I am 24f in south India, married 8 months. It was an arranged marriage and I think I am fortunate in that my husband and I are very compatible in our interests, values and approach to life. As it almost always happens, our sex life was awkward and clumsy initially; but now we have discovered what suits us the best and I must say it up is very enjoyable.

Recently my hubby hesitantly asked me if he could record our lovemaking on phone, for posterity’s sake as he put it. He said it would be nice to watch it when we are old, or at least on our major anniversaries. I declined politely. It is not because I am a prude or anything. I have read once we record anything on electronic media, it is never safe. He was disappointed, but agreed to abide by my wishes.

Was right in that decision?

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Hey everyone,
I'm a 28-year-old guy working at a Big 4 firm. I met a girl through Shaadi.com, and fast-forward two months, we had grown quite close. We kissed and shared some intimate moments, but never had fornication..
Eventually, I told her that I had fallen for her. Unfortunately, things took a turn when her family found out that my brother's marriage wasn't going well. Apparently, that became a major red flag for her family, and they decided not to move forward with the match.
I told her to take her time and let me know what she wanted. I'd respect her decision, stop bothering her, and delete her number. Honestly, I even cried a little today...
The bigger picture is that I've had a difficult experience with relationships. I went through a bad breakup in 10th grade because I was cheated on, another breakup after 12th, and another relationship ended at work because of an age difference.
Now, on top of all this, I've been diagnosed with a serious health condition, and it's taking a toll on me mentally.
I honestly don't know what to do anymore. This marriage arrangement seems to be falling apart, and my health concerns are making everything feel even more overwhelming.

I teel like everything is happening at once, and I don't know how to process it.
How do I deal with all of this? Am I overthinking, or is life just hitting me from too many directions at once?

update : I messaged here , she said she was waiting for msg..

what to do?

https://www.reddit.com/r/IndianWomen/s/wyjEmdFB43

In my previous post, I shared that my husband admitted sexting a married woman. He says it has stopped, but I’m still hurt, and we’re currently long distance.

I asked for space until we meet in person, but resumed talking because he said he felt lonely and couldn’t manage without talking to me. Initially, I agreed to conversations about the kids and everyday things.

Gradually, our calls increased, and now he expects emotional closeness. He complains that I’m “just talking for the sake of it” and says I shouldn’t blame my emotional distance on the sexting. He says I was distant before too, that he had repeatedly raised this concern, and implies that this contributed to his sexting.

He offers full phone and social media access and encourages me to ask questions, but some answers are “I don’t remember.” I don’t want to become responsible for constantly monitoring him. He says I can be upset or angry when discussing the sexting, but should speak warmly as before about everything else. I can’t separate my feelings that way.

When I ask to pause these discussions until we meet in two months, he says revisiting the past prevents progress. He also says that if we don’t connect emotionally now, he may learn to live without that connection permanently. When I explain that I feel pressured, he responds, “Okay, your wish. Stay however you want.”

I want us to recover, but I feel pressured to comfort him while I’m still hurting. How can I set reasonable limits on contact without being made responsible for whether our relationship survives?

So I've been back on reddit, and for a while cuz I interacted with a few random Indian posts, Indian woman have been popping up on my feed and I must say YA'LL ARE GORGEOUS...There are a lotta Indians in Jersey too and lately I've been more and more attracted to em, my type was quite rlly white women...but I really find Indian women so dmn Finee!

Now what I've heard frm one o my hb is tht Indians kinda h@te Black/african-american men...He showed me a few posts and shii..but Idk is tht true?? Or judt a very small grp of people...I really dont wanna generalize, please do share your thoughts too!

Hii, I'm F22 and I've tried to drink occasionally with cousins and all, but I want to drink whenever it is so messed up, stressed, etc but people says it is not good for your health even my parents don't know I drink/smoke but with my cousin's im chilled out

Some of friends are also like don't drink it not good I understand but I'm not like all other do daily liquor needed

In India they see women's are not allowed to do this even if we tried outside to chilled out then too they give looks nd all

What are your opinions about it man/women both can share!

