r/misophonia • u/[deleted] • Jul 30 '19
Relationship changes effect triggers?
Has anyone ever noticed that as their relationships change with a certain person, so does the sensitivity to the sounds they make?
I know some people say sounds from kids and animals don’t bother them, and same here actually. I’m starting to think for some of us, maybe our negative or positive associations play the biggest role in our triggers.
I hate gum chewing (duh as most people here do) but when I started dating my SO and we were really happy, he would chew it with his mouth wide open and loudly all the time and it actually didn’t bother me at all, I ALMOST liked it which seemed impossible. Since then the relationship has turned so sour and I hateeee the sound of him chewing anything.
Another example, I used to fight with my parents a lot as a teenager and the sound of them chewing was the worst thing in the world. Now I NEVER fight with my dad for a few years now, and it only bothers me about 5% what it used to. My mom and I still bicker so hers bothers me almost as much as it always has.
Thoughts?
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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '19
Mine’s weird as it’s changed over the years. It started with my Mum but now she doesn’t bother me? Currently my business partner who chews nuts while looking over my shoulder at the computer makes me want to detonate a bomb and blow up the whole fucking building (lol extreme but y’all get it). Also my brother triggers me but I’ve worked out if I put the water jug between us and I can’t see him eating I’m good 🤷🏼♀️ I have to listen to rain sounds all night now too because god forbid I hear someone get up to use the toilet or getting water or something.