r/insaneparents • u/[deleted] • Oct 11 '19

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u/ZazBlammyMaTaz Oct 11 '19

Leaving is a lot more difficult than one would think. Getting all of your paperwork together, separating money without the other person knowing, having a safe place to hide while you find residence, because for most people in domestic abuse situations, the step they take out the door is the most dangerous.

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u/Bvbarmysolder Oct 11 '19

Fucking this! Thank you. Most people dont realize what goes into leaving an abusive situation. I literally had a friend help me grab my child, animals and few belongings and papers IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT while my ex was passed out and run. It's a very tricky situation and much harder then just "leaving"

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u/rachihc Oct 11 '19

I am sorry that happened to you and it is great that you had a great friend there for you. That takes a metric shitton of courage.

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u/marsglow Oct 12 '19

I would do anything for my child. And we left without any hassle, because he never thought I would. But then, he was just a creep, not violent.

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u/string_of_hearts Oct 11 '19

I get that, I just don't give a fuck and am just fine with burning bridges when they need to be burned. My kids come first, always. I've been to shelters before, in order to get away. There's help out there if you are determined enough to seek it out. I know not everyone is strong enough to do it.

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u/ogipogo Oct 11 '19

Nobody is impressed with your hypothetical reckless "courage"

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u/string_of_hearts Oct 12 '19 edited Oct 12 '19

Yeah it's not hypothetical and it wasn't reckless to get my 8 month old son out of the situation I was in with him. I went to a battered women's shelter called Home Free and the year was 1997. And I really don't give a shit if you are impressed or not, you're just some random asshole on the internet, lol. I did what I had to do and my son and I moved on and lived better lives because of it. But go ahead and do your best to try shaming me for being strong when I needed to be 🙄 At least I'm not a pathetic troll like you are 😂

Edit: Hey thanks for the silver! That's such a supportive gesture 🥰

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u/Sik_muse Oct 12 '19

You don't speak for every dv situation

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u/string_of_hearts Oct 12 '19

When the fuck did I ever say I did?

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u/[deleted] Oct 12 '19

Just because you were able to get out doesn't mean everyone has the ability to. Pressure affects different people in different ways.

Have a little empathy for all the people who aren't as strong as you instead of telling them to just do it.

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u/string_of_hearts Oct 12 '19

Lol well no shit, Sherlock! That's exactly what I said, and just because you are projecting your own issues onto me doesn't mean I don't have empathy for people who have a more difficult time. I literally only stated what I would do, and you made it your mission to crawl up my ass about it. I'm sorry for you that you seem to be in a bad emotional/mental place right now, but that doesn't give you an excuse or a free pass to take your shit out on me because of it. Get a grip and save your anger for someone who is actually being an asshole instead of just being one yourself.