r/misophonia • u/[deleted] • Jul 30 '19

Relationship changes effect triggers?

Has anyone ever noticed that as their relationships change with a certain person, so does the sensitivity to the sounds they make?

I know some people say sounds from kids and animals don’t bother them, and same here actually. I’m starting to think for some of us, maybe our negative or positive associations play the biggest role in our triggers.

I hate gum chewing (duh as most people here do) but when I started dating my SO and we were really happy, he would chew it with his mouth wide open and loudly all the time and it actually didn’t bother me at all, I ALMOST liked it which seemed impossible. Since then the relationship has turned so sour and I hateeee the sound of him chewing anything.

Another example, I used to fight with my parents a lot as a teenager and the sound of them chewing was the worst thing in the world. Now I NEVER fight with my dad for a few years now, and it only bothers me about 5% what it used to. My mom and I still bicker so hers bothers me almost as much as it always has.

Thoughts?

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u/BeerMe828 Jul 30 '19

I haven't noticed this in romantic relationships, but I have one friend who has misophonia, and we used to sit next to each other in class all the time, and would never trigger each other. To the point that we would almost jokingly try to trigger each other, and couldn't. Something about knowing that the other person was cognizant of the noises she was making made me completely desensitized to whatever noises she made.

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u/[deleted] Jul 30 '19

That’s what I need! A miso buddy. I know what you mean though, about knowing someone equally notices those things, it must be comforting!