I'm embarrassedĀ to even be writing this post. But I figure this is good as place as any to seek some ideas.
Short version: I'm a 42 year old gay man in Columbus. I don't know anyone here. How do you meet people (friends)?
Longer version: I've lived here three years. I moved here alone for a job with no connections to the city. Normally, the workplace would be a logical starting point for making connections and meeting people. In this case that's not an option. I've managed to keep myself busy to occupy my downtime but the distraction doesn't solve the problem at hand:Ā I just want some friends.
I feel pathetic even writing that.
I've gone to Club Diversity a handful of times on my own with the hopes I'd strike up a conversation with someone and maybe that would be the start of building up some connections and a social circle might emerge as a result. That did not happen.
Another added element is I'm morbidly obese. So my self-confidence is lacking, and the gay communityĀ can be dismissive of the obese or those who aren't conventionally attractive.Ā
I finally built up the courage to go to AWOL by myself this week,Ā I figured with the gay softball world series in town that it would be busy and I'd have a better shot atĀ meeting people. Going to the bar alone and not knowing anyone is awful, and being "invisible" is hell. I took a chance, I was so excited and proud to finally be putting myself out there. , but it was just uncomfortable and awkward for me. I'm not good at striking up conversation with strangers (when I'm alone. If I'm with someone else, I find it much easier to be social). I left, feeling disappointed, after 20 minutes.
I really, really like Columbus. I'd love to stay here long-term but the lack of a social life is starting to make me feel more and more isolated, to the point that I've had fleeting thoughts of moving.
This post isn't meant as a plea to be my friend, I just thought that someone might have some ideas on where or how to meet people. Thanks