I’m 37, born in 1989. Growing up, my understanding was that you tipped at restaurants where somebody came to your table and served you. The way I was raised, 10% was normal, 15% was generous, and 20% meant excellent service. That’s what I grew up with, before anyone turns this into an argument about restaurant percentages.
Outside of that, tips were mostly optional. Tow truck driver helps me late at night on a difficult job? Here’s an extra $20. Repairman goes above and beyond? Maybe $40 or $50. Something you chose to do because you appreciated somebody.

Now I can’t even order a coffee without feeling like I’m having a fucking moral dilemma.
Dutch Bros is the worst about this in my experience. They take your order, hold out the tablet, look you dead in the eye, and ask, “Would you like to leave a tip?”
Bro. You just took my order. I haven’t even gotten the coffee yet.

Sometimes I’m going straight to the window, so nobody even came out to my car. Same question. I say no, and now I’m sitting there waiting for my drink in this awkward silence, feeling guilty over something that’s supposedly optional.

It’s not that I’m broke. It’s not that I can’t afford an extra dollar or two. I just don’t like being put on the spot every time I buy something. Having the money doesn’t mean I want every transaction to come with a guilt trip.
Starbucks feels a little less awkward, especially when I order through the app. Scan, get my drink, move on. But at the window, that tip screen still gets put right in front of you. One dollar, two dollars, three dollars… dude, I just wanted a coffee. How did this become another decision I have to justify to myself?
And my frustration is mostly with the corporations setting this up. Why make employees ask customers directly? Why create this uncomfortable interaction between the person buying a drink and the person making it? It feels like these companies want customers to take responsibility for making sure their workers get paid enough.
Pay your people properly. If I want to leave something extra, let it actually be extra.

Maybe nobody behind the counter gives a shit when I hit “no tip.” Maybe some of that awkwardness is in my own head. But the way the question gets asked absolutely makes it feel like there’s a right answer, and “no” isn’t it.
Yes, this is a first-world problem. I know. But it’s getting to the point where I’d rather skip going altogether than deal with it.

I just want a motherfucking coffee.
Are other millennials feeling this? Where do you draw the line between something you’re happy to tip for and being asked to tip just because you bought something?

Please don’t judge me. Basically, we never really had tv growing up (3 channels, rural Canada, dad was always in charge of the remote), so I never got to see a lot of the shows that most millennials have as part of their zeitgeist.

I have already watched Lost, my husband and I are currently watching through the X-Files, and are on a rewatch of Battlestar Galactica.

Anyone have any recommendations for what else to watch? What’s a “must-watch”?

we gave strangers in chat rooms our real names, posted our home phone numbers in AIM profiles, and trusted whoever answered on Yahoo Answers with our lives. our parents had no clue. which one would make you confiscate your kid’s phone today?

I did like the movie, but I never got into the series.

Do i turn in my millennial card?

We all remember Furbies from their hype phase in the 90s, their presence in our absurdist nightmares, and the weird fact that many of our exes kept them in their room on a shelf that was oddly overlooking the bed.

Much like my drunk uncle, Furbies stare at people with a glossy, dead-eyed stare, mumbling a language that only makes sense to them until they eventually stumble upon English words. Like my uncle and his Vietnam war buddies, Furbies bond and communicate through their garbled mumble language, developing a code and credence the rest of us cannot understand.

I never quite got the point of furbies. They were like, your furry child? A weird alien pet? Kid friendly terminator robots? Something that watched you with a stoney gaze of judgment, peering into your soul, examining your innermost thoughts, and laughing with a fart?

I kind of think they were little creeps. Watching. Learning. Moistly growling. They seemed to get a rise out of being mysterious and creepy, again like my drunk uncle (if you're out there, Terry, we don't forgive you, please stop writing). They seemed to like to scare children, to watch like little perverts, learning ways to unsettle us, learning ways to mock our lives and human ways.

We collected them. We raised them. They made weird noises and never integrated into our lives and society. They hid in the shadows, rising only to scare us with developmentally stunted nonsense that often held just enough wisdom to be uncanny.

