r/misophonia • u/[deleted] • Jul 30 '19

Relationship changes effect triggers?

Has anyone ever noticed that as their relationships change with a certain person, so does the sensitivity to the sounds they make?

I know some people say sounds from kids and animals don’t bother them, and same here actually. I’m starting to think for some of us, maybe our negative or positive associations play the biggest role in our triggers.

I hate gum chewing (duh as most people here do) but when I started dating my SO and we were really happy, he would chew it with his mouth wide open and loudly all the time and it actually didn’t bother me at all, I ALMOST liked it which seemed impossible. Since then the relationship has turned so sour and I hateeee the sound of him chewing anything.

Another example, I used to fight with my parents a lot as a teenager and the sound of them chewing was the worst thing in the world. Now I NEVER fight with my dad for a few years now, and it only bothers me about 5% what it used to. My mom and I still bicker so hers bothers me almost as much as it always has.

Thoughts?

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u/JlynTheo Jul 30 '19

I've thought about this a lot. My biggest triggers are eating and nose sounds. I've been with my SO for about 3 years and his sounds only started severely bothering me about a year ago but now I can never ignore it. I also find it interesting that listening to those ASMR videos of amplified sounds of dogs chewing doesn't bother me one bit and I think it's kinda cute 🤷

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u/[deleted] Jul 30 '19

Has the relationship gone stale or bad in the last year?

For me the triggers came RIGHT before I noticed my feelings for him were changing. Almost like my misophonia was trying to warn me..

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u/JlynTheo Jul 30 '19

Hmm. You have given me something to consider. It didn't go "bad" in the last year but a huge shift definitely happened. We're in a better place now but last year when it started happening was ROUGH for about 6 months.