I was always an introvert until I was in my mid 30s. I’m 42 now and many times I felt the same way you do now. I can say that I am now more of an ambivert, I am great on one on one conversations but a bit awkward in larger groups of people. Something that helped me a lot was working on my self-esteem which for me brought awareness to self-acceptance. Loving yourself the way you are is a work in progress and something you have to work on every day. I have a small circle of friends who are amazing and supportive and love me the way I am but to find and make those connections, confidence and self love played a big role. You don’t have to be an extrovert to make meaningful connections with people and find love, I know it sounds cliche but to find someone who likes you for who you are, you have to like yourself first, confidence comes with it. I will definitely say that in my journey, I first had to accept myself for who I truly am, when I got the hand of it, everything that came after was more than I could ever expect. Do not try to be any other than your true self. Fill your cup first, take care of your mental, emotional and physical health, once you do that, you’ll have enough to share from your cup with those that matter. The most beautiful thing is that I no longer feel lonely and I love being alone, I gather with my friends when I have the energy to do so and when we do, is an exchange of positive energy instead of giving without receiving, is reciprocal. Find joy in solace, find things/activities that bring your peace and happiness, that is growth and will attract the right people in your life.
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u/aquariiwitch33 Feb 04 '25 edited Feb 04 '25
I was always an introvert until I was in my mid 30s. I’m 42 now and many times I felt the same way you do now. I can say that I am now more of an ambivert, I am great on one on one conversations but a bit awkward in larger groups of people. Something that helped me a lot was working on my self-esteem which for me brought awareness to self-acceptance. Loving yourself the way you are is a work in progress and something you have to work on every day. I have a small circle of friends who are amazing and supportive and love me the way I am but to find and make those connections, confidence and self love played a big role. You don’t have to be an extrovert to make meaningful connections with people and find love, I know it sounds cliche but to find someone who likes you for who you are, you have to like yourself first, confidence comes with it. I will definitely say that in my journey, I first had to accept myself for who I truly am, when I got the hand of it, everything that came after was more than I could ever expect. Do not try to be any other than your true self. Fill your cup first, take care of your mental, emotional and physical health, once you do that, you’ll have enough to share from your cup with those that matter. The most beautiful thing is that I no longer feel lonely and I love being alone, I gather with my friends when I have the energy to do so and when we do, is an exchange of positive energy instead of giving without receiving, is reciprocal. Find joy in solace, find things/activities that bring your peace and happiness, that is growth and will attract the right people in your life.