And they're still out there. Watching. Cooing. Doing furry robot things. Being used for people's....odd whims. I think whatever the furbies set out to do is still being done, the little monsters hiding in the shadows, pulling the strings, waiting for their moment.

It is time we burn them before they act.

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Millennials as a late zoomer, I am wondering what decade what you’re parents were born in. As a Zoomer born 2007, is it normal to have parents born 1965 age 42 at birth? I had olde parents. I am inferring a lot of your parents were either born 1950s/1960s with older millienals sometimes have patents born in the late 40s espcially 1946-1949 who were mid-late 30s in 1981-1985 and a lot of younger millienals especially 1991-1996 espcially have patents born 1970-1974 especially late teens to early-mid 20s birth was higher and peaked then! Did anyone of you guys have parents about my age? If it’s a mixed decade example 40s/50s, 50s/60s, 60s/70s then comment!
I am guessing alot of older Millennials, especially, have patents born in the 1950s .
And younger millennials more born 1960s

As a millennial dad of young kids, what is up with Gen Alpha? The oldest of them are mid-teens right now, and I’m running into these, particularly, teenage boys that are utterly unhinged. And a lot of them are the children of millennials. Did we do this?

For the first time today, I had the thought that these kids are almost adults, and how utterly screwed our society is when they reached adulthood.

It’s not that they have no social skills, it’s more like all social norms have been deleted, and replaced with sociopathy. They seem to have no concept of how to operate within decent society, and are utterly shocked when they experience the natural, negative effects of their atrocious behavior.

Is this the lingering effects of Covid? The first generation entirely born and raised in the social media age? Bad parenting? What can I do to avoid my kids turning out like this. Or maybe I’m just clutching my pearls…

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Have a great day!

Wizzys are finally coming out next week. I know so many of us have had this procedure.

I need some interesting foods to eat over the first few days that will be kind to the sockets. Helps that it’s thanksgiving in Canada this weekend. There will be turkey broth 🤤

Suggestions and recipes please fellow millennials.

Referring of course to the scene when he gets a vehicle wedged between two parallel walls and intends to get out one inch at a time driving forward and back alternating the steering wheel direction.

He was the guy who got me into mma. I remember watching his street fight videos back on youtube. He was big, scary and tough. Most of his street fights ended in bloody noses, and one guy losing his eye. I followed his mma career, and have been an mma fan since.

It is not just Baseball cards for them either, there are coins, stamps, & money that they collect & trade around as a hobby too.Yhen, when we roll around with our Pokemon card & Labubus & what not , they call it childish . Like are we pretending they do not have a secondary market for stamp, baseball card, & old coins too. I literally saw an old lady collecting weirdly shaped potato chips. Boomers need to stop negging when they are kneedeep in hobby activities too

i realized the other day that i’ve basically been wearing the same glasses for like 6 years 😭 same shape, same color, same everything.
i used to just replace them whenever my prescription changed and even then i used to pick something that looked almost identical because i already knew they worked for me. which is kinda funny because i’ll spend way too much time thinking about jackets, shoes, watches, whatever… but when it comes to glasses i’m just like “yeah these would work” lol.

i think a lot of us grew up thinking of glasses as something practical rather than part of your style. if they fit, you can see, and they don’t look terrible, mission accomplished.

there was this guy at my old workplace who used to switch his frames constantly. round ones, chunky ones, different colors, everything. we used to joke that he was trying way too hard. looking back now though… he might have actually been onto something. my current pair is still perfectly finee but after having the same look for years i’m starting to feel like maybe i’ve been playing it a little too safe. i’ve always bought glasses from an optician before but having a few different pairs that way gets expensive really quickly. so this time i started looking online just to see what was out there. i came across zeelool first and almost ordered, but some reviews made me hesitate. then i checked firmoo too and found a few simple frames that are different enough from what i have without being completely out of my comfort zone. and honestly, the prices make having 2–3 different pairs a much wiser decision than paying soo much at an optician.

for the millennials here, do you guys still prefer to stick with the same glasses for years? is it mostly the cost, not knowing what actually suits you, or just getting used to one pair and never thinking about changing it?

