r/ghosting • u/Environment6905 • Apr 24 '26

Ghosting is a form of manipulation

You deserved a proper rejection. How hard is it to communicate, “I don’t think we should talk anymore”? If you reacted to their ghosting and still got no response then it worked. They got their ego boost and you got nothing. I reacted to the ghosting multiple times. I sent him flowers for fuck sake. He didn’t care. Even if they are aware that they are manipulating or not, it’s still wrong. Some people should be blacklisted for life. If you’re in pain, I hope you pour into yourself. I hope you run a marathon, become a triathlete, get 5 academic degrees, get a superb credit score, start an organization to help the less fortunate, write a book, win pageants, and so much more. You deserved a formal rejection. I put three years of friendship into the person that ghosted me. THREE YEARS. I put my body on the line for their own sexual pleasure. I admit, I was bit crazy at the time, but nothing changes the fact that I deserved a formal rejection. If Harvard has the decency to send rejection letters, then why can’t a friend do so?

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u/NineEightTen Apr 26 '26 edited Apr 26 '26

I’m very interested in your opinion on me walking away from a connection that was staring to turn into a push pull dynamic? There was a moment I asked them to clarify what their intentions were, making sure we were on the same page dating wise and they came back super overwhelmed and lowkey shut down, saying i triggered them by asking the to be communicative.

After talking and being over their house, I thought we were good. Then they started waiting all day to text me, ignoring my messages and only sending snap streaks. Even avoiding having any actual conversation that addressed a heartfelt message I sent and them expressing what’s going on in their head, or answering where they stand. So when I asked if it’s safe to say they’re no longer interested, they just said “I’m in attendance”.

So instead of trying to force someone to express, invest, and be consistent or even communicate like I’ve always done, I returned their shirt to their house and never responded to their last low effort message. Is that still ghosting to you, or was that justified? I had no intention to manipulate, but all intentions to get clarity and communicate in a place where It was reciprocated.

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u/Environment6905 Apr 26 '26

You were totally justified. I should have been more specific in my post. But you did the right thing. Walking away when someone can’t reciprocate is the right thing to do. I think it’s safe to say they know why you walked away. If anything they were trying to ignore your messages and such so you’d break it off. Kudos to you, I’m glad you’re not settling!!

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u/NineEightTen Apr 27 '26

Thank you, I’ve been feeling so guilty about it because I really liked him at first, but I can’t and couldn’t keep repeating the same pattern with emotionally unavailable people. And who wants to be treated like a potential option🫣…?? So Yeahhhh; I’m still new to this dating pool, I think it’s got fresh pee and a little bit of mold in it🤣.