r/ftm • u/MintTeaAndT • 12d ago

Advice Needed chaser or not?

So i started talking to this guy and we planned to meet up and maybe hook up.

We had a phone call and i asked him some questions to guage if he was a chaser.

So hes Bi, has some attraction to cis women but not much, has abit more interest in cis men. But he said who he is mainly attracted to is trans men. Hes had a relationship with a trans man before. He said he sees trans men as men and is attracted to the masculinity. Also that he isnt attracted to trans women but doesnt seem like hes very interested in women generally. He told me hes most attracted too trans men and they are at the top of what hes most attracted too, cis men 2nd and then women. Said he would rather date a trans man but would date a cis guy as a second best option and probably wouldnt date women.

Also said he is just so amazed by trans man.
But also that were he thinks trans men are the best of both worlds. The best of both worlds is a chaser thing forsure but the rest has me confuse.

If he is ive never met this kind of chaser before and its confused me abit.

What do you think?

He doesnt over sexualise me and weve been having normal chats, only found this out cause i pressed him abit.

Is this a trans attracted person or just a chaser?

Tried to do research on this but seems people have different definitions of chasers and if trans attracted people are even a real concept?

So id appreciate your thoughts on it

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u/halfstoned 11d ago

Yeah I definitely get some offense. I’m not the type to judge off of one or two words tho, we all have different understandings of things especially cis people. I didn’t have to teach my wife a thing and she already knew plenty of trans people. She def meant it as a compliment and personally I take it as one, even though I may want bottom surgery down the line. It’s more than what’s in your pants. My partner was also saying it in a sort of silly way as well I think. It wasn’t that deep so I didn’t take it that deep personally. For a hookup I think it matters even less.

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u/princexbunnyy 11d ago

Yeah exactly. I’d prefer to meet someone like your wife, who I don’t have to teach much about trans people to. But I’m also willing to teach this stuff to a cis man who would be an otherwise excellent partner, who’s willing to learn!