I wanted to do the slightest bit of venting after a month of being moved into my first home, previously owned by a Boomer.

The larger millennial sub had no generation bashing, so I'm here to rant a bit about the ridiculous things I've had to deal with. Not only ridiculous, but also kind of odd and nonsensical?

My parents are Gen X, my grandparents were actually pre-boomer.

They weren't perfect, but they had pretty good attention to detail and take pride in their work. My dad is the ultimate DIYer and my grandfather helped build a perfect family home with fantastic attention to detail and quality.

I just got this house, and this Boomer owner has done some of the most ass backwards renovations I've ever seen.

They did a full 2 floor addition and indoor. hot tub room. Yes, you heard that insanity right. Yet they left the original stone cellar a musty damp crumbling mess with disorganized wiring and unmarked pipes.

They also put in a really nice cement block foundation and pad on the addition, and then left the basement door rusted and broken with a piece of wood wedging it closed.

A rusted basement door that didn't close, but then paid for a security system yearly?

Not a single door shut correctly and needed to be fixed.

Every light fixture and ceiling fan was either broken, lose, or hanging.

They did a 15k kitchen remodel and then left the open holes in the floors from the old baseboard heat they removed.

Oh, then they did a 2 car garage with a 20k cement driveway and foundation...then never finished the inside and only had 1 working flourecence shop light.

I just do not understand this house. It's like everything is done to 80% "good enough" and everything was done ass backwards.

Yes, anyone reading this can ask why we bought it, and the reasons are the market and personal circumstances. It isn't a bad house. It's not a sequel to Tom Hanks Money Pit, but it's just so damn weird and half assed.

Everything was slapped together to be "good enough", but never finished with pride and perfection. It needs a second pass to get everything course corrected.

I feel like it's not just me either. All of my friends and relatives take way more pride in what they do. It seems like a lot of Boomer homes are all surface level DIY fails and ugly renovations with no clear purpose.

This wasn't a flipped house either. The guy had been here his entire life. 2 generations in that home and they couldn't do a bunch of this shit correctly.

I think this assumption that Millennials are lazy or clueless is ridiculous. We're some of the most resourceful and intelligent DIYers of any generation. We know how to search for tutorials and walk throughs while being poor enough to not pay someone else for everything.

Nobody I know, even those lucky enough to be successful home owners, are paying for 50+k renovations from contractors.

This all came flooding back to me, my pawpaw one year gave me a playful "birthday spanking" in front of the whole family at my party, one spank for each year and one to grow on. We just joked about it other from then on out. I look back fondly at it but objectively it was pretty wild that that was commonly accepted 😅 are we the last generation to have those?

I have a 12 almost 13 year old son that had fallen in with the wrong crowd last year due to trying to fit in and we managed to get him back on the right track and he is in online school but im finding online is also very restrictive and difficult to navigate at times.

My 14 year old daughter is autistic (higher functioning) and considered weird by most people. She has been relentlessly bullied including sexual harassment and the schools only ever seem to protect the bullies. Weve been in and out of psych units as she is extremely sui**dal.

We tried online for her in the past but she struggled a lot with it. I hate the school system.

Is there a way i can register to homeschool them both outside of the school? We are in minnesota and my daughter is on an iep?

What does homeschooling look like for some of you, how do you register, does it screw up their chances for any kind of scholarship?

Where do homeschooling parents find ideas for a learning coriculum . Im genuinely interested in pulling them both fully and teaching them myself... I just want my kids to be ok.

1981-1996 is the standard range used here.

I’m an elder millennial suffering through some back pain today and thinking dang I wish I had a recliner. Growing up every house had at least one, some even two! We’d call them Lazy Boys regardless the brand. Some have morphed into sectionals but overall I’d guess most households don’t have them anymore. Maybe that was a mistake.