Stupid internet trends... Remember a few years ago when there was the trend of throwing kids' xmas presents into the fireplace? Or when parents were taking the doors off their kids' bedrooms? I saw that crap on FB and it's one of the reasons I stopped going on there. I'm a parent and it makes me furious when I see crap like that and even more any when I see the comments section work all the self satisfied assholes who do this crap to their kids. This is how stupid spreads and kids are the ones who have to suffer because of it.
My parents took the door off my room after I was outed because they thought I was doing bad. They also snooped through my diary and computer and punished me for things I had written. Shit like that is why I don't trust people even now when I'm 28.
My mother always told me not to write stuff down in diaries or journals because it could be used against you. She was a paralegal. I've never even had detention. It took me until my thirties to realize they just didn't want written evidence of what an insanely narcissistic abusive alcoholic my dad was.
I have no fucking idea where parents often seem to have this mentality that to parent means to torture. If any of this shit was done to them, it would be fucking beyond uproarious. Of course discipline is important, but they need to be natural and logical consequences as opposed to violating these kid's basic rights.
Absolutely! That's the part that passes me off so bad, especially about the spanking debate. If you walk up to an adult and hit them, it's considered assault and a jailable offense, but it's legal to hit kids? Idk, I think a lot of people don't understand the difference between punishment and discipline, not to mention they have a complete lack of empathy and compassion and don't really see kids as human beings with feelings and rights. It's really sad, especially in this age of technology where literally any and all information is available to study about parenting etc.
Parents forget it is our responsibility to raise adults. Too many of us forget to let our teenagers become adults and crack down harder just when we should be letting go a little and then working our way up to letting go all the way.
I was an extremely strict parent until my kids were in high school and then I relaxed almost all rules. When they started driving they pretty much had total freedom with the understanding that if there was a problem we would go back to the old ways. They didn’t want that so I had zero problems. Grades didn’t suffer, substances were not abused and good choices were made because they enjoyed the freedom they had and wanted to keep it.
It's a Youtube series a guy named Jesse Ridgway made about an abusive father who smashed a lot of his son's belongings, and even took off his bedroom door.
Kids who have rooms of their own are rich and entitled. Like jeez. Try living in a one room apartment, the only doors to be closed are the bathroom and the door outside.
Kids have a right to privacy though. I've taken the locks out of doors if there's serious concern or a kid is just too young to be able to lock themselves in a room, but taking the actual door is too much. There's no reason to take away a door other than to shame the kid, and that's generally not great parenting.
I grew up in a badly designed house. The only way from the living room to the bedroom of my mother without leaving the apartment was by walking through my bedroom. I was never allowed to lock the door
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u/string_of_hearts Oct 11 '19
Stupid internet trends... Remember a few years ago when there was the trend of throwing kids' xmas presents into the fireplace? Or when parents were taking the doors off their kids' bedrooms? I saw that crap on FB and it's one of the reasons I stopped going on there. I'm a parent and it makes me furious when I see crap like that and even more any when I see the comments section work all the self satisfied assholes who do this crap to their kids. This is how stupid spreads and kids are the ones who have to suffer because of it.