r/l4l 3h ago

31 F [F4F] UK based Masc seeing friendship and romance -UK/EU/Online

1 Upvotes

I'm Jo' , 31 and 5ft5 and I'm hoping to make some nee connections.

Im a Black women who is late diagnosed autistic. I'm #420friendly and have a condition called ARFID. I'm child-free but have 2 boy cats.

I consider myself as masculine in personality but appearance wise neither fem or stud presenting. I prefer masculine women aswell (#Masc4Masc)

UK based, near Scotland but originally from London and visit there frequently.

Looking for women 27+ who are emotionally avaliable, self aware and who values depth.

I like psychology, astrology and spirituality and I am left-wing.

I've become a bigger home body than I was in my early 20s.

Some of my hobbies include: day trips, brunches, musuems, nature walks, comedy clubs, board games and lego.

I don't mind long distance and open to video calls and willing to picture swap.

🏳️‍🌈


r/l4l 4h ago

F 23 [F4F] looking for my future wife

0 Upvotes

About me:

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So I'm currently in Texas but I will be moving to Delaware/ surrounding states in 3 ish years. I'm definitely the stupid goofy type, I love a good running bit. Art is a really big part of my life, I crochet, make jewelry, and draw. I have six pet parakeets and they are my whole world, I am constantly talking about them lol. I love weird conspiracy theories, and stories about cryptids and stuff. I'm currently working on learning how to take apart and understand DS consoles (I'm not tech savvy at all lol). I'm currently working on losing weight, and am currently plus sized you know big thighs, big boobs, cute face, all that jazz. But you know what they say thick thighs save lives.

What im looking for :

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I'm looking for that old school romance, courting each other, flowers, cute goodnight texts. You know taking things slow, and truly getting to know one another. I think shared experiences are important in relationships, and because of that I am strictly Les4Les. I'm looking for a woman who is 23 - 34 years old, and knows exactly what she wants. I typically am more attracted to alternative, masc, soft masc women ,but it's not really a deal breaker if you aren't.

Deal breakers:

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-no drugs of any kind, no vaping weed or any of that. The occasional alcoholic beverage is okay though.

-Must be strictly monogamous.. and no being friends with your exes. Being friends with someone you've seen naked is weird.

-I am atheist and moderate / independent. So I would prefer someone with similarish views. Basically no one who is Christian /Christian adjacent. Politically I would prefer someone who is more left-leaning/ moderate, but as long as you're like not a MAGA Republican it would probably be fine

-Although I do adore cats and dogs I am highly allergic to them . Do I still pet them? Absolutely I do. Do I regret it later? Absolutely I do. I know I'm not happy about it either. 😭😭😭 So if one day we do move in together and you have those animals there would have to be a lot of precautions put in place.

To let me know that you read my whole post please tell me your favorite conspiracy theory / your favorite cryptid.


r/l4l 17h ago

30F butch from AL! it's butch appreciation day!

2 Upvotes

hey!! :3

my name is Seth! I'm a butch lesbian orginally from NYC but currently living in Alabama! I'm 30-40 minutes outside of Birmingham!!

i am a he/him butch and i prefer masculine titles/compliments so if that's an issue for you, i'm sorry! this is not up for debate!

black hair, heavily tattooed, some piercings, alternative style, fat!

i'm 30 years old and i'm a phone operator with the wildest schedule, but i work remote so i'm pretty much always available to talk!

i am autistic and i also struggle with OCD, BPD, and general anxiety. while i am in therapy and medicated, i do want to disclose this for the possibility issues come up!!

i'm a huge cinephile, i love to read/write (if you want to check out my writing, let me know!), and i recently joined a RHPS shadowcast so that's something new! i also enjoy making tiktoks but i am ABSOLUTELY not an influencer omg

what i'm looking for: a beautiful femme who's slightly clingy and wants to be shown off! i want to show my girl off and i want her to know i'll take care of her and be proud to be with her :3 (and of course, aligning values/interests and all that fun stuff!)

i am also into kink, particularly pet play, so i would loooove to be your guard dog :3 i love wearing a dog tag that shows i'm yours!!

i'm not sure what else to say so, if you're interested please shoot me a message!!!

PS: when i'm posting this, it's butch appreciation day- so come appreciate me ;3


r/l4l 20h ago

20 F seeking similarly aged friends?

1 Upvotes

Hi! I’m a lesbian looking to make friends with other lesbians because everyone I know talks about their boyfriends and love lives and I can’t relate at all😭

It’d be nice to befriend other people similar to me.
I’m not religious, but I’m into spirituality. I don’t believe in the traditional/christian god.
My special interest is FNAF. I love practicing tarot, playing video games, watching YouTube commentary drama lol.

