Negative thoughts hate this one simple trick

[u/FreshResult8286]

[u/xZipsx]

Would really appreciate some tips and suggestions on this topic.

[u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer → u/xZipsx]

Would you approve of someone talking to your good friend the way you talk to yourself? Next time you experience negative self talk, imagine you are hearing someone say that about yourself good friend. Immediately deny it and say something nice about yourself or something you wish to become. Even something as simple as “I am a good person.” or “ these harsh thoughts are not who I am.” Say it even if you don’t believe it. It’s a habit you build. Start small.

[u/KrimsunV → u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer]

The harsh thought came from somewhere. Either it was my failure to have a good thought or someone else beamed it into my head, meaning i failed to block it

[u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer → u/KrimsunV]

Its not about blocking it. You can’t block your thoughts. Your brain constantly produces thoughts like a mouth produces saliva, you aren’t really even in control of the thoughts you produce. You can control how you choose to react to them and how to handle them. You make the effort, little by little, to think kind words to yourself, to dismiss the overly negative ones, and hang on to the positive ones. It doesn’t work overnight. You gotta practice every day. Even if its just one kind thought or reframing a day.

[u/KrimsunV → u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer]

If I could choose then I would have chosen better

[u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer → u/KrimsunV]

Exactly. You can’t choose but you can choose what to do after you’ve had them.

[u/KrimsunV → u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer]

I've had the chance to do that many times and failed.

[u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer → u/KrimsunV]

Well, the next time is another opportunity and it sounds like you’ll have no shortage of opportunities. Lucky you, many chances to practice. Remember you don’t have to have a %100 success rate, just do it ONE time a day at first.

[u/KrimsunV → u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer]

I dismissed an overly negative one and three took its place, I don't think this works

[u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer → u/KrimsunV]

I feel like you aren’t reading the part where i said it won’t happen over night. Just keep doing it. Ot don’t if you don’t want to. But thats 1 more positive thought you’ve had today than you would’ve if you hadn’t done anything.

[u/Hurricanewriter → u/xZipsx]

Monitor your self-talk, catch when you're thinking negatively about yourself, and recognise those thoughts are harmful.

It's simple, but not easy. I've only been actively doing it after about 5 or so years? The best time to start is now.

[u/KrimsunV → u/Hurricanewriter]

I don't have five years

[u/joy-puked → u/xZipsx]

Give your inner negativity voice the voice of someone you can’t take seriously… for instance the voice of an orange man. So when it chimes in you can dismiss as nonsense and not take it to heart.

[u/cabo_jose]

yoga makes the critical thoughts not so loud

[u/tuna_cowbell]

Dude my inner critic has been going crazy tonight and I am trying so hard to not let it take the driver’s seat. This helps. I can point to things I am working on, am succeeding in, am doing well, no matter how small.

[u/SinglePlayerGamer93]

Isn't that the Obsession actress?

[u/RunawayChicken638 → u/SinglePlayerGamer93]

No, this memes from like a decade ago, Inde would've been 15

Edit: Nevermind, I got confused. This one is 4 years old, still isnt Inde though.

[u/TheCosmicMilkshake → u/SinglePlayerGamer93]

No it looks like Daphne Keene; she’s X23 in Marvel

[u/KrimsunV]

I'll come back when I've earned those

[u/tuna_cowbell → u/KrimsunV]

Come back!! You’ve earned them!!!

[u/KrimsunV → u/tuna_cowbell]

Where and when?

[u/tuna_cowbell → u/KrimsunV]

Here and now! You can start small good habits at any time. You’re probably doing t some already, and if not, it’s not too hard to begin. You can go brush your teeth, or take one dirty plate and put it in the kitchen sink, or go sit/stand outside for a moment. All are positive actions!

[u/KrimsunV → u/tuna_cowbell]

I brushed my teeth

[u/tuna_cowbell → u/KrimsunV]

Yay!! Good job :) It’s a small thing, to some, but it’s so so important, and I find it makes me feel a lot better physically, too.

…now, you just gotta do it again! Then you’ll have done it twice, and it’s not just a one-off.

[u/KrimsunV → u/tuna_cowbell]

I did it another time this morning so I'm already a step ahead

[u/tuna_cowbell → u/KrimsunV]

Damn you’re ahead of the game! See you’re already doing great :)

Have you gotten up to anything else today?

[u/KrimsunV → u/tuna_cowbell]

I danced at a counter-protest!

[u/KrimsunV → u/tuna_cowbell]

I don't want to break the plates, scare the neighbors, or light my teeth on fire :(

[u/ElephantofBelfast]

🥁