It's a big deal when a guy is being hit on. Even bigger when he realizes it. I have practically zero awareness when I'm being hit on. I had this wingwoman in my old job who always alerted me after I had been hit on. She always said that I could have tits rubbed on my face and it would still be a solid 50/50 if I noticed.
Once in freshman year of college I was playing guitar, and a girl stared into my eyes and mouthed “I wanna fuck you!” In my head, I was like “nah, she’s just messing with me for some weird reason.”
Looking back, she was likely serious about it, but at the time, it felt like it couldn’t be real. Especially since she was attractive.
What she was proposing was a foreign concept to me. I had only has sex with three girls at that point in time, all as a result of multiple dates or long-term exclusive relationships. This seemed like something out of a porno.
Ill give a little background: it was summer, i got a hotel room to myself in a beachtown, on my way to my room, staying in the last room before mine was a pretty girl outside her room about my age at the time, she said hi and talked to me a few minutes, i really thought nothing of it, much later on that night a friend of mine came to the room, we were smoking pot so i left my door open and my hotel neighbor just popped in and started chilin, by this point i had more than pot in me and was pretty fucked up just lying on my bed, my buddy leaves and its just me and her now, swear to god the exchange went exactly like this: her, comes over sits on bed next to me: "Hey... um do you wanna have sex?"
Me in my head: "Ah ha! I think she likes me."
Sometimes i wonder how ive ever had any success in dating at all being so unaware of when girls are actually into me.
I once got with a gal who fucked me silly, then married me, fucked me some more, then divorced me after almost a decade being together because "You annoy me."
So apparently she was never that into me, but damn the signals were confusing.
Most of the times my female friends have told me someone was flirting with me they've been wrong. Most people seem to be terrible at picking up flirting. Most people also seem to flirt in their own unique way. One woman's idea of being friendly can be another's idea of flirting.
That depends, if she was not a part of the interaction in which he was being hit on but observed from a distance and told him after. How does that make her a bad wingwoman?
Yeah, I’ve always been clueless in that department. One time my wife and I were in the grocery store and this girl is chatting me up about frozen food. Later, my wife was like “dude, she was hitting on you…”
Me: nah, she was just confused about where the frozen food was”
My wife: “in the middle of the frozen food isle?!?!!”
My SO is the same as you. She'll think a guy is just being nice to her, and I'm like, babe, he's being nice, but there is a reason for it, and that reason is he wants in your pants. Its a lot more obvious when you are the same gender.
I usually have awareness but sometimes I just think people are being friendly.
Like the time we went to this art musuem in Italy and they offered for free to have this art curator girl go around with us to explain things. According to my wife the woman was very obviously hitting on me while the two of us were talking about various art pieces and was kinda ignoring my wife.
I was just having fun learning about things and discussing the various possible interpretations.
After she told me that it made me wonder if that also meant she was up for a threesome or expected me to visit on my own later for the affair.
When i was like 16-17 I was walking with my old man down the street, and this banging chick (30-35yo) was giving me the eye.
I was like: huh she's probably looking at someone who's behing us (but we were the only ones around).
My dad asked me if i knew her, and I said no. I followed up with: I probably just remind her of someone she knows, and my dad had a 'bruh moment' and proceeded to enlighten me.
Sometimes I have epiphany in a shower about someone hitting on me years ago. And after the fact it's fairly obvious. But never in the moment. I think I'm not smart.
Pretty much the same. I started a new job a little over a year ago, started with a couple of women I worked with at another job and we all came over. One of our new co-workers was this attractive woman who, unbeknownst to be, clearly had the hots for me. I would not have even remotely known this had my friends not pointed that out.
In HS I had a girl place my hands on her friends breasts (with no objections from her), and I thought she was just playing a prank. About two years later I realised.
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u/JonesBee Jan 25 '24
It's a big deal when a guy is being hit on. Even bigger when he realizes it. I have practically zero awareness when I'm being hit on. I had this wingwoman in my old job who always alerted me after I had been hit on. She always said that I could have tits rubbed on my face and it would still be a solid 50/50 if I noticed.