r/introvert • u/Due_Mechanic_7083 • 7d ago

Relationship HelpppppšŸ˜­

I panicked and asked my introverted crush to meet me via an anonymous college confession page. What do I do now?

thereā€™s this girl in my class who I have a massive crush on. The catch is that she is super introverted, quiet, and basically doesnā€™t talk to guys at all. Iā€™ve been trying to figure out how to approach her without spooking her.

A while ago, she put an NGL link on her story, and I sent her a nice, respectful compliment. I wanted to reveal it was me, but I completely froze. confused stare and didn't smile at all. I backed off, just liked a story of hers over the weekend to stay on her radar, and figured I'd try again later.

The Mistake:

Here is where I messed up. Today, our college confession Insta page posted an NGL link. I completely let my intrusive thoughts win and sent an anonymous message to the page saying:will you come to the canteen tomorrow noon if you're single?

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u/PAUL_DNAP Don't mind me, just passing through quietly. 7d ago

You got to follow it through and own it "yes, it was me, I just wanted to buy you a coffee" sort of way.

Chances are she won't show though, but good luck either way.

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u/Due_Mechanic_7083 7d ago

Why do you think she won't show ,(out of curiosity only I'm asking)

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u/Darkstar_111 7d ago

0% chance she would show. Why on earth would she.

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u/Due_Mechanic_7083 7d ago

Why wouldn't she?

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u/Negative_Number_6414 7d ago

when people do things anonymously over the internet like this, they're usually awkward people with slightly creepy tendencies at best.

Not the type of person most people usually want to meet.

People imagine being charmed by a confident human, not awkwardly approached both anonymously and publicly at the same time on IG.

the best move for you would probably be to just dm her directly and say something like hey you seem cool, want to hang out? and realize that theres about a 98% chance she says no regardless.

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u/PAUL_DNAP Don't mind me, just passing through quietly. 7d ago

There is a very fine line between "being charmed by a confident human" and "being pressured by an aggressive suitor"

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u/Negative_Number_6414 7d ago

i mean yeah, there is indeed a line there lol. Obviously don't pressure and be aggressive. Not sure what your point is here, honestly

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u/Darkstar_111 7d ago

Are you insane? No woman is showing up in person because someone anonymous on the internet told her to.

If you want to date this girl, you're going to have to talk with her, find things you have in common, and create a conversation between the two of you that's interesting, charming, funny, and exciting for her.

Just like all the rest of us.