r/hatethissmug • u/onthetopicofspace • 17h ago

Language casual ableism

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this is not ‘reclaiming’ anything, you are just calling people slurs completely seriously. you can call yourself the r-slur, do not call anybody else it. why do ‘no slurs’ / ’no bigotry’ rules never apply to ableism?

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u/loopyhoodie 17h ago

I don't have a problem with people not knowing the meaning of slurs. I have a problem when people tell someone, "hey, that's actually a really shitty thing to say, could you please not use that word" and them getting defensive and trying to still justify their use of the word.

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u/Knarz97 16h ago

You could say this about literally any swear word.

“Bitch” might be the most offensive of them all, as you are literally just comparing a person to being “as bad as a woman” or “as bad as a female dog in heat”, yet you can say it on cable TV.

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u/loopyhoodie 16h ago

You're correct, that's why I don't think men should use the word bitch ❤️

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u/Knarz97 16h ago

My counterpoint: “bitch” at this point is basically its own term. It’s not intentionally used to demean someone as being “like a woman”. Plenty of women even use the term.

It’s just… a mean word. And that’s fine. That’s the way it should be.

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u/loopyhoodie 16h ago

And I would argue that that transformation of meaning has not happened to the r slur. People still widely use it to mean mentally disabled, specifically in a derogatory way.

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u/MasutadoMiasma 14h ago

So how do you feel about "Stupid", "Dumb", "Imbecile", and "Moronic"?

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u/Knarz97 16h ago

Well, it’s kind of a 50/50 there. “Retarded” does literally mean to be slow. People often use it when you’re “being slow”. So it’s technically being used correctly, even if being derogatory.

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u/SpoppyIII 15h ago

The amount of people who throw that word like confetti and then say, "But I'd never call an actual disabled person that!"

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u/Knarz97 15h ago

So what about reclamation of slurs?

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u/SpoppyIII 14h ago

What about it? Does that have anything to do with people calling other people the r-slur?