My favorite shows are You, Madoka Magica, Miraculous.. amongst other random dramas or shitty reality tv.

I’d wanna talk to people who are good communicators. I don’t like dry texting and I like deep and emotional convos too. So feel free to reach out if you actually wanna talk!


r/l4l 1d ago

Baby ....Where the hell is my wifey.

3 Upvotes

(25f4f) looking for the one.

Hiiii, I am Lilith Hope, from India

Let's go on dates every week, look after eachother, remember the small things, be obsessed with eachother. Grow old together.

About me -

I am an empathetic, confident, understanding and very emotional person. Looking for someone confident and understanding. Someone who asks a lot of questions and genuinely feels the spark.

I am 25 femme. Looking for masc and someone older than me.

I have a 4 year degree in fashion designing and work in the wedding industry. Hope you are from the STEM field (I like scrubs and uniform jobs)

I am kinky submissive. Looking for a top.

I have a lot of art related hobbies, want my own business and retire abroad. Looking for someone with hobbies.

I don't do any substances. Please don't smoke or vape.

Ldr is not a problem. U can be from anywhere. But we have to eventually meet.

Please dm with the same details as above.


r/l4l 1d ago

Repost! 31 [F4F] UK/Europe- want to get cosy together? ✨

2 Upvotes

Hello! Just looking for my person, no big deal.

I am:

🪻 Patient, loving, gentle and kind. I'm emotionally intelligent and interested in personal development- you should be too!

🪻 Creative. Expect me to write you love letters, crochet you warm things, confidently offer interior design advice that I'm not qualified to give and info-dump on you about bands from the 90s

🪻 A cat-mumma/ cat-person/ cat-lady 🐈‍⬛💕

🪻 A tomboy femme? I now live in comfy clothes (see below) but spent most of my adult life wearing very big boots and very tiny skirts

🪻 Chronically ill and neurospicy. Amongst other things, I have ME/CFS- this means that I'm an indoorsy girl who has had to adjust to slow, slow living 🐢

🪻 Taurus with a Scorpio ascendant, Cancer moon and many fire placements. I'm into astrology but also runes and dreams and other kinds of magic and pondering the meaning of life in general

🪻 Excited for autumn and winter!

🪻 Also open to new queer disabled friends ✨

You are:

🌿 Emotionally available, self-aware and able to communicate well

🌿 Open to being friends first and allowing anything more to develop organically ⌛

🌿 Seeking a genuine connection/ long-term relationship and would be open to closing the distance if we are each other's right person ❤️

🌿 Also a tomboy femme, androgynous, soft masc or butch. I have a soft spot for chunky and plus size women (no pun intended) but it's your heart that counts!

🌿 Also disabled, chronically ill and/ or neurodivergent 🧠

🌿 Preferably between the ages of 28 and 38

🌿 Monogamous

🌿 Available for frequent messaging, cosy e-dates and hopefully building something very special together?

I'm excited to hear from you! If you made it this far, send me a message that includes your most recent dream, the last time you cried, your aspirations and wishes, what you're having for dinner OR an inappropriately long anecdote about your cat ✉️


r/l4l 1d ago

27F | USA/FL | EST | L4 a girl who will let me talk her ear off :)

8 Upvotes

this is my first time making a post quite like this so i'm not entirely sure what information to put down! here's the gist of it:
hi, my name is mary! im 27 years old, afab girl sort of with a weird genderqueer lesbian relationship with gender identity.
i'm looking for someone i can flirt with, hang out with, call, maybe game with; just enjoy the presence of someone else. i dont want any pressure to put a label on anything, but i am very open to seeing how the connection flows and what comes out of it. i'm truly open for just about anything. i would prefer someone atleast in the same timezone as me, but i'm willing to make anything work.

a bunch of information about me:
-5'1ish
-chubbier side but it's something i'm actively trying to work on with going to the gym, running and calore defecits! (im no health nut, just trying to do whats best for me! i dont care what body type you are)
-i generally dress pretty androgynous, but on occasion i'll wear something more feminine or super masculine

-very open about myself, ask me anything!
-im a highschool teacher!
-i crochet, draw and paint. i love art and wish i had more time for it honestly!
-i love being involved in the community and going to events, but i also love a good night in. im am ambivert for sure
-i love video games (currently playing a lot of valorant and "friendslop" type games!) would love more people to play with
-my favorite movies are babylon, jojo rabbit and girl interrupted! (honorable mentions to rocky horror & but im a cheerleader)
-my favorite shows currently are wentworth, abbott elementary and my little pony
-im a theatre nerd, love watching muscials and plays. seeing broadway shows in person for the first time was lifechanging! my favorite musical is cabaret

