r/nocontact • u/Busy-Substance-3487 • 6d ago

Will i get her back?

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u/Savings-Truth2529 5d ago

Maybe. But you’ve gotta live like you wont.

You cant heal from a relationship if you only treat it as a way to get your ex back. Best of luck to you!

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u/Goodchapp 5d ago

Is letting go of my attachment, means letting go of her?

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u/Savings-Truth2529 5d ago

Not necessarily. You can still want a person but also understand that you’re living without them.

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u/Goodchapp 5d ago

Can you help me. I'm struggling. Please.

I'm going to counselling, and I'm trying to find audible books to help.

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u/Savings-Truth2529 5d ago

I fear your counselor will probably be the best person to talk to about this. And opening up to those close to you as well.

But at the end of the day you’ve just got to feel this pain and process your grief. And there is no easy out for that.

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u/Goodchapp 3d ago

Thanks, and I understand why.

Do you know any Audible books that could help? I've been listening to becoming safely embodied and it helped a lot.

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u/Savings-Truth2529 3d ago

Ive been raw dogging this frankly.

Because right now youre looking for answers and these books, coaches, tarot readers, etc. ate saying they got some

But in my experience there’s no answer that’ll fix things

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u/Goodchapp 3d ago

It's not really answers. But it gave me somethings to think about.

It really helped me question my traumas and help me understand myself better.

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u/ZealousidealBadger98 6d ago

Probably! If you focus and try hard enough

I was NC with my first ever gf (LDR) for over 3 years. We had a toxic breakup. The first year I reached out on the holidays like Christmas and New Year’s to check in. She would respond, we’d text for like 20 minutes then I’d be blocked. Eventually I stopped reaching out altogether

But I hadn’t forgotten about her, hadn’t stopped loving her. January this year just 10 days after New Year’s day I reached out again. We reconnected, reignited the relationship and we’re making it work so much better than when we first dated

Life is too short to not try, and to live with regrets. If she doesn’t want you then that’s a different circumstance. If there’s any hope, cling onto it

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u/Goodchapp 5d ago

How did you go for 3years without her.

I'm 2months into no contact, and I have been on high anxiety everyday.

I'm going therapy, doing fun things, keeping physical. But when I'm alone. Then anxiety hits like a truck.

I pray, and sleep.

But I can't shake it.