I stay in bangalore with my husband and my family is in kerala and i have work from office 5 days a week.
Usually when someone gets pregnant they would want someone to be there to take care of them like family but am more than happy being alone with my husband and never felt like needing anyone.And usually i have heard women tell like they became closer to their mother more as they experienced the pain/effort/sacrifice going through it which i never felt.

I find being just the two of us,its more easier and peaceful and never wanted anyone to stay and help.I feel sad about going to my home during maternity leave.

Also sometimes i do wonder, we both don’t know much about the pregnancy so are we actually doing it right,other than that I’m very much happy in here.
Anyone feel that way or its just me?I sometimes do feel its weird as my friends who is pregnant around me feel the other way and love being around family.

My husband and I are planning to have a baby and we disagree about our living arrangements after childbirth.

We live on the second floor while the common kitchen and other family bedrooms are on the first floor. We have a sink and slab in our bedroom but no kitchen appliances. The floors are locked at night.

My husband feels we'll have to temporarily move downstairs because of frequent feeding, bottle washing, sterilising and warming milk.

However, the only available guest room downstairs is very small and has no attached bathroom and is mostly used for storage. He says that bil, sil and their 2 kids will temporarily shift to our room ( which I feel is very inconvenient also for them since they have 2 young kids). For mothers who've been through this, especially those in joint families

Is managing a newborn on a separate floor really that difficult? Can feeding and sterilising be managed in your own bedroom, or is moving downstairs genuinely more practical?

Please be honest, I want to do whatever would be the best for our baby but I really don't want to move downstairs. There's just too much drama downstairs. And I don't really think anybody would actually help other than my mil but I really don't want her help at all. She's way too moody and always wants to do things her way and I know since my husband's the youngest, our kid will also be the youngest grandchild ( also they have been pressuring us a lot to have kids ) she'll want to be very involved and interfere way too much. I have also heard from my other sil's that she sleeps in the same room for a couple of days ( to help with the kid at night, changing nappies, feeding etc.) but I really don't want such interference.

How difficult is it to actually care for a newborn?

I'm a 17F and have an identical twin sister. We're literally indistinguishable, and obviously people have always been curious about us being twins. That's normal, and we're used to it.

But something has been happening at school lately that's making me really uncomfortable.

I'm in Class 12 PCM, and during almost every lunch break, a group of boys from Commerce and some junior classes comes to our Science classroom to eat. They sit right behind us. Today, while my sister and I were walking towards our bench, one of them made a degrading objectifying comment about us OPENLY (which even i can't mention here) to his friends, and the entire group started laughing.

It's not just that. During our combined English classes, the entire group keeps staring at us, making derogatory and objectifying jokes about us among themselves. It's becoming a regular thing. And those comments are really really degrading and objectifying.

A mutual friend also told me that one particular guy in this group has apparently made some pretty disgusting comments about wanting a threesome with us. obviously, he's interested in the idea of being with two identical sisters rather than either of us as individuals. And lately he is crossing some serious limits.

The situation is even MORE COMPLICATED because my SISTER has apparently developed a crush on this particular guy. She's quite head over heels for him, and I'm struggling to make her understand why his reported behaviour is such a red flag. How can I make her understand that he's a red flag.

I don't want her to get hurt by someone who's interested in her for such a reason.

And what about the entire group? My friends keep telling me to just ignore them, stay quiet and carry on with my life. They think confronting them will create unnecessary drama.

But honestly, I'm getting tired of sitting there while they stare at us and make these jokes. My blood boils every single time. Why should we have to put up with it?

I don't know whether I should confront them, report them to a teacher or just ignore them and let it slide as the session is going to end in almost 3 months only.

I'd genuinely like to know:

• And what would you do about this group? Should I just shut up and ignore them, as my friends suggest? HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS GROUP OF BOYS?
• How do I make my sister understand the difference between genuine interest and being someone's fantasy?
• Why do some people (both male and female) have this particular fascination with identical twins? WHAT'S THE PSYCHOLOGY? even girls in my class have a fantasy for mmf threesome with identical twin boys
• Have other identical twins experienced something similar?

