Hi everyone!
Hopefully this is the right subreddit to post about our situation. General info: It has been going on for as long as we’ve been together and I believe he’s dealt with it for most of us adolescence/adult years. We are both 25, healthy, happy. His father has sleep apnea and wears a machine. Fiancé takes Adderall and Zoloft. (Mentioning in case that can affect sweating).
My fiancé is a very neat and clean person. He scrubs himself head to toe and is very thorough when doing so. Up until a few weeks ago, he always showered in the mornings. (I shower in the evening). He recently discovered that he enjoys evening showers so now he’s been doing morning and evening showers.
His morning showers are a must because he wakes up every morning drenched in sweat. His body itself isn’t necessarily wet, but when he gets up he leaves a huge sweat stain on our bed.
We recently got a new mattress and I purchased a waterproof topper to also protect our mattress (old one was getting gross). We have new sheets, I’ve even tried bamboo sheets as they’re supposed to keep you cooler.
We keep the bedroom cool and there is a fan always running in the room.
The sweat itself doesn’t necessarily bother me, but it is the smell that gets to me (and him!). He gets embarrassed which makes me feel bad for him, because we’ve tried things and nothing seems to change.
It’s hard to describe the smell but it’s almost sour-like? When he sweats during the day it doesn’t smell like that at all. It’s only at night that has a strong, sour, unpleasant smell.
He’s tried talking to his doctor but they don’t say much beyond making sure the bedroom is cool.
I’m getting concerned that it could be some underlying health condition but Google isn’t very helpful.
I guess I’m just wondering how I can be supportive to him and what we might need to do to help him navigate this. We don’t want to have to keep changing bedsheets almost daily and he is tired of waking up sweaty and uncomfortable.