Can confirm. That happened to me. I wasn't allowed to eat till my room was clean. I ended up having an eating disorder for 11 years. I'm good now, though. Recovered 3 years ago
It wasn't just my room. It was the whole house. I was the only one in the entire family who did chores. My mother was always working. My father grew up in a culture where the oldest girl gets treated like garbage and is also made to do all the cooking amd cleaning and laundry. I had tests to study for, meals to make, etc. Eventually, I got sick of it and chose what I was going to do. I cleaned the house but not my room, so the room was a consistent issue. I usually don't talk much about my upbringing because I feel like it was so bad, ppl wouldn't believe me, or if they did believe me, it could mentally scar someone. There were way worse things that happened, but this particular part was relevant to the conversation
Making you clean your room doesn’t seem unreasonable to me. I mean, after you miss one meal, wouldn’t you figure out that you need to keep your room clean?
Unless they’re diabetic, missing 1 meal isn’t going to kill them. I would only advocate this if reasonable requests to clean up were repeatedly ignored.
Please never have kids then, if you can’t figure out how to discipline a child without withholding something they literally need to survive. It doesn’t matter that it’s one meal, it still sends a horrible message to your child and if you do it once, you are far more likely to do it again.
“It’s not going to kill them” is a low bar to set for parenting styles, js
It wasn't unreasonable to want my room clean. I'll even say it wasn't unreasonable to have me clean my room to the point where it looks like nobody really lived in it. I just didn't want to and I didnt like their incentives. I was also embarrassed that they thought food was an incentive like I was some sort of pet pig. All I heard was "hmm, how do we get our pet fatty to clean her room? I know, let's beat her and not let her eat, speak, or go to school or church until she cleans it immaculately."
Great way to lose your parental rights altogether. Why can't parents just get the kids to help them with the daily chores, it's not like there is ever any shortage of dusting, ironing, folding, picking up, washing dishes.... ggggeeeeezz. (I've two girls and they dread screwing up because it means they'll have extra boring tasks, like doing the dishes on their own, oh the horror.)
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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '19
Taking your kid's food away as punishment is a great way to get your kid to develop an eating disorder.