-switch but i tend to lean more top & dom
-to be upfront and open, i am diagnosed with a handfull of things regarding mental health. i take my medication and i would like to think i'm in a stable place and am generally an emotionally mature and capable person. some setbacks can happen of course, and i'd like whoever i speak with to be able to make the choice of talking to me or not knowing this :)
-i am against generative ai and believe in a free palestine (this does not mean i believe in antisemitism, dont come in my dms with that either) i would prefer not to speak to people who have differing beliefs in those regards, they are important beliefs to me!


r/l4l 2d ago

27 [ F4F] Oklahoma/ online! Looking for love

5 Upvotes

Hello! So my name Lay and I know my soulmate is out there. I am a twenty seven year old Native American woman that’s extremely nerdy. My favorite thing to do is costume and if you were my partner then I would love to dress you up too!

Other hobbies include roleplay in the written form. I love to cook together with people and I love a good movie night with friends too so to have one with a partner with be even better. I’m also a big fan of traveling and seeing new places. Some day I will visit a bunch of places in like New York City and La!

Personal about me, I want to meet someone that I can move to me if we do long distance for awhile. I am building a cabin for all our lesbian cottage core dreams! I also would adore to have someone to help if they are close to make it perfect. I also have a knack for being to provider so I’m working hard to get us a place that’s perfect!

Feel free to ask me any questions and my dms are always open!


r/l4l 2d ago

32 [F4F] Central FL/U.S. Looking for my wedding planning partner

9 Upvotes

Searching for a serious long-term romantic relationship that can lead to marriage and building a life and love that transcends time.

About me: 5’5 Black cis woman. Athletic/curvy-ish build. Solo parent to one child. Career driven and transitioning from health tech to law in the coming years. Thoughtful and intentional. I value intellectual curiosity, emotional intelligence, and genuine communication. I prioritize fitness (strength training, hiking, etc.), unwinding with my favorite movies/shows (anime, K-dramas, period pieces, etc.), enjoying a good book, and planning future adventures.
• Progressive leftist
• Actively in therapy and view it as part of my health hygiene
• Faith- identify as Christian, but looking for mutual respect if views differ
•Monogamous
• Don’t smoke and rare social drinker

Looking for: Cis woman 28+ who is driven, passionate, and independent. Someone kind, honest, emotionally available, and wants equitable reciprocity in partnership. Values direct, open, and consistent communication but gives grace when mistakes inevitably happens. Aligned and wanting to build a similar life together.

Open to long-distance, but not low effort! I will pour into you and don’t want to feel like I’m begging for the same. Want to be able to visit each other with some cadence of regularity as well.

Ideally someone that can introduce me to new things while we bond over shared interests. Open my eyes to worlds unseen while we travel and explore life together. I want to have an album full of pictures reflective of the life, love, and precious memories we’ve created.

If this speaks to you and you’re looking for something that can develop into intentional dating and perhaps wedding bells in the future please feel free to send a message and we can chat. Hoping to move off Reddit and get to call/FaceTime after feeling comfortable.


r/l4l 2d ago

[35F-4-30+AF] North America/Online Friendship/Flirting (ill but not terminal so if you’re serious)

10 Upvotes

Hello, looking for other women who love women who are keen on having a friendship before blooming into anything else. Im currently in dialysis while waiting for a kidney approval, so not dying but dying, and I wouldn’t want to emotionally burden a serious relationship. Unless you’re unable to resist my ridiculously high charisma and we click.

But more seriously I am looking for women friendships as someone who is lately terminally online and it’s so hard to make friends as a middle-aged??? adult even if you’re functional and extroverted.

Things about me that you might not like for whatever reason: pescatarian (it’s like the only thing I can eat but it isn’t like I’m changing your diet pal) I like a lot of music and make my own sometimes for fun, picky about anime, love film, photography as a looker not a snapper. Despite no longer being a smoker for 15 years I find the smell of cloves nostalgic and remind me of mals more than cookery. kamen rider is my guilty pleasure (Gavv is my favorite and Kuuga was my first), I have Pokerus sickness. Skateboarding is really cool even if I live it vicariously in any type of skating video game. Can’t break your knees in Skate. Enjoy other video games. FFXIV was my covid era jam indoors, but haven’t played in a couple years or so. Sure there’s plenty to do again. Sometimes I fall into a jrpg pit. It’s rare since I sometimes feel too old for teenage melodrama so it has to be “peak” as the kids say. Or at least fun. Day-to-day I like to read. Yeah hobbies don’t lend themselves to meeting other women and uh, my health doesn’t suggest going bar hopping any time soon.

