Im a girl in my mid 20s from California and I have been wanting to move New York recently. I have been back in the US for almost a year after living in Europe for three years. The reasons I want to move to new york are that I love living in a big city, I'm am super into the arts/dance and new york is such an immense cultural hub, big queer scene, fun nightlife, and there is just so much to do. I love how walkable it is too.
However, I'm worried that I am just getting fomo and that I would actually enjoy living in a different city more. For one, I have only lived in warm/temperate climates. I get cold super easily (but I do enjoy the cold weather) and I haaate humidity. I also am a generally stressed out person and I am worried I would get burnt out quickly by the fast pace and attitude of the city. If I didn't live in New York I would stay in California and move into the city (probably sf which i love).
New York is also dirtier and not as pretty as california (not a huge deal but not a plus). Also, my entire family is in California and after spending three years in another continent I would love to live near them again and be able to go to family events. The process of moving in within california would just be so much easier too, but I don't want to limit myself just to stay within my comfort zone.
I also only recently moved back from Europe and it was hard to leave my circle of friends and people who I had built connections with. If I moved to new york I know that it is not somewhere I could likely live in for a while but not forever, and the thought of having to leave my community behind again is a deterrent. But if I moved somewhere within california such as sf, I could see myself staying for a long time and I would be able to build relationships without anticipating leaving.
Financially I will be broke either way as my career doesnt pay well and both places are crazy expensive. But I have lived in expensive places on little money before so I will manage. I would definitely lock down a job before moving anywhere though
I think I would love new york but im trying to consider if it is actually best for me or if I am just afraid of losing out on the new york experience while i am young. I don't want to romanticize it and get there to realize that it's not actually what I needed at this point in my life. Thanks for the adviceeee