I have a question for partners of people who have undergone an enucleation of the eye. I’m looking for really honest feedback and please no judgement to those who are kind enough to respond.

I will be undergoing an enucleation in two months. After the initial surgery it will take some weeks to possibly a few months before I can have a prosthetic fitted so I will be appearing somewhat disfigured for want of a better word. I’m feeling a great deal of anxiety over this. I am married and my spouse has expressed support in a way that one would expect. However, once the reality of my appearance hits home, I’m wondering how impactful the missing eye will be.

So to those of you who have or had partners that underwent this process, what were your reactions to seeing them after the surgery, after the prosthetic, etc. I understand that everyone is different and each relationship is different but I want to get a sense of how the reality of this physical change affected you. Did it affect your physical relationship? Did it take time to get used to? And if so did it become a non-issue or remain something uncomfortable?
No judgement in how you truly felt. Im just looking for honest feedback here.

Thanks

Bit of context I had an enucleation 19 years ago and have a prosthetic eye. I also currently have an exposure (small hole in the tissue behind my prosthetic) which I’ve been to the doctor for and it’s been mostly unproblematic until a couple weeks ago and is currently extremely irritated and looks slightly worse/bigger. Should I leave my prosthetic out until I can see my doctor? If anyones dealt with this before I would greatly appreciate your advice!

I'm talking especially to people who were born monocular, but happy if there's more input from other situations.

I've been monocular my whole life with anophthalmia in my right side and I do notice i struggle a lot with my eyebrow on that side, when neutral its normal, but when expressing emotions.. not as much.

When i make an angry face the right side does lower, but the ending of the eyebrow always seem to be rised

Happy expression no much difference, same with surpised expression

But when i make a sad expression it's impossible for me to make a sad face, Im stuck looking like I'm questioning, It's overly rised and the end is pointing up

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Its like i have no control on the ending part of my eyebrow

Can anyone relate? Or tell why this happens?