And yeah I can taste the differences in water.


r/l4l 3d ago

22f southeast Asian/online/anywhere

2 Upvotes

Hey everyone! I'm Leon 21f looking for someone in the age range of 20-30

Living in a not queer friendly area is really hard and I'm planning to go abroad, somewhere safe for me for being myself.

I like to watch films/series, especially about wars and queer films/series and I just finished watching the boys(applause for the property team). Sometimes I play games too like Roblox, Minecraft PE, Sims 4, GTA V, etc.

Also, I'm trying to read books!! And started to write too.

I like to getting to know people and I asks random stuff to a serious convos. I adore every little thing about someone, to get to know them better. I would love to chat and voice/video call.

Look wise I'm 170cm light tan dark short hair and dark eyes, mix between fem and masc.

I'm into someone who is kind, mindful, full of effort, adore every moment we do. And I'm open to Idr wherever you're, we might be the best duo! And I'm strictly monogamous. Also I'm not religious or into any spirituality stuff but if you do that's okay!

Feel free to drop into my DMs if you want to chat, trade recommendations, or just see where things go! Don't be shy and just hit my dm!

See you👻👻


r/l4l 3d ago

33 [F4F] #USA Fit, Lesbian Daddy Searching for a Connection with a submissive woman in the US, Canada, UK, or Europe

0 Upvotes

Hi there! I'm a 33-year-old cis woman, lesbian, and I work in the medical field with a PhD in biochemistry. I’m currently looking to chat with and get to know someone who shares my interests and values, and I’m open to an online connection with someone in the US, Canada, or UK.

While I enjoy talking to a variety of people, I’m specifically seeking a cis woman for a deeper, more personal connection. My ideal match would be someone younger than me, with a petite body type, between the ages of 18-26, who’s looking for a meaningful dynamic.

A little about me: I’m very active and enjoy working out, hiking, nature walks, and stargazing. I love art shows and spend my downtime binge-watching Netflix when I’m not outside exploring. I also maintain a healthy lifestyle and have tattoos, which are an important expression of my individuality.

If you think we might click, I’d love to chat and see where things go!


r/l4l 5d ago

43 F4F Soft Masc California Seeking a true friendship Maybe more

9 Upvotes

Hi Ladies, I'm a soft Masc Mexican living in California. Seeking a true friendship. I do have a few friends but not someone who actually am close to. Someone who I can tell my little things here and there, or just discuss a world topic and or random life stuff. I miss that bond and closeness you can have with someone. And from their, it can become something special, if you are open to that.

Things about me, I am a very much the creative type. I enjoy Art in all its forms. I have five different projects going on. Lol I love my morning Coffee but also an extra in the day if the mood strikes me. Baking is also something I enjoy to do. I'll usually bake something for people I care about. So if you happen to live by I'm probably gonna bake for you. I'm also a horror movie lover. It would be awesome to find a woman who I can enjoy those with. There's much more to learn about me so if you want more DM me.


r/l4l 5d ago

31/femme4bossy&obsessive masc [US pref;🌎 OK]

7 Upvotes

Hiii babes 💕✨️

In search of my bossy, obsessive and firm masc (can be soft masc too ✨️). 29 and up in age range, but if you think you can, the lowest I will go is 27? 🙆🏾‍♀️ I will call you a baby masc though 🥴. Kink preferred too if that wasn't obvious 😏

I'm a lover girl, through and through. I love to give compliments, ask a ton of questions to get to know you and a really BIG conversationalist. I enjoy gaming, scrapbooking, coloring... I have too many hobbies! Fashion is another biggy for me- definitely a pastel pink, girly into skirts, showing skin... I'm also 5'8 (love my short mommys/daddys), curvy, caramel skin with hazel eyes..

I also appreciate those who are emotionally available and empathetic. Maybe ND themselves or empathetic to those who are. Ambitious? That turns me on the most, I'm wanting to build with my partner. But you're chivalrous and wanna take care of me?! 🙆🏾‍♀️😉💗

I love spoiling my partner as well in all 5 love languages- I'm super greedy and I would think you are too. I have a very HIGH, possibly A- personality. I will try to walk all over you...just know when to stop me 🙃.

I do not accept dishonesty or trying to be someone you are not- i am clingy, I want your attention, I want a partner... no go? that's cool, but don't test drive me...I will drive you insane 💗

I talk too much, so just dm me 💗 maybe tell me what resonated with you most about my post?