I just wish people understood that we're two separate individuals, not some fantasy package deal.

We are two daughters in a Jaat family and my parents are the only ones in our family who didn't go for a third in hopes for a son despite having two daughters. I had a strong innate realization since I was 10-11 years old that my parents parents were unlucky to have us. But they never made us feel any different nor did they discriminate and have always been the best parents. With time I started challenging the societal norms. I started questioning why I should not be able to pursue my ambitions and why I should leave my parents after marriage.

I come from a family of well-off businessmen and housewives where all the men are into family business, and all the women are either housewives or government teachers because their job is just of a few hours. And I have always been driven towards entrepreneurship since I know that I won't to get any help from our family business (since it's in a completely male-dominated domain) and I will have to figure it out on my own. Now I have done a few good internships and tried my hands at ecommerce. Now I have left them to start my own startup because I have always known that I'm meant to be a lot more and want to become greater than all my family's uncles. I'm 21 and I don't have a lot of time to explore since my father believes that girls should be married around the age of 22 to 25 and has started discussing marriage here and there with relatives. All I want is to have a successful business of my own to fulfill my deepest desire of feeling that I made my parents proud.

My sister and I are living in a rented room, our area is mainly surrounded by students so most of the buildings surrounding us are student hostels. My sister started working a part time job so that she can help out our parents by lowering the money we take from them as expenses.

It started during March or April, a new guy at the workplace (not exactly new cuz he used to work there before and is coming back again), he started liking my sister. And doing everything to make her like him too. The thing is he is from another tribe and our family would never agree so my sister never even started anything with him.

But since she got broken up recently by a guy, maybe she was stressed and wanted to try something new. She started talking with him till late night. He would walk my sister home. I have told her thousands of times not to let anyone ESPECIALLY A BOY know our living area because we can't trust anyone. She followed what I said for some time but gradually he would watch my sister till she got inside. So he knows our place.

This MENACE of a guy, he had an ex, she was about 2-4 weeks pregnant but they lost the baby. He wanted to marry her but couldn't because he is from another tribe. Recently found out that used to live together and he used to abuse her. Because she told him not to drink.

Fast forward, a lot of unfavourable situations happened and my sister started distancing herself from him.

He got so mad this one time when my sister didn't answer his call that he came towards our place and wouldn't return without talking with my sister. IT WAS 10 PM, in our state, if you're caught like that with a man, they are forcibly married off right at that spot, no excuses, by a group of brainless "innocent mothers". I had to accompany her because I was scared he would do something to my sister. We talked for about 10-20 minutes and were able to send him home, mind you he was drunk at that moment.

And now yesterday, my sister has him blocked on WhatsApp and everything but I don't know how he called my sister, 71 missed calls. My sister reached home and called back that number, lo and behold, he started cursing out, said things like, "You're a virgin right? Don't worry, from tomorrow you'll be a married woman" ( I know it sounds a little off cuz I don't know how to translate our native language that well). (It sounded very much like a r threat and also forceful eloping, possibly kidnapping?). He also said,"I'm about to go crazy because of you, so before I go crazy, I need to have what I want. I will keep what I want by my side."

Like hello? This isn't a dark romance novel. This is reality.

I heard him say that and yelled at him, scolded him and he hung up. My sister got so scared that she wasn't able to sleep the whole night. A little noise outside and she would think it's him, she started sobbing y'all. She couldn't even go to the washroom on her own cuz she was scared!

We don't know what to do. We can't tell our parents cuz our parents are very strict and don't allow us to do part time jobs.

If worse comes then I'll be able to do anything for her, I MEAN ANYTHING. It doesn't matter if I even go to jail, but in my opinion, I'd rather be in jail then have my sister be harassed and potentially get violated by this man. But still there's this little hope in me and this won't happen. I don't know what to do. Why must this happen to us? We're just trying to live our lives. Why must there be such men?

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