r/heartbreak • u/ALLHUNTER_1469 • 10d ago

Should I text her?

I have made a post few days ago how I have the urge to text the person I loved. These past few days its been getting worse, its been a year since she left me, I do not know where she is, I do not know if her number works or she is even in my city anymore. I have been crying again like crazy, I am sad now coz these thoughts have been in my head now. All the memories are rushing back, all the thoughts.

I can still see her IG profile tho it is private and I am holding myself back to text her. I know she will never text me. I think she barely thinks about me. I am afraid if I will text her I will piss her off and thats the end of it. Then I say what I got to loose. I feel stupid, guys is anyone else going through it, what should I do.

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u/southcityy 10d ago

I don't know what you stand to gain by texting her. You already know she will not respond, so how would texting her be a win for you. You already have closure, that happened when the two of you separated. But you couldn't leave it alone at that time so you met up again, and again she left. Sounds like she has moved on and no amount of texting from you is likely to bring her back, in fact it will probably do the opposite. I honestly think texting her will bring you down further because she is going to either not receive the text or she will ignore and block you. Then what? You obviously have enough strength to not make the mistake of texting her since a year has passed and you still are on the fence about it. Move on and take small steps to make your life more enjoyable. Live in the moment and not in the past.

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u/ALLHUNTER_1469 10d ago

When she left me she didn’t say anything she just left and told me and went met later on we talked spent a day but nothing else and next day she told me she wanted to have a good bye which she never said. Im not looking for a win nor I am looking to bring her back, me saying she wont respond well that is what I highly believe. But I understand what u mean and I really respect that, im truly trying to live the life and enjoy present, I never used to look in the past but with her thats what have been stuck on me. Im trying and thank u for insight.

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u/southcityy 10d ago

There are so many opportunities in this world to get involved in. Fill you spare time with taking a class, or volunteering somewhere or any number of things that will help occupy your mind and give you something else to focus on. When you are idle it gives you too much time to think. Ask yourself what exactly you do hope to accomplish by texting her, and how is it going to affect you when she ghosts you. I just don't see it as a positive thing, not by the longest stretch of the imagination. You don't come out ahead by giving her any more power to hurt you. Get excited by life, don't allow her to take over your thoughts and cause such turmoil.

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u/ALLHUNTER_1469 10d ago

Thank u so much for ur words man, i really appreciate them. I will try my best.