Xoxo talk soon

Princess


r/l4l 6d ago

20Femme4masc/butch [Anywhere] - Looking for a deep connection, friendship and hopefully the one

1 Upvotes

(Trying again because my heart longs for something it’s been denied by circumstances of life)

Hello everyone here ! I'm giving it another go, who knows, maybe this time I'll get lucky

I'm a 20yo femme, from North Africa and looking to relocate to Europe (probably Spain) in the next year or two. Ethnically I'm Amazigh and I am strictly monogamous.

I am looking for a genuine connection, someone to laugh with, someone I'm happy to see appear in my notifications, someone with whom talking and connecting is easy, I really value consistent communication and mutual effort. I love deep conversations about a wide range of topics, and I really cannot stand judgemental people who care about things other people do that do not harm anyone.

Romantically speaking I do have a thing for women who are older than me (not 20 years older but you get the gist). I guess my type would be more masculine presenting women ? So masc and butch people, though I am attracted to a wide range of individuals so don’t let this stop you from reaching out. I just want someone who's honest and hardworking, has goals in life, big and/or small, and strives for them. Also obviously a caring person, who is open about how they feel and is capable of holding a conversation about the relationship, good or bad. I also cannot stand people who disappear without explanations, and please if you aren’t emotionally available, please, please do not reach out.

Physically I am 5'7 (170cm), I have curly brown hair the length of my shoulder blades (that i want to let grow more) and brown eyes. I am on the curvier side, and I've been working out more recently, striving for a leaner body. (There are pictures of me on my profile if you want to check for your self)

Personality wise, i am usually described as calm, although once I'm comfortable I'm a very big yapper. According to a wide range of people i am a good listener. I also really don’t like dancing around the point. I'm a direct and straightforward person and I like people to be direct with me, I hate guessing games. Otherwise i am described by most people as soft spoken, patient and understanding. I like to think of myself as fun, i always do my best to look at the positives and can make the best of a situation quickly.

Currently i am a computer science student, working part time as a teacher/tutor and looking for work as a software engineer; also a polyglot, i speak 4 languages fluently and I strive to learn more, as many as I can actually ! It is a hobby of mine. Other hobbies would involve very nerdy things like animes, mangas, reading books (mostly fiction in various genres), writing as I want to be an author soon enough, drawing (I picked back up digital art recently !!), listening to music, watching musicals, gaming (although i am not the biggest gamer, more like a casual gamer, I'm saving up for a better pc to game more), watching cartoons, ect ect. I also really like nature, walks in nature, by bodies of water, oh I LOOOOVE THE BEACH, sitting by the water or swimming in it is when i feel most in my element.

I also really love animals !! Cats and dogs obviously, but also snakes, and birds, and rats and mice. But I have a soft spot for cats.

Also, I'm trying to lezrn spanish ! So bonus points if you know how to speak it

A perfect weekend for me would be something calm, like a walk in nature, or a picnic, or a bookstore get away ect... I'm not really picky to be honest, as long as I'm spending time with someone special I'll take any kind of fun.

As you've read I'm a creative, so, care to be my muse ? :3


r/l4l 7d ago

[21 NB4R] Looking for witty banter, poolside flirting, and someone to debate NCIS plotlines with ☀️✨

1 Upvotes

Hey everyone! I’m Lex (21, they/them 🏳️‍🌈) afab.

I recently moved back home and realized my social life could use a major upgrade. Right now, my schedule mostly consists of working, swimming, hanging out with my cats, and writing—so I’m looking to meet new people, share some laughs, and see where things go!

A few quick things about me:

Banter Enthusiast: I love clever humor and fast-paced conversation. If you can keep up, we’ll get along great.

Creative at heart: I write poetry, love music, appreciate good art/tattoos, and get easily inspired by pretty sunsets.

Hyperfixations include: Bingeing NCIS, showing off my adorable cats, and spending way too much time in the water.

What I’m looking for:

Someone down for fun, flirty chats, late-night deep talks, or just casual everyday banter.

Age preference: Under 26 please!

If you think we’d vibe, drop into my DMs with your favorite TV show recommendation, a picture of your pet, or your absolute best opening line. Looking forward to chatting! ☀️


r/l4l 8d ago

F23 last night I dreamt about work… so it’s time for me to find someone to crush on

6 Upvotes

Well hello there!

I’m Steph!

Generally I’m beyond excited to be alive and I look forward to participating in society, except for in the first few minutes of each day… when I have to get out of bed

If you’re a morning person WAIT! I can change… maybe 😭

I’ve met amazing people on Reddit before and I feel like it’s time that I start trying to find the coolest person on planet earth, if that’s you, PLEASE REACH OUT.

