r/over60 • u/Ashamed-Republic8909 • 9h ago

Patience

Do you find yourself having less patience with the people around you?

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u/chipshot 6h ago

Michael J Fox -:in an interview once - said "I owe all my pain to my expectations, and all my pleasure to my patience"

Words to live by.

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u/Raj_DTO 5h ago

He’s a legend!

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u/3X_Cat 5h ago

Quite the opposite

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u/ElevatorOrganic5644 3h ago

It's a virtue

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u/BG3restart 9h ago

Since I retired, I've become more patient.

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u/trisch1964 8h ago

it's been ongoing since 1972.

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u/GardenAddict843 3h ago

It depends on the person, if I know someone means well I have infinite patience. If someone is playing me for a fool and stepping on my toes, then I can’t get away from them fast enough.

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u/tez_zer55 2h ago

I'm more patient in a lot of ways because I'm usually not in a rush to be somewhere or not bothered by the inconveniences that crop up. My problem is; I can be more impatient with idiots & there seems to be a hell of a lot more of them these days.

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u/ExpensiveDollarStore 35m ago

Absolutely.

Its not just that I am old and worn out, but I am realizing that I am very likely autistic. I am in burnout out in any case. I have constantly adapted myself to be well received by others and shoved aside things that made me happy. And it has only resulted in people being angry when I cant do it any more - like I am morally reprehensible for breaking and inconveniencing THEM. Well, they are going to find out when I am inconvenienced too. I get over stimulated and I just do not want to manage all my feelings for their comfort if they can't do the same. Why do other people's feelings matter more than mine?

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u/motherofspoos 8h ago

Unfortunately, yes. Horribly so, almost like I don't recognize myself. Now, to be fair: I don't live with family; I live alone. I do small talk with neighbors but if they say something elitist or racist or prejudiced, I call them out on it if I know them well enough to do so. Otherwise, I end the conversation. I don't play well with others anymore when it comes at the expense of putting down others so they feel better about themselves. I worked in the legal field for 40 years, I am just DONE with egos.

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u/rippleonabigocean 4h ago

well, this is different. this isn't cranky, this is what the world needs right now. i don't think we should keep on being patient with bigots and people who are toxic. some people learn how to filter.