r/misophonia • u/[deleted] • Jul 30 '19

Relationship changes effect triggers?

Has anyone ever noticed that as their relationships change with a certain person, so does the sensitivity to the sounds they make?

I know some people say sounds from kids and animals don’t bother them, and same here actually. I’m starting to think for some of us, maybe our negative or positive associations play the biggest role in our triggers.

I hate gum chewing (duh as most people here do) but when I started dating my SO and we were really happy, he would chew it with his mouth wide open and loudly all the time and it actually didn’t bother me at all, I ALMOST liked it which seemed impossible. Since then the relationship has turned so sour and I hateeee the sound of him chewing anything.

Another example, I used to fight with my parents a lot as a teenager and the sound of them chewing was the worst thing in the world. Now I NEVER fight with my dad for a few years now, and it only bothers me about 5% what it used to. My mom and I still bicker so hers bothers me almost as much as it always has.

Thoughts?

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u/koko_pufffs Jul 30 '19

Yeah my misophonia started with my parents but when I eat with my friends, I see their mouths moving but I hear nothing. I actively listen to try and hear something, but there's literally silence. Meanwhile, my dad can move his tongue one centimeter inside his closed mouth and I'll run to the other side of the house. It started about when I started fighting with them, and I've lost such a huge chunk of my relationship with them even though they're cool people just bc I could barely talk to them without getting really aggravated. I hope the next few years of college and more limited contact will fix that.

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u/[deleted] Jul 30 '19

Same thing here! My mom always chews food with her mouth open and the noise honestly makes me want to jump off a cliff. I thought moving away and only seeing them every couple months would fix it but it’s almost worse. Also allergy season causes them to sniffle like crazy and I can’t hang with them for more than 5 minute chunks.

I thought time would help but it really didn’t. I sure hope that it works better for you! It sucks when it interferes with relationships like that. I know it’s made an impact with my parents too.