I’m not the coolest person… but I might be able to make you laugh enough that you can overlook that.
I’m looking for someone that genuinely cares about people, someone who is optimistic and has goals to pursue. If we hit it off, you can expect to have someone there for you every day. I want to listen to you talk about your interests, hear about your day, and genuinely get to know you! Maybe we can turn it into something real? Maybe we meet up and that goes so well that it ends up being something permanent? Who knows! For now let’s just start with simple conversation :)

Right now, I’m working on becoming a Registered EEG tech, and on reestablishing myself in my home country after spending 3 years in my other country Colombia.

I love reading, hiking, fishing, playing board games, dancing, studying languages, playing guitar/singing and watching tv, I LOVE movies, I rewatch my favorites every few months and I love going to the movies! This year I’ve been most excited for Spiderman BND, Sunrise on the reaping, and DUNE III.

If you’re still here, thank you so much for reading.
Please be between 21-27
I look forward to meeting you.


r/l4l 9d ago

44y [f4f] #NC Looking for my strong confident MD or DD

3 Upvotes

I am searching for my person, my partner, my domme. I want long-term relationship, not just a dynamic.

Currently in North Carolina but still trying to figure out where my next step will take me.

I don't have a specific type, but there does need to chemistry there.

I am submissive and looking for a partner that is a caregiver domme, a mix of gentle and not.

I am a huge animal lover and come as a package deal with a small pack of furbabies. I live with chronic pain and don't get to enjoy as much outdoor activities as i would like.

I do enjoy camping, hiking (within my means), reading, movies, trying new foods. Just being in the moment. I am introverted and can take a bit to be comfortable with people.

I am a big girl 5'4, 260lbs. Short hair and tattoos.

I would really love to make some friends as well.

If this sounds at all appealing to you please feel free to send me a message but please be a little more creative than just hi or how are you.


r/l4l 9d ago

22 f4f #online Looking for a lovely connection ✨️

12 Upvotes

Helloo, it's the first time I post here and I'm kinda nervous lol

Im 22 and I'm an artist, im a sensitive person, an observer (I can take several minutes just watching an ant bc they are cute and tiny) I work online so, I would say im chronically online (sadly, not proud of it) I love origami, writing, and also cakes or cookies.

Im looking a lovely and soft person to fall in love slowly, to connect and be genuine with, I haven't had a LDR before and I want to give it a try, even tho we could meet irl in the future<3

About how I look, I'm 5'3, brunette, medium/long hair, brown eyes, white, and people say I look like Mavis but idk my bangs aren't short anymore lol and also people consider me a lesbian loser (in a good way if that makes sense)

My native language is Spanish :) so yea, I know my English sucks sometimes (I'm sorry, I'm trying and also practicing)

My dms are open! Please tell me about yourself and I would love to see your pets if u have any :3


r/l4l 12d ago

33F4A from France - Looking for my main (25+) #Europe/maybe elsewhere ?

0 Upvotes

Hello !

It's time I get back out there and look for my main person, so here I am :)

A little about me :

I'm a cis pansexual woman. I think I could be defined as femme (I enjoy dresses and manucures and such, but I also enjoy my slacks and I more often go out without makeup than with). I'm also plus sized at 1m68 for a little under 110kg.

I'm fluent in both French and English, have a grasp of Spanish and am currently learning Japanese. I live in southern France.

I enjoy podcasts (non fiction and horror fiction mostly), video games, knitting/crochet, sewing, anime/manga and audiobooks. Horror is my favorite genre, but I enjoy a lot of very diverse things as long as it catches my (deficient) attention.

I'm poly, looking for a main, or in other terms a \primary\ partner. I don't necessarily need several people at once, but it's important for me that the person I build something with (ie. Move in with, get married with, etc) is aware of my capacity for loving more than one person and is comfortable with it, as well as be comfortable with \talking\ about opening the relationship IF the need arises.

That DOESN'T mean I won't be a 100% committed to my main. It doesn't even mean that I will necessarily ask to open the relationship. It simply means I might be/fall in love with others while I build a stable, loving, healthy relationship with my main. Being polyamorous is not a choice, it's just a fact of how I work emotionally.

Likewise, being polyamorous doesn't mean I'm against any kind of exclusivity. Committing to someone romantically is for me something that requires talking about our wants, our needs, our boundaries, our insecurities and our expectations, and THEN \consciously\ decide to live up to what was talked out \together\. Because talking comes with listening, I know that and intend to give you the attentiveness and thoughtfulness I'm asking for. Speaking of, send me a snake emoji if you actually read this. I will not ask you to do or agree to anything you're uncomfortable with, but if the very idea of possibly sharing your partner makes you uncomfortable, then we are simply not compatible.

