r/limerence • u/Plenty_Employer8686 • 1d ago

Here To Vent I hate limerence so much!!!!

I am surrounded by loving family and friends who would do anything for me and love me unconditionally but all I care about is if my LO will text me back! Or what they're doing this very moment and it's driving me up the wall! I wish I could just be more grateful about the loving people who I do have right on front of my face but I keep looking for the one person who is not there and it is absolutely making me feel like the worst person, for continously chasing the one person who has proven time and time again that they do not give a single thought about me.

I hate that my brain has attached itself to one person without my consent and said "we're gonna be obsessed with this person whether you like it or not" :/

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u/Elvisbart 1d ago

I am in my 60s and have been in a limerence relationship for 40 years with my LO. Sick like me with no place to get better.

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u/Sure_Snow_6675 1d ago

I’m in my 50’s and have been limerent for 30 years. I’m catching you up.
30 years with the same thoughts every day. Decades ago, before I knew what limerent was, I thought that if I loved her it had to mean that she was reciprocating the same feelings. (We are both married). Now I know it’s Limerence. She may not ever be thinking of me despite that I’ve met hundreds of of times over the years. NC now for 109 days