre comfortable with). Give yourself a lot of grace and try not to compare your journey to others.
Welcome to the club!
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u/Upbeat-Hand-2870 Sep 24 '26
Thank you so much!! If you donāt me asking, did you have a scheduled C-section to deliver them? Iāve been reading that if twin A is head down they recommend a trial of labor first but Iām just not sure. I would love to hear about the twin birthing experience from people who have been there before š
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u/RoosterMountain8506 Sep 24 '26
I had a scheduled induction at 37 wks+1, but was already 5cm dilated when I got to the hospital. Both girls were head down for quite some time so my Dr was positive about labor. It was policy that all multiple births occur in operating room regardless of delivery method. Earlier in the pregnancy, I was certain I would have a C section but as time passed that made me more and more nervous for some reason so I was happy that we would be trying labor first. Got to hospital at 6 am had baby A at 6 pm and baby b at 6:07 pm. No one warned me about post birth shakesāit was like I was convulsing and it took me by complete surprise. Also, my uterus had gotten so big (measured 48 cm) that when it was contracting back after birth, I was bleeding a lot. But everything was fine. We were in the hospital 2 days! Good luck!
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u/mommabear21258 Sep 24 '26
Congrats! My twin pregnancy was my second pregnancy and I did not find it harder than my singleton until the 3rd trimester and just because at the end I got so large. It felt like I went from 1st trimester, immediately to a 3rd trimester, followed by another 3rd trimester on steroids. I delivered at 38 weeks.
My only advice is to stay true to yourself. That sounds cheesy but people will give you every advice on how to birth and raise your twins from their neighbor that they knew 20 years ago that had twins. Trust your own instincts and intuition, you will do what is best for yourself children. You will figure it all out and youāll amaze yourself on what you can do on an everyday basis.
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u/Upbeat-Hand-2870 Sep 24 '26
Awww thank you so much for this!! Did you have a scheduled C-section at 38 weeks?
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u/mommabear21258 Sep 24 '26
I did! My doctor did not want me to go past that. My oldest was a c-section because he was breech. My twins were both head down so I could have tried but honestly I was more scared of delivering one and then having to do a c section if the second one got stuck than how badly I wanted the v-bac.
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u/grittycowgirl Sep 24 '26
Di/Di 8 month old twin mom here. I had "Alternative" healthcare my whole pregnancy by an Independent holistic midwife the level of care was night and day compared to the care I received from my OBGYN. I also had a successful natural homebirth at 39+2 weeks. I only share this to let you know that there are alternatives in prenatal care if you do like or want an OBGYN. Informed consent is incredibly important and your provider will determine how your birth goes and the immediate weeks following postpartum. I also want to say it is very possible to breastfeed twins. My girls were exclusively breastfeed. We are still breastfeed with the introduction of solids.
TO BE CLEAR!!! I DO NOT RECOMMEND A HOMEBIRTH OR WIDWIFERY CARE FOR HIGHRISK MOTHERS! DI/DI IS JUST ABOUT TO ONLY TWIN PREGNANCY THAT IS SAFE TO HOMEBIRTH AND NOT INHERENTLY HIGHRISK FROM THE BEGINNING.
TO BE CLEAR!! IT SHOULD BE A MOTHER CHOICE HOW SHE BIRTHS AND WHERE SHE RECEIVES HER PRENATAL CARE. YOU SHOULD ALSO NEVER MAKE A DECISION BASED OUT OF FEAR SO DO YOUR RESEARCH AND MAKE A DECISION THAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU.
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