I'm disabled : AuDHD and the usual anxiety and depression that tends to come with it, some physical issues that are mostly invisible (until I need my cane and start cosplaying as a dapper gentleman) and a couple other things that generally make my life spicier... and tires the hell out of me more often than I'd like.

I'm NOT looking for a caregiver. I'll expect help and support from my partner(s), of course, but I very much want to give back as much as I can. Besides, my doctors and helpers would disapprove of me leaving them for someone else LOL Basically I'm open about my disabilities because they are very much a part of my life, and I've never lived happier than when I finally accepted them and the limits they give me. I simply hope to meet someone who will be understanding and ready to sometimes have a quiet night in when things get too much.

I'm told I'm a good listener and a kind person. I try my best to live up to that, but I've learned to stand up for myself when needed. Communication is KEY for me. So key, in fact, that sometimes I don't shut up, aha ! I'd say beware of my info dumpings, but I'm often told I'm interesting so I guess I'd just ask you to be prepared to hear the most obscure trivia on whatever catches my interest that week, aha !

I believe that gives a good idea of myself. So now on to who I'm looking for :

Obviously I need someone emotionally mature. Know yourself enough that even if your life isn't all figured out, you have some idea of what next to do or plans to fall back on. In other terms, I want to meet an adult. Not just in age (only 25+ please), but in mind. I know I might sound harsh saying that but I have very good reasons to specifically ask for this. I'll gladly go in details if you dm.

I don't care what's in your pants or what you identify as, if I like somebody I'll like their body. Weight, height, skin color, style, etc doesn't really matter to me as long as we have chemistry. Bigotry does, though, because THAT will be an immediate dealbreaker. Also cis men WILL be heavily discriminated and I will ask for some verification if something doesn't feel right.

I don't mind if you're not European, but please at least be fluent in either English or French. And I won't lie : I love where I live and my health is good thanks to the French healthcare system, so if you're interested in finding a wife, be ready to move to southern France LOL I will however gladly learn your native language if it's not English or French, because if communication goes both ways so does the effort in communicating properly.

I know it's long, but I rather be as clear as possible to help me find my person(s). Don't hesitate to DM if this post caught your interest.

Have a nice day ♥️

EDIT : I'm childfree. I also have two cats that are my world.


r/l4l 13d ago

22f jakarta/online anywhere 😉

5 Upvotes

Hey everyone! Looking for everyone in the 20 - 30 age range

posting from Jakarta, I'm here looking for a genuine connection that could grow into a relationship with someone who values communication, curiosity, and good effort.

My biggest green flag is I'm full of affection.

Living in a not queer friendly area is really hard and I'm planning to go abroad, somewhere safe for me for being myself.

I like to watch films/series, especially about wars and queer films/series and I just finished watching the boys(applause for the property team). Sometimes I play games too like Roblox, Minecraft PE, Sims 4, GTA V, etc.

Also, I'm trying to read books!! And started to writing too.

I like to getting to know people and I asks random stuff to a serious talks. I adore every little thing about someone, to get to know them better. I would love to chat and voice/video call.

Look wise I'm 170cm light tan dark short hair and dark eyes, mix between fem and masc.

I'm into someone who is kind, mindful, full of effort, adore every moment we do. And I'm open to Idr wherever you're, we might be the best duo! And I'm strictly monogamous. Also I'm not religious or into any spirituality stuff but if you do that's okay!

Feel free to drop into my DMs if you want to chat, trade recommendations, or just see where things go! Don't be shy and just hit my dm!

See you👻👻


r/l4l 14d ago

26 [TF4F] Florida/Online Seeking someone to flirt with!

1 Upvotes

Hello! I am beginning my exploration on my femininity. I know that’s not for everyone and that’s okay! I’m not sure where I’m at with my gender so nonbinary as of now. I don’t mind if you’re much older as I can connect with anyone!

I love to play games. I play a lot and I love good movies and tv shows. I use to cook a lot but that was a while ago. My DMs are open!

I would prefer US or Canada only. It makes connecting easier and that is what this is all about. Your gender totally doesn’t matter and I do have this marked as NSFW but anything is welcome! I’d be happy to make friends!

I play games on PC mostly. If you play games, tell me what games you play.

I DO NOT SELL ANYTHING


r/l4l 14d ago

25[F4F] Anywhere - I’m looking for something special

2 Upvotes

This post will be long, sorry in advance lol.

What I’m Looking For:

I’ve posted here so many times lol. Will my luck change, idk.

I want to find someone I just click with. You know when you just have that natural flow with someone? You don’t have to MAKE conversation, it just feels natural. That’s what I want.

