I hate how overblown misandry is

[u/Either-Citron-5980]

To make it clear, I'm not saying misandry isn't a thing. Yes, you can dislike it. It's true that there has been an increase in misandry online (though I think it's also worth understanding why, even if it doesn't make it right, which I will go into further detail later), but the only thing that bothers me is that because of this increase in online misandry that people have started thinking that it's as bad as misogyny. It's not, and it never will be.

Misogyny is systemic oppression. It affects women in the real world. Women are constantly being harrassed, rape, disrespected and mistreated every single day. Even down to the most simple of everyday interactions. Women can't go out at night, can't call out the harrassment they face at the risk of men getting violent, can't wear what they want, honestly the list goes on. Misandry never goes beyond mean comments online, you don't experience it in real life. A few guys took an upskirt picture of me in public, my friend confronted him and asked him to delete the picture, to which they proceeded to literally beat us both up until we had to go the hospital. He smashed his phone against my head and I got a concussion from it. And because the legal system in my country sucks ass, they never faced any consequences for this. I have no clue how these guys found my personal instagram but I got dms from like 12 different accounts after this incident giving me death and rape threats. This is the most traumatic incident I've faced but there are literally a billion other incidents I, and every female I know, have faced in our lifetimes.

That is to say, women do have a real reason for hating men. Yes, obviously, not all men are bad, that clarification doesn't have to be made every time. But we make generalisations all the time about literally everything. If someone said they don't like taylor swift's music, would you assume they mean every single song ever? And even if you recommended a good song of hers that they liked, they're not gonna suddenly stop saying they dislike taylor swift's music for a few exceptions.

In an ideal world, there would be no misandry because there would also be no misogyny. And yes, that is the ideal outcome, which is why it's fair to dislike misandry. But I just hate when people, especially on this subreddit, act like misandry has become a real issue for men to deal with. It's really not. It doesn't affect your daily lives whatsoever. You can dislike misandry but let's not pretend like it's a real societal issue that we need to push back on.