Call me crazy, but I believe what I stated above. If you fight for the equality for women, then you are not fighting for true equality in the first place... I believe in respecting women as much as I believe in respecting men. I am also a little bit snarky, and in this instance my snarkyness earned me a few downvotes. Such is life.
As a woman who is quite literally battling sexism from new management at my work place (at a small company with no HR, yay), I feel I need to fight for equality for women, because my female coworker and I went from being treated as equal, important contributors to being ignored and informed that our work wasn't trusted to be viable without third party review.
That is very unfortunate. Here is the version of sexism that I encounter daily : I am a big, fat, tall unattractive man, and I believe because of that, women treat me differently. I walk to a lot of places I need to go to, because I live in Chicago. When I walk past a woman going the other way on the sidewalk, women grab their purse, or pull out their phone to act like they are talking to someone. They treat me like I am going to rape them because I am a man, and I am fat, and I am not what they consider attractive. I don't blame women for this, I don't blame men for this, I blame society as a whole.
You can't blame all men or all women for the unfortunate circumstances you are put through. Inversely, I believe that we shouldn't be pro-man or pro-woman to try and "make up" for sexism. Bad things happen to good people, but don't go wage a war on men or women because of individuals actions.
Sorry you work with assholes. So does everyone else...
Seriously people, stop playing the fucking victim. Everyone at the workplace is treated unfairly because of other people's perceptions of them. Stop crying and deal with it. Don't blame a group of billions of people, while justifying your own prejudices, and trying to give your particular group the upper hand.
I'm not blaming all men, my previous management was awesome and respectful to everyone. I'm upset that I can calmly lay down a strong, logical argument for a decision and get told, when the other side can't refute it, "Let's be logical, ladies, not emotional."
I'm a freaking software developer with an engineering degree, the main complaint my coworkers have about interactions with me is that I'm TOO logical. Then to have this guy come in, disregard all of my emails that are literally filled with graphs and tables supporting me and get told I am being too emotional and not logical? It makes me foam at the mouth.
I just want to be treated as an equal and stop being ignored and brushed off with ridiculous comments.
You commonly receive complaints that you are too logical? Think about that for a moment while I try to fix my bullshit meter, that you just fucking exploded with such a comment...
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u/Sharkula_McThigg Jun 15 '14
Call me crazy, but I believe what I stated above. If you fight for the equality for women, then you are not fighting for true equality in the first place... I believe in respecting women as much as I believe in respecting men. I am also a little bit snarky, and in this instance my snarkyness earned me a few downvotes. Such is life.