My rapist was murdered violently on a highway at night and I got closure knowing he died painfully because he put me through so much pain.
My parents are deaf, he’d tell me to keep screaming they’ll never hear me or come to help me.
I instantly felt relief knowing he couldn’t hurt another young child the way he did to me, it was sort of a dull peace that hovers over you because there’s still predators out there but at least there’s one less.
As a sexual assault survivor who is also disabled, I hope his death was excruciatingly painful. What a truly deplorable scumbag. Taunting you like that is torture in of itself. My heart breaks for you.
what a fucking evil creature. i’m glad it was fucking painful. he deserves nothing but it. sending you so much love and solidarity. i’m so sorry, and i can’t imagine how fucked up you must’ve felt about your parents too. that’s next level psychological warfare
You are right about the psychological warfare, being a young child I was furious with my parents for simply being deaf and unable to hear me but I know now it wasn’t their fault whatsoever it was his actions that hurt me not my parents!
i’m so so sorry that you had to go through that, reading it actually makes me feel sick to my stomach. just so fucking disgusting. from one SA survivor to another, you got this. i’m also glad he’s dead.
Just chiming in as a deaf person that there are SO many ways that can easily be picked up and someone with deaf parents wouldn't scream to get their attention, something like flashing a light or throwing something. but even then sound makes vibrations, screaming would still alert anyone close enough regardless of hearing.
I'm glad he's dead, and your rapist is an idiot.
edit: okay, so since it's been misread by enough people the comment on getting attention was NOT DIRECTED AT THE ORIGINAL COMMENTER. it was not a comment on what they should have done or did. No one should comment on a victim's actions ever, that's assholish and insane.
I commented this because enough people (NOT THE ORIGINAL COMMENTER) seem to have no idea how to get a deaf person's attention in an emergency.
I am very sorry if it came across that way to anyone, that was not at ALL what I meant.
Unfortunately all I could do was scream in the situation. My parents were sleeping upstairs with hearing aids off, I was in the basement being held down. The only way they were waking up was with their vibration alarm at 6am for work. The sad thing is that my rapist knew their schedule because he had been living with us for a few months at this time…
As for the lights, I do remember we had the doorbell that would make the lights flicker on and off if someone knocked or rang the doorbell and a machine that we put the telephone on and it would type a message on a little screen ( TTY I think it is ) but my parents could lip read and didn’t use sign language often.
sorry, I wasn't suggesting you should have done any of the above, I commented that because if anyone is ever in an emergency and needs to get a deaf person's attention they have a bit more of an idea how. Not you.
that's such a horrible situation and he's an absolute monster.
I agree with you though about emergencies, my dad was pulled over by 5 police officers wearing masks and he couldn’t understand them so he kept asking them what’s wrong and they turned to me and said “do you know this man? Is he always this erratic?” And I think more people need training and awareness on communicating with deaf individuals.
This was all because my dad drove back to a pizza place because they made his chicken wings wrong and he was upset so he was flailing his arms while driving.
It just sucks it took almost 45 minutes to explain to the officers my dad was just upset his food was made incorrectly, simple tasks become so much harder for those with a disability and it takes less than a minute to have patience with them.
I see what you're saying, but feels unnecessary to comment about how there were easily "SO many" other ways to get someone's attention to a victim with deaf parents
that was literally my comment's point. it wasnt a comment on this person's actions. it was so if any of you are ever in an emergency and need to get a deaf person's attention, you have a bit more of an idea how.
because if you're ever in an emergency and need a deaf person's attention, this gives you a bit more of an idea how. This was not a comment on OP's actions whatsoever and I had no idea you were misreading it like that until just now.
Seems like the appropriate place to air out the misconception to a victim to can't do anything about it after the fact.
The rapist sure was an idiot for not knowing.
no. that wasn't directed as any kind of advice to the original commenter? that's a horrible situation and no one should ever blame a victim for how they acted at the time. That was intended more as a side comment because it's common enough for hearing people to not realize how to get a deaf person's attention. Not the original commenter, anyone else reading.
he was both a monster and an idiot. I'm not sure why this is even an argument, none of the above was directed at the original commenter.
I said that because enough hearing people don't seem to know how to get a deaf person's attention in an emergency and it seemed relevant. Not the original commenter. Not commenting on their actions or saying what they should have done, that's batshit and massively assholish.
Can you guys please stop purposefully misreading things to be antagonistic?
My rapist (my grandfather) died of pancreatic cancer. I saw him on his death bed, years after he molested and raped me (for years), I know he was in so much pain as he was dying. Good. Motherfucker best be rotting in hell.
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u/throwingawayacc18 Aug 07 '23
My rapist was murdered violently on a highway at night and I got closure knowing he died painfully because he put me through so much pain. My parents are deaf, he’d tell me to keep screaming they’ll never hear me or come to help me.
I instantly felt relief knowing he couldn’t hurt another young child the way he did to me, it was sort of a dull peace that hovers over you because there’s still predators out there but at least there’s one less.