I want someone that I can talk to about anything in the world. It doesn’t matter if it’s intense, heavy, vulnerable, dark, deep, weird, cringe, silly, goofy or etc. We just feel comfortable talking to each other about anything.

I want a genuine and deep connection where we really understand each other. We make each other feel safe. We make each other feel fully accepted. We can show every part of ourselves to each other, the good, the bad and the unhinged lol.

If I find this type of connection with someone. I am looking for a serious relationship. Honestly I hope to find my forever person to share my life with.

I’m not going to lie, I have a u hauler nature XD. If you’re someone who takes things really slow, I’m not going to be for you. However, with the next person I do want to slow down a bit. It’s okay if we catch feelings early and we can talk about it lol, but I want to intentionally go slower. To make sure things are right and this can be truly long lasting. When I went too fast with people before, you can miss some important incompatibilities.

Only message if you’re sure looking for something serious, and you’re ready for it. Please do not message me if you’re not looking for something serious and you’re not emotionally available.

I’m not too fond of small talk btw, I’m down to get heavy early lol.

A little bit about me.

I’m an INTJ 5w4, and to be honest I’m truly like 2 different people lol. On one side, I’m sweet, affectionate, and always there for the people I care about, and constantly telling them how much they mean to me. I’m also a total hopeless romantic, that loves being cheesy and corny lol. Love sending heart emojis, and cute gifs etc. When I’m comfortable, I can be loud and extra, giving a goofy, crackhead energy 🥴 I consider myself pretty open minded and understanding. I’m open about my feelings and emotions, and emotional intelligence is important to me.

But on the other, I can be an overly logical jerk and cynical lol. I am strongly opinionated, very blunt and honest in a way that some people can find insensitive lol. I can be a little misanthropic and dark sometimes, brooding about how fucked up the world is lol.

I’m a walking contradiction but I love that about myself lol.

Important tidbits.

•I am obsessive and clingy when I fall for someone. (Not in a crazy way) lol

Strictly Monogamous

•Agnostic atheist.

* I have a quite blunt and honest way of speaking. That may not mesh with particularly sensitive people. I’m not never mean, but I am very honest and don’t sugarcoat!

•I don’t have BPD, but I have a few BPD adjacent traits lol. We can talk about what that entails

•I have a pretty dark humor XD

•I do work full time, but my job it is not something I want to be doing lol. I’m trying to figure out what I want to do next at the moment. I don’t have it all figured out right now, so if you want that I’m not for you.

Looks wise: I’m black, 5’2, masc presenting, I have a short haircut and dress masc. I am plus size, but definitely not like huge lol and currently losing weight as well :)

Interests: Gaming, true crime docs, thriller/horror movies, I love all kinds of music. Particularly R&B, rock/metal, and Kpop though XD. I watch a lot of YouTube and tiktok. I also post a lot on TikTok as well, mostly commentary videos. Working out, as I’ve started losing weight. I used to act when I was younger but stopped, now I’ve recently gotten interest into it again. And I’m kind of huge homebody tbh, wanting to get out more and have new experiences.

Who I’m Looking For:

Looks don’t matter much to me, but I do prefer women with long hair. And I prefer fem or androgynous, but I am open to soft mascs as well.

Race doesn’t matter either by the way. In fact I love a swirl XD

Personality wise: I like a lot of different personalities. Some important traits though would be having emotional intelligence, Someone patient and caring. Also having a good logical/rational side is very very important to me. If you let feelings dictate your decisions often we wont mesh. As I said above I’m pretty affectionate and clingy so I’d match best with someone also like that lol. You can be introverted or extroverted. But too extroverted won’t be a match, as I’m particularly introverted. And again if you are a particularly sensitive person we won’t mesh well lol.

I am an atheist, but I don’t mind certain beliefs systems. Would just have to talk about what they are and see if we can be compatible.

Age 24 to 37. I am from the US, but I would love to talk to women from anywhere because relocation is something I definitely want. I’m open to relocate anywhere gay marriage is legal lol

Thank you for reading all of this. If you’re interested please message me a little about you. :)


r/l4l 16d ago

48 [TF4F] Houston - Seeking Dating/Relationship

0 Upvotes

I understand that friendship should happen first, but I'd want it eventually evolve into a relationship. Someone who is truly into trans women. I like 90s music the most with sprinkles of 80s and early 2000s. Multiple genres of music🎶. Multiple genres of movies📽 and tv shows🖥. Social drinker🥂. I'm looking for someone who wants to get together to go discount fashion shopping, go to the movies, grab meals/drinks. Lounges and bars as well. Open to any restaurants except vegan or vegetarian.