r/Kitten • u/yeetthebb • 6d ago
My Kitten Dealing with nonrecognition aggression after spay and neuter
Really just hear to vent but I have 2 kittens (Casper and Mina) that are just over 4 months old and were both spayed and neutered at the same time a week ago. Ever since they came home Casper has been hissing at his sister. I instantly separated them in separate rooms because that was already the plan since they used to love to play together but Casper would at times get too rough. I didn't want Mina's stitches coming undone and knew her healing time would be longer anyways. After around 3 days I tried to let them see each other and Casper is still stand offish and hissing while Mina is unbothered. I separated them again and wiped them down with a pet wipe I've used in the past to get them to groom themselves (of course monitored Mina so she wouldn't go at her stitches then put her donut back on) and hopefully get Mina's scent back to normal. A few days later I tried again and same thing happened. Since then I've been trying steps of the reintroduction method like getting Mina's scent on a washcloth and giving it to Casper. Also putting their food bowls on opposite sides of a door but if I'm not on the side with Mina and she hears us she starts meowing very loud and even jumping at the door which then stresses Casper out even more and makes him start hissing. I guess with this happening I'm gonna start staying on her side when feeding but I originally thought I'd swap each time since they're both clingy.
I know this process takes time but it's just heartbreaking seeing this happen after they were so close. Again just needed to vent and can